problems with sons and daughters

pleasedelete

red_devil wrote: »

Son dosent seem to want a family life. He prefers going to raves with friends when not working. He dosent seem to interact with anyone unless they are his age and like the things he does music and raves.

he could have go on holifays with family and attended many get togethers and had a good family life but he opts out.

little bit selfish but there you go.

Normal not selfish at all.

No More selfish than to expect adult children to give up their precious time off to be with their family on holiday.

nearlyrich

My parents are both gone but I used to see my mum several times a week and phone her in between. My two I see fairly regularly my job and theirs permitting DS is working abroad and DD lives local but has a shift job plus I go away a lot for work. We text, face time and speak on the phone regularly and next week we all get together for the first time since March...looking forward to it.

Buzzybee90

whodathunkit wrote: »

I can't think of many young people who'd choose to go to a family get together rather than socialise with friends their own age. As for going on holiday with your parents when you're an adult, not many people would want to do that at any age!

Really? My family are the most important, I love seeing them.

Tamara_2

My dad died almost 30 years ago (he was quite young at the time), but I see my mum who lives about 8 miles away two or three times a week and I phone her most days. DH and I lived down south for many years until I finally managed to persuade him to move back to the area where I was born and brought up (cheaper housing!). All my extended family are still here, although I don't see them all, by any means. One of my sisters is local, one lives abroad, and, along with my mum, we're a tight unit and very, very close. Possibly because my dad died when we were all pretty young, and we had to pull together.

FatVonD

I agree that Red Devil's son's attitude is entirely normal for a teenager, there comes a point when a free house is more valuable to them than any holiday with family. My eldest DSS even opted out of a holiday abroad with his mum and step dad after it had been paid for :eek:

Back on topic, I used to see my parents maybe once a month at the most, even though I adored my dad and would have loved to have seen him more, because my mum can be a difficult woman and I hated the way my mum spoke to my dad.

Ironically since my dad died I've had to be supportive of my mum and I now see her once a week and speak most days and we get on better as she's less full on and my dad's not there for her to shout or snap at

whodathunkit

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Really? My family are the most important, I love seeing them.

You can think your family important and love them enormously but still prefer to go to a friend's stag night over an evening spent with all the aunties.

Ziggazee

I haven't spoken with my mother for 25 years now. Unfortunately for her she's the most vindictive, self centred, narcissistic person I've ever had the misfortune to meet. She made my teenage years a living hell with her controlling attitude and her emotional/physical abuse. She did me the biggest favour every when she told me to leave her home at 17 years of age. I'm still at a loss as to why a parent would do that.....I had a good job, didn't drink, smoke or take drugs......a bit lippy as all teenagers are.

The abuse I suffered from her has made me a very different parent to the one she was. I love my son with all my heart. I look at him now at 16 years of age (the age when my mother was making my life an absolute hell) and my heart just bursts with love for him.

I'll never understand why she treat me the way she did but I can honestly say there is no room in my life for her and there never will be.

Buzzybee90

whodathunkit wrote: »

You can think your family important and love them enormously but still prefer to go to a friend's stag night over an evening spent with all the aunties.

Of course, personally I'd always chose the family get together.

pleasedelete

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Of course, personally I'd always chose the family get together.

You don't say how old you are - most teenagers/under 25s wouldn't prefer this but also most wouldn't post on MSE. So you may not be typical!

Buzzybee90

pleasedelete wrote: »

You don't say how old you are - most teenagers/under 25s wouldn't prefer this but also most wouldn't post on MSE. So you may not be typical!

I'm in my early 20s. There's more of us than you think