Sharing/conflict resolution at nursery school?

balletshoes

notanewuser wrote: »

Reading that has put me in a cold sweat. Would love to see whether any of the advocates of these practices in schools could give justification for them.

(I'm STILL waiting for someone to give a single benefit of it other than knowing when to stand/sit during the lord's prayer.)

it doesn't matter what anyone on this forum thinks though NANU, the debate (if you decide to have it) is with the governing body of your daughter's school. They are the only ones who can tell you, in their opinion, the benefit of the prayer times they conduct.

onlyroz

notanewuser wrote: »

Reading that has put me in a cold sweat. Would love to see whether any of the advocates of these practices in schools could give justification for them.

(I'm STILL waiting for someone to give a single benefit of it other than knowing when to stand/sit during the lord's prayer.)

I spoke to the deputy head about that particular assembly and she seemed to think that the resurrection was a perfectly acceptable topic for a primary school assembly.

I have thought long and hard about whether to withdraw the kids from assembly, and so far I've resisted it. However, I did withdraw my son from the Christmas carol service - it was held in the church and was lead by the very same vicar that my daughter is now petrified of. I asked the school if it was just going to be a few songs, or if it was a full-blown service with prayers and bible readings - and the teachers ummed and ahhed, and basically didn't know. So I took the safest option and said that I wasn't happy with him participating.

Mojisola

notanewuser wrote: »

(I'm STILL waiting for someone to give a single benefit of it other than knowing when to stand/sit during the lord's prayer.)

And I find it sad that the Christians on here don't have enough empathy to understand why people who aren't in their club want to be able to have some control over what their children are exposed to at school.

quidsy

lostinrates wrote: »

I don't have kids, but it am a micro manager, and I struggle in life when I let that aspect reign.

I don't think there is anything wrong with accepting our less positive traits along side our good ones. It lets us know where we have to guard against our selves for our interests and the interests of those around us. Micro managers often get the flip side of being hard workers, driven and having excellent attention to detail. Knowing when to say....good enough is good enough is a thing we have to learn. As a kick back against perfectionism I'm not trying to train out this aspect of myself, cos, ironically, it would be feeding into the micromanaging perfectionism! One cannot win with that one.

I never the said the kid was a micro manager, the mother seems to be trying to micromanage the childs life to the point where she is concerned about her going to school where their curriculum & bel0ief system doesn't suit her. That leaves, find another school, or to homeschool & restrict your childs access to the outside world. But basically kids will & should be, exposed to all different kinds of people, views, religions in order to allow them to make their own choices & also how to interact with people of many levels.

lostinrates

quidsy wrote: »

I never the said the kid was a micro manager, the mother seems to be trying to micromanage the childs life to the point where she is concerned about her going to school where their curriculum & bel0ief system doesn't suit her. That leaves, find another school, or to homeschool & restrict your childs access to the outside world. But basically kids will & should be, exposed to all different kinds of people, views, religions in order to allow them to make their own choices & also how to interact with people of many levels.

I agree, you didn't say the little girl was a micr manager, I was pointing out that my comments were made as a non parent. I also agree that exposure in general is good. Have to say, I'd be upset, Christian or not, had my child been moved to tears in an assembly depending on how it were handled. ( I also remember tears at school in assemblies delivered by PETA, animal aid and liberty and a view other things...but we were encouraged to feel strongly and empathise with other faith groups, and had a mixed faith student body) I deliberately did not put in context with any of my thoughts about nanu because I don't think they are helpful, but hoped my positive stance on personality 'flaws' might help her feel a little less on the defensive.

Mojisola

quidsy wrote: »

But basically kids will & should be, exposed to all different kinds of people, views, religions in order to allow them to make their own choices & also how to interact with people of many levels.

And that's as it should be.

What shouldn't be happening is that one religion is given dominance and that the children aren't just told about that religion but expected to join in with its practises as part of the school day.

quidsy

Mojisola wrote: »

And I find it sad that the Christians on here don't have enough empathy to understand why people who aren't in their club want to be able to have some control over what their children are exposed to at school.

The op chose this school, she has a choice in whether her child attends this particular school or not. She also has the choice in excluding her child from the pray & RE lessons if she wants but she cannot expect the school to change & others have pointed out that the exclusion may have a detrimental effect on the child amoungst her peers.

One boy at mys sons Christian based school was Muslim, his parents didn't like that the school didn't offer halal food at lunch so moved him to a different fee paying, multi denominational school who did after 2 years. They didn't ask the school the change for them, so whilst there he would have vegetarian option for lunch, they were happy for him to be part of the harvest festival & he was joseph in nativity one year but they made the choice to move him to suit their beliefs once he got a bit older. The op also has this choice.

quidsy

Mojisola wrote: »

And that's as it should be.

What shouldn't be happening is that one religion is given dominance and that the children aren't just told about that religion but expected to join in with its practises as part of the school day.

but that is what THIS school offers. There are other mixed demonination schools that might be a better fit for the op.

Mojisola

quidsy wrote: »

The op chose this school, she has a choice in whether her child attends this particular school or not.

One boy at mys sons Christian based school was Muslim, his parents didn't like that the school didn't offer halal food at lunch so moved him to a different fee paying, multi denominational school who did.

This isn't a faith based school - it's the local state school!

The state schools should not be promoting one faith over others.

notanewuser

quidsy wrote: »

I never the said the kid was a micro manager, the mother seems to be trying to micromanage the childs life to the point where she is concerned about her going to school where their curriculum & bel0ief system doesn't suit her. That leaves, find another school, or to homeschool & restrict your childs access to the outside world. But basically kids will & should be, exposed to all different kinds of people, views, religions in order to allow them to make their own choices & also how to interact with people of many levels.

It's actually the opposite. I want DD to have the freedom to explore everything life has to offer. She's not being given that option if she's being forced to pray to one particular deity.

Homeschooling actually offers the opportunity to explore more of the world. But hey, don't feel you need to understand something before commenting negatively on it.