Accepting financial help or not

Pollycat

gwen80 wrote: »

I've just spoken to Dad again briefly about this and he is adamant he wants me to have it. I just said to him 'Is it fair?' and he said 'It is fair'. I honestly suspect my brother will have had more, but I can't be sure and I can't do anything about it.

I agree with Mojisola. You seem to be making your Dad work very hard to give you money.

Do you have self-esteem issues that makes you feel that you don't deserve the same (or even less!) than your brother?

I can't see what business it is of yours how much money your Dad has given your brother.

I can't see what business it is of your brother (or his wife) how much money your Dad gives to you.

I can't see what you want to do about it.

Georgiegirl256

The only one creating problems here is you! You're making it hard for your Dad. He has offered you the money, take it and stop overthinking it.

oldtractor

Take the money it will please your Dad.

scubaqueen

take the gift in the spirit it is intended. If you don't and your aunt and uncle still have it in their names, then when their time comes, it will become part of their estate and maybe neither you nor your brother will ever see it. It's even more important if your father ever remarries.

jscott05

Forget SIL none of her business what a father gives to his daughter. Your dad seem's like he would help his family when needed really hope i am in that kind of position when my kids need it. Take the money better your dad see's you get on in life then end up getting it in his will.