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Selling engagement ring

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  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,940 Forumite
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    Peater wrote: »
    Would the details justify the reason for the theft to you or are you just prying?

    I think you need to check the definition of the word 'theft'.

    The ring was given to the OP.
  • hazyjo
    hazyjo Posts: 15,475 Forumite
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    Peater wrote: »
    If he'd bought you a car to use, then you broke up, it wouldn't be your car to sell.


    Why not? If it was a gift, then it was a gift. Full stop. If it was his car and he let you use it, then, no, it wouldn't be 'hers' to sell.

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  • BucksLady wrote: »
    I'm not sure I would be able to sell the ring - despite the circumstances - would feel that the money was tainted. Not sure what I would do with it though.

    Give it to charity or pay off some utilty bills, doesnt have to buy something significant then it won't retain any "memory" but will still be made use of, if that makes sense...
  • tea_lover
    tea_lover Posts: 8,261 Forumite
    Peater wrote: »
    Would the details justify the reason for the theft to you or are you just prying?

    It's not theft to sell a gift you've been given.
  • Ransoman
    Ransoman Posts: 87 Forumite
    Pollycat wrote: »
    I think you need to check the definition of the word 'theft'.

    The ring was given to the OP.

    Was it though?

    If a man presents a ring to a woman and says "Will you marry me?". He is saying, as per the tradition, Will you promise to marry me and accept this as a token of the promise. If the promise is broken NO MATTER who is at fault, the ring should be returned.

    If you want to be less emotional about it, replace the word promise with Contract.

    He did not say. "I am gifting you this ring... here take it..... can we get married?"

    I am not defending any man that cheats. That is not on. But no woman should justify keeping the ring for themselves, either morally, ethically or legally.

    Please take the high ground and just return it, if it is any satisfaction to you, if the man has a concious, he will be upset by the return of the ring and it may even hit home his mistake.
  • tea_lover
    tea_lover Posts: 8,261 Forumite
    Ransoman wrote: »
    Was it though?

    If a man presents a ring to a woman and says "Will you marry me?". He is saying, as per the tradition, Will you promise to marry me and accept this as a token of the promise. If the promise is broken NO MATTER who is at fault, the ring should be returned.

    If you want to be less emotional about it, replace the word promise with Contract.

    I am not defending any man that cheats. That is not on. But no woman should justify keeping the ring for themselves, either morally, ethically or legally.

    Please take the high ground and just return it, if it is any satisfaction to you, if the man has a concious, he will be upset by the return of the ring and it may even hit home his mistake.

    That's not the legal position in this country.
  • Ransoman
    Ransoman Posts: 87 Forumite
    tea_lover wrote: »
    That's not the legal position in this country.

    And that is what is wrong with this country. You can do anything you want no matter how moraly wrong it is, just because it is legal.

    This forum is full of people who have been ripped off by loan companies, utilities companies etc etc. and they are hurt and upset but what these companies do is LEGAL. Does that justify their actions?

    I don't give a flying pig what is legal. Do what is moraly right. you will be a better person for it and this country might eventually be a better place.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,940 Forumite
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    Ransoman wrote: »
    Was it though?

    If a man presents a ring to a woman and says "Will you marry me?". He is saying, as per the tradition, Will you promise to marry me and accept this as a token of the promise. If the promise is broken NO MATTER who is at fault, the ring should be returned.

    If you want to be less emotional about it, replace the word promise with Contract.

    He did not say. "I am gifting you this ring... here take it..... can we get married?"

    I am not defending any man that cheats. That is not on. But no woman should justify keeping the ring for themselves, either morally, ethically or legally.

    Tea Lover has already responded on this part of your post.
    Ransoman wrote: »
    Please take the high ground and just return it, if it is any satisfaction to you, if the man has a concious, he will be upset by the return of the ring and it may even hit home his mistake.

    As for this sentence, I doubt that - given what the OP says in her first post - her ex actually has a conscience. smiley-rolleyes010.gif
    parrotbay wrote: »
    Just found out my ex was the biggest b***ard ever. The ring needs to be sold and the proceeds put towards something magnificent. Tips on how to get a good price and how I will ever trust a living soul again will be very much appreciated

    Sorry I'm slightly raged:mad:
  • Wickedkitten
    Wickedkitten Posts: 1,868 Forumite
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    Yeah, it's not like in the US
    (2)The gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it
    should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.

    http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1970/33/pdfs/ukpga_19700033_en.pdf
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  • tea_lover
    tea_lover Posts: 8,261 Forumite
    Ransoman wrote: »
    But no woman should justify keeping the ring for themselves, either morally, ethically or legally.
    Ransoman wrote: »
    And that is what is wrong with this country. You can do anything you want no matter how moraly wrong it is, just because it is legal.

    Make your mind up.
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