seriously thinking of leaving

KittyKate

Well done HM! Sounds like things are really on the up, and you are debt free! Hopefully with your money concerns lessened you can concentrate on you, your daughter and your relationship. *Hugs!*

floss2

Pleased to hear you've managed to make him understand how his behaviour made you feel - first OH, then work - you'll be giving "Don't be a doormat" lectures to the rest of the world next!

*zippy*

HM thanks for posting, so pleased things have got better for you and your hubby is making an effort to change, hope it continues and you can both make a go of it. Do keep in mind that if hubby has some issues that has made him like this councelling can be really helpful to work through them.

love
zippy x :grouphug:

Squiggly_Diddly

Oh HM, I am so relieved you are ok!!!!! :-)

And pleased to hear that you are feeling much more confident & stronger, enough to be able to sit him down & tell him exactly how you feel. Perhaps the realisation that you were about to leave has shaken him up...? Stay strong :-)

And congratulations on getting rid of those debts too - perhaps you can both make a fresh start now - with him realising it is an equal partnership & you both have an equal say... And of course, his daughter will benefit from her dad showing an interest & spending time with her :-) He may find he enjoys that time alone with her much more than he imagined he would too...

Perhaps you could put what you have already told him in a letter, not necessarily to give him now, but to keep should things start to slide in the future - not saying they will, but as a 'just in case' either for you to look at & boost your confidence, or to give him to read & remind him of why there were problems before?

Again, I am so pleased that things seem to be working out for you & that you have an ally in his mother now too - there's strength in numbers!!

squiggly
xx

Shineyhappy

hiya!! I am so pleased that you posted to let us know that you are ok and things are getting better!

I really hope you can make your marriage work, but whether it does or not, remember there is always someone on here that can be a shoulder to cry on or that might need your shoulder.

I hope you keep posting

taka

Hi HM. I'm glad things are going better for you. You sound as if you are a strong woman who now has the courage to stand up for yourself and your loved ones! Its a great feeling isn't it? You relationship now sounds so much more like the partnership it should be and I hope that continues . I'm glad you are ok! :T

SarahNeedle1872

Hi HM,

I'm glad things are looking better for u, that OH is taking more of an interest in ur daughter.... and that he has given u some money.
U sound like u are a very strong woman, and I hope that continues, and that ur relationship continues to grow

Sarah x

mrsspendalot

well done for standing up to him - might have just been the push he needed! I hope things continue to improve for you, and that you will now feel able to voice an opinion and push for what you believe in.

notanothergreyhair

hannahsmummy1 wrote: »

ive just had enough of being a doormat to other people

*speaking in outrageously camp voice* You go girlfriend!!!!!

Seriously though, glad to hear that things are changing for the better for you HM; seeing that you are ok has brightened by day immeasurably.

LJD1_2

Well done on standing up for yourself. I know it can't have been easy but hopefully you now realise you're a somebody and no one should treat you like anything else. Good on you xxxxxx