Is he moving too fast?

tillyenna

I would consider letting him know that you have issues with physical contact - I'm in a similar position to you, and have had to explain to quite a few friends that no, I don't hug people hello and goodbye, and no I don't even want a hug if I'm crying - in fact it's likely to make it worse.


That might make him back off a bit, and if you don't want to explain why, you can always say 'look, it's something really personal, maybe when we know each other a little better I'll be able to share with you'

Zully

If you both consider yourself to be in a relationship, I don't see the issue of him calling you his "wifey" would you prefer "ball and chain"? the conversation was likely to be jokey banter with him and his mates, if the pair of you don't consider yourself in a relationship, then its a little odd.


If things are going too fast for you, then you need to talk to him, communication is key, personally after 3 weeks I would have made a move if I felt there was chemistry, personally I think this chap is a bit of a star for respecting your boundaries and NOT making a move, he obviously respects your wishes, just my 2 cents...

ManofLeisure_2

Is he moving too fast?

Quite honestly, the only person that can answer this question is yourself.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

I think he'd be moving too fast if you were living in the 1920s and from some well-to-family, a bit like Downton Abbey, say. Where you have to be chaperoned around by your parents and can't reveal so much as your ankle without being labelled a harlett or something like that. But as it's 2014 I think it's not exactly a crime for him to want to hold your hand. Also why don't you try going out for a drink with him rather than dating him in a gym?

FBaby

Delree wrote: »

Two speed relationships usually end in tears

Doesn't have to be. Depends on age, how much you know exactly what you are looking for, and whether the person happen to be 'the one'. I knew OH works be the man I would want to marry on your first meeting. It started very quickly but we didn't rush into marriage.

geminilady

I think you should talk to the guy,if you don't communicate it makes any relationship hard.Ask him straight out why he called you "wife "to his friend and if you don't like the pet names tell him.As to holding hands I don't see anything wrong but if you are not comfortable with it tell him.Make sure you tell him you do like him though or he may feel you are just not "into"him.

marisco_2

whodathunkit wrote: »

Not my reading of it at all - I'm afraid it's the OP's attitude that I find weird.

To my mind the OP doesn't have a questionable attitude to this situation. She just comes across as feeling uneasy, around a person who appears to move faster when in a new relationship, than she would like to.

Talk with this guy OP. Unless he knows how you feel, you aren't giving him any chance to adjust how he talks to, and conducts himself around you. If you don't feel able to do that then you have to wonder if you two are really very compatible.

Alisha2008

Personally I think you are moving too slow!! But if it's too fast for you , it's too fast, full stop. Just talk to him...

susieq87

Zully wrote: »

If you both consider yourself to be in a relationship, I don't see the issue of him calling you his "wifey" would you prefer "ball and chain"? the conversation was likely to be jokey banter with him and his mates, if the pair of you don't consider yourself in a relationship, then its a little odd.


If things are going too fast for you, then you need to talk to him, communication is key, personally after 3 weeks I would have made a move if I felt there was chemistry, personally I think this chap is a bit of a star for respecting your boundaries and NOT making a move, he obviously respects your wishes, just my 2 cents...

we havent established a relationship unless this is an unspoken thing that i'm just supposed to know which i dont to be honest. after two proper dates i need maybe a couple more to determine if i can be in a relationship with him. perhaps he will make his move next time which i'm not ready for! *runs*
yeah, i need to talk to him :rotfl:

susieq87

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

I think he'd be moving too fast if you were living in the 1920s and from some well-to-family, a bit like Downton Abbey, say. Where you have to be chaperoned around by your parents and can't reveal so much as your ankle without being labelled a harlett or something like that. But as it's 2014 I think it's not exactly a crime for him to want to hold your hand. Also why don't you try going out for a drink with him rather than dating him in a gym?

we did on wednesday and that when the hand holding, phone call and calling me baby happened.