Is he moving too fast?

System

he's just trying to make an impression on you. At least he's making an effort.

geerex

susieq87 wrote: »

nope, havent even kissed yet either. although i must say he hasn't tried *phew*

Sorry, my question may have appeared flippant. As a man, I was going for the angle of intimacy=commitment (yes, it's a caveman view). If you've not even done that, then he's being WAY too forward.

Proceed with caution.

Delree

Might be worth explaining these things to him. I had a girlfriend last year who moved at a snails pace and refused to talk about it. She didn't even want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend and kept me a secret from her friends and family. I finished with her and only then did she explain the issues that she was working with. It was too late I'd found somene else.

My point is, talk to him when he starts to get miffed or you'll lose him when he gets fed up. If my ex had talked we'd still be together.

purpleshoes_2

susieq87 wrote: »

nope, havent even kissed yet either. although i must say he hasn't tried *phew*

I think if as you say it took you 6 months to kiss your ex and you have intimacy issues, maybe you need to work on these (Im not assuming that you aren't), because it can't be very nice being in a relationship where you don't want someone to kiss you and on the other side of the coin, you have someone who is very understanding, if it takes you 6 months to kiss them, like you and your ex.

BucksLady

I would be quite concerned if I was with someone who told a friend (or anyone) they were with their wife - when they clearly weren't. I just hope there isn't one :eek:

susieq87

purpleshoes wrote: »

I think if as you say it took you 6 months to kiss your ex and you have intimacy issues, maybe you need to work on these (Im not assuming that you aren't), because it can't be very nice being in a relationship where you don't want someone to kiss you and on the other side of the coin, you have someone who is very understanding, if it takes you 6 months to kiss them, like you and your ex.

this doesnt happen all the time, he is an extreme example. usually it takes me about 3-4 dates before i sum up the courage to go in for a kiss and maybe a few dates after that to do the nasty.
once i've done it the first time im very affectionate

RancidM

He is a nutter
run for the hills

millysg1

Personally, I wouldn't like the "baby" names but that's in general, no matter how long a relationship has gone on.

I don't think its a too fast thing, im my opinion. They seem harmless enough because some people like that type of affection and some (like me) don't.

You've got to decide if it is something you are comfortable with and if it isn't, then tell him that. You don't enjoy being called those baby names nor hand holding. Its the way you are I would expect someone to understand that.

Hopefully as time goes on you will feel more comfortable with it an initiate that progress as you feel its workings.

millysg1

and im not sure how I feel about the "wife" comment. Might just be a joke! or it could mean more. Hard to tell at the moment, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt for now.

SailorSam

geerex wrote: »

Have you done the dirty with him yet?

Condidering what the Op is asking and what every other post on this thread has said, that's a pretty stupid question.