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  • whitewing
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    This is a great article

    http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/09/24/12-things-my-grandmother-told-me-before-she-died/

    Breathe in the future, breathe out the past. No matter where you are or what you’re going through, always believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand. Just do your best, control the elements you can control, and then let it be. Because once you have done what you can, if it is meant to be, it will happen, or it will show you the next step that needs to be taken.

    If you’re looking for a happy ending and can’t seem to find one, maybe it’s time to start looking for a new beginning.
    Brush yourself off and accept that you have to fail from time to time. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there – the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile – are the same people who have fought the toughest battles. They’re smiling because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re moving on to a new beginning.

    WaS, are you and your partner married or thinking about getting married? (Feel free to ignore, if it's not the right time).
    :heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
  • haybel19
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    DUKE wrote: »
    WaS I was confused when you mentioned good voices as I always imagined that voices would be bad. Now I know that the good voice can beat the bad voice (did I get that right?), there's hope for Harry & everyone with voices :j

    I've no idea who quoted this but this is for everyone out there with voices

    ''I wouldn't change you for the world
    But I'd change the world for you''



    What a beautiful quote. I will remember that. Thank you.
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  • Waves_and_Smiles
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    edited 17 July 2014 at 8:57PM
    Some people have their voices lessen or even stop, whitewing if they manage to get the psychosis under control. I do think that mine stop sometimes but thinking of them immediately causes them to start talking to I am never sure if they were quiet or I just wasn't paying attention. It does turn into a background drone after a while.

    Funny you should mention marriage as we mentioned it the other day in regards to my finding somewhere to live when the new landlord takes over.

    Partner- Would it be easier if we got married?
    Me- Doesn't make any difference
    Partner- Ok let me know if it would
    Me- No problem

    We are the last of the great romantics.

    We have never really considered marriage for very different reasons. In my partners case he has been married before and to say it ended disastrously is an understatement. There was much bitterness on both sides and he decided he would never marry again. He has changed his mind on that though.

    In my case I picture standing in front of crowd (or two witnesses is bad enough), people looking at me, trying to remember the correct time to talk with voices mumbling in my head and an awful lot of pressure while I panic. I could be the first bride with a blanket rather than a veil!

    But, we aren't against marriage and have discussed if it would be useful in a practical sense on several occasions. About the only thing that would make us really consider it is if his mother wanted us to do it. She has never said she does but if she asked we both may have to have a rethink. As far as commitment goes we have been together for 24 years in August so we don't really find it necessary for that. Neither of us are religious so that isn't a reason for us either and of course, we never had children. As for rings I wear his old wedding ring. Again being oh, so romantic, he was glad to get rid of it because it has bad memories and me wearing it makes them slightly better, and I thought it was a really pretty ring.

    However, I want a wedding dress! As silly as it sounds I have always wanted since being a child. I have a vague idea of one day organising an unofficial wedding for us where we both dress up, share some vows that we have written and then sit down with a buffet for two, a wedding cake and champagne. Perhaps one day...
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  • haybel19
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    whitewing wrote: »
    This is a great article

    http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/09/24/12-things-my-grandmother-told-me-before-she-died/

    Breathe in the future, breathe out the past. No matter where you are or what you’re going through, always believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand. Just do your best, control the elements you can control, and then let it be. Because once you have done what you can, if it is meant to be, it will happen, or it will show you the next step that needs to be taken.

    If you’re looking for a happy ending and can’t seem to find one, maybe it’s time to start looking for a new beginning.
    Brush yourself off and accept that you have to fail from time to time. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there – the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile – are the same people who have fought the toughest battles. They’re smiling because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re moving on to a new beginning.

    WaS, are you and your partner married or thinking about getting married? (Feel free to ignore, if it's not the right time).



    Love this thanks for sharing. I will try and remember this when my anxiety or OCD is bad. Thankfully I am much better than I used to be - but I love stuff like this which I find very helpful on a bad day.
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  • whitewing
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    Sounds like a plan for your beach party!

    What size are you?

    (I imagine this thread is a bit like your voices. I answer without quoting you and then someone else posts in the meantime making my comments look random, lol)
    :heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
  • Size 14 on the bottom and errr 18 on the top. I have always been rather developed up there, by the age of 13 I was 32 D! It does tend to make dresses rather difficult so finding one could be an effort!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • whitewing
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    I have to say that I love being married. I live with DH before we married but it feels different to me. Much more liberating actually, it's like there is someone there rooting for me all the time. (He was before we were married but it still feels different).
    :heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
  • whitewing
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    :heartsmil When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of "Me too!" be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your true family.
  • Perhaps I would feel that way too. I get the feeling my partner would think he has stepped back into Hell again though. His broken marriage had a very bad affect on him. Nothing that awful happened incidentally, they met very young and got married very quickly and then grew apart. But it wasn't a nice split at all and he is a big softie. He wasn't over it when we first met, I used to spend drunken evenings with him while he told me about it. Personally, I think that they were both as bad as each other and no one was really to blame but I don't dare say that!
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • dibuzz
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    Size 14 on the bottom and errr 18 on the top. I have always been rather developed up there, by the age of 13 I was 32 D! It does tend to make dresses rather difficult so finding one could be an effort!

    So it's you who got my share then :rotfl:
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