Selling engagement ring

rpc

mynameisclare wrote: »

It was a gift, therefore it belongs to the OP to do with as she wishes. I don't see how that is a "wrong".

You can find plenty of legal opinions and even some caselaw on this.

Was it an absolute gift? Or was it a conditional gift?

If it was a conditional gift and the condition (marriage) has not been satisfied then there is a case for return of the gift.

If the gift was given absolutely then there is no case for its return.

Most people don't actually care. It can be different where, for example, the ring is an heirloom or has sentimental value.

Tashatutuw

rpc wrote: »

You can find plenty of legal opinions and even some caselaw on this.

Was it an absolute gift? Or was it a conditional gift?

If it was a conditional gift and the condition (marriage) has not been satisfied then there is a case for return of the gift.

If the gift was given absolutely then there is no case for its return.

Most people don't actually care. It can be different where, for example, the ring is an heirloom or has sentimental value.

I agree in a case where is a family heirloom but I would honestly DARE any man out there to ask for a ring back from a scorned woman. It would probably be more than his life is worth. If a man who did the dirty on me in anyway which was enough for me to break an engagement asked for the ring back I would exchange it for another precious item of his person. :rotfl:

Soleil_lune

I currently know of a family where the man spent £4K on an engagement ring earlier this year (about 5 months ago,) and the relationship broke up recently. He cheated on her, on a one night stand, and can't understand why she can't just 'let it go,' because 'it meant nothing.'

They'd been together 5 years, and the wedding was meant to be next spring, and it's all off, and now he wants the ring back. Apparently, he is paying for it over 4 years. (About a hundred pounds a month.)

More fool him, for spending such a stupid and ridiculous amount on a ring, and even more fool him for going into debt for it over 4 years!

Last I heard, she had found a buyer for the ring - she is selling it for £2.5K and is going to either put it towards a new car, or a cruise. :cool:

Pollycat

Soleil_lune wrote: »

More fool him, for spending such a stupid and ridiculous amount on a ring, and even more fool him for going into debt for it over 4 years!

And I'd add
"more fool him for not keeping it in his trousers on a night out".

Peater

I think you are doing womankind a disservice in this thread if i'm honest.

It's materialistic and stinks of money-grabbing. Neither are attractive qualities.

If he'd bought you a car to use, then you broke up, it wouldn't be your car to sell.

Peccary

A friend of mine had all the jewellery given to her by her cheating ex broken up and made into a new piece.

ska_lover

Pondering how one person can speak for the entirety of 'womankind' ..erm, they cannot. (ref post 26)

Sell the goddamn ring - squander the money on something you won't have to look at every day, a holiday, a night out.

Tell us, what did this piece of filth do, OP?

Peater

ska_lover wrote: »

Tell us, what did this piece of filth do, OP?

Would the details justify the reason for the theft to you or are you just prying?

purpleshoes_2

Peater wrote: »

Would the details justify the reason for the theft to you or are you just prying?

How is something theft when its been given to someone? Its not theft. I imagine in many cases when people break up the person who gave it wont want the item returned.

BucksLady

I'm not sure I would be able to sell the ring - despite the circumstances - would feel that the money was tainted. Not sure what I would do with it though.