Just needed to be heard for a little while

Waves_and_Smiles

I am learning a lot from it too. Although I know how mental health issues apply to me I am still learning so much from how other people cope with the same and different conditions. Plus I love how we all talk about other things, too. It is so nice to be able to chat about ordinary, everyday things and learn about people's interests, it goes a long way towards making me feel part of society that I have never had before.

seven-day-weekend

I have told my husband about my posting on this thread. He totally understands and in fact when I told him the link to the CBT therapy was from here, it made him more inclined to try it.

He was SO angry yesterday. Not with me, but around me. Angry about people close to us, angry about what someone had posted on Facebook, incensed every time Alex Salmond or Ed Miliband came on the TV. Eventually yesterday evening he said 'I've got to do something about it haven't I?' and we were able to talk properly about it. Thank goodness!

We've agreed that it almost certainly won't go away, but we have to try to manage it. I've said that if it has not gone away in a couple of weeks then he must go to the Docs. We're going to look at the CBT therapy together next week when we are back home (dogsitting away from home atm).

So thanks again for the support on here.

Hope you all are having a good night's sleep!

(I too am learning an awful lot from this thread ).

System

Update on the small fishing expideition

It went far better than expected, have bee talking to a guy i'd actually been messaging before the other one, and we've moved into skype and texting and he really is a breath of fresh air, we seem a lot more compatible we are going on a date on sunday so i'm pretty happy right now. No rushing into things but i have a gut feeling about this one :eek:

Shall keep you updated!

Also WaS i want to say thank you for starting this thread and sharing your life with us all, and letting us get to know you. I honestly do think of all of you here so dearly, i love this thread and each and every one of you are amazing, thank you for accepting me into the WaS family

Waves_and_Smiles

It is really good that your husband understands that he is becoming overly distressed and can acknowledge that, SDW. Half the battle is realising that a difficulty exists before one can tackle it head on. It is definitely worth trying the CBT therapy and if you can look through it together that is even better. He is very lucky to have such support from you.

Oooh, exciting, MU! I can't wait to hear all about it! Remember to keep yourself safe but above all have a wonderful time!

whitewing

Penguin - antidepressants




I have been on anti-depressants for the past 4 years or so. They helped enormously with the anger/irritability. I started on mirtazapine and my DH said that he saw a difference within a week (I didn't notice at that point). I was talking about suicide intermittently and thinking a lot (my coping mechanism, but distressing to the few others who knew). I think I was put on mirtazapine as an od is not necessarily lethal. (But is still a very silly thing to do when there are people out there willing to help you have less pain in your life).

I did put on weight with this (or the comfort eating). Earlier this year I changed to a smaller equivalent dose of venlafaxine. (My spelling of these may be awry). I lost weight - 2 stone - and feel good.

Neither medication zombifies me - it makes me feel what I imagine 'normal' is.

I did have some initial side effects but they wore off.

This isn't medical advice - this is just some background to help people understand that it is worth speaking to the GP. There are things that can help support you.

Pyxis

Hi all!

I did it again! Forgot to log out so that it might've looked like I was up all night lurking! Sorry about that. The trouble is, I've started using the 'remember me' button, so that I don't keep getting logged out by MSE every so often, but the downside is that sometimes I forget to log out.
It's a shame that I can't just increase the auto log-out time to suit what I'm doing. Ah well.

7DW, so glad your OH has acknowledged the problem and is willing to try help strategies! That's half the battle won!

messedup, you're a little minx! Chatting up two men at the same time? :rotfl:
Well, why not!
Have fun! Hope it goes well, and that if so, he lives a bit nearer! Stay safe!

elsien, I love hearing about Gitdog! A lot of his quirks remind me of my second dog! At least his fur is short! My dog's was a lot longer - much worse for getting fox poo out of!

lostinrates

Whitewing,

I noticed the impact of my pills almost immediately. So much so I wondered at first if it were placebo impact, ( but I was so upset to have to take them).

I would say they haven't changed my attitude to why I was struggling so, the problem is still there, but they have most incredibly changed my coping mechanism. I donot feel like a zombie. The zombie was me failing to cope before, crying every day , sorting out animal file updating etc to make it easier with out me here when I planned to go. The one who was uncharacteristic ally snappy.

I'm still not delighted with my situation, but I am coping better. I laugh and smile and joke, and don't look at the dignitas website daily, or make other plans, I 'be stopped snapping at fir.

I feel say, 6 / 10 rather than bouncing along the bottom. I'd like to get back up into the top of the class but I am also reasoned enough to accept that to get to the eight to ten sort of bit will take time, and patience and I don't feel bad about that.

seven-day-weekend

My husband has been on antidepressants before, he's not averse to taking them, but he has been off them for over five years and I think he might feel that it is a step backwards. His mental health improved when he took early retirement ten years ago, and we lived in a sleepy village in Spain for eight years. We returned to the UK in December 2011.

I personally don't think the deterioration in his health is to do with the move back to the UK, there are several things happening in our lives at the moment that are worrying him and I think it's just a flare-up. I hope he will see that if he has to go on ADs that it is not a backward step.

He's suffered from anxiety/depression to a greater or lesser extent for most of his life, especially the last thirty years.

Thanks again everyone for all the help and support.

dibuzz

whitewing wrote: »

Penguin - antidepressants




I have been on anti-depressants for the past 4 years or so. They helped enormously with the anger/irritability. I started on mirtazapine and my DH said that he saw a difference within a week (I didn't notice at that point). I was talking about suicide intermittently and thinking a lot (my coping mechanism, but distressing to the few others who knew). I think I was put on mirtazapine as an od is not necessarily lethal. (But is still a very silly thing to do when there are people out there willing to help you have less pain in your life).

I did put on weight with this (or the comfort eating). Earlier this year I changed to a smaller equivalent dose of venlafaxine. (My spelling of these may be awry). I lost weight - 2 stone - and feel good.

Neither medication zombifies me - it makes me feel what I imagine 'normal' is.

I did have some initial side effects but they wore off.

This isn't medical advice - this is just some background to help people understand that it is worth speaking to the GP. There are things that can help support you.

Exactly the same here, I was on mirtazapine for about 8 years then changed to venlafaxine and lost 2 and a half stone within a few weeks.
I still have a dry mouth and can't sleep but after an increase in dose I'm starting to feel better and my doc says he can see a big difference.

Pyxis

lostinrates wrote: »

What I keep being staggered by is, and forgive me if this seems rude, is how sane you are. I have to admit if some one had said 'read a blog by this incredible woman with this list of metal illness diagnosis' I don't know I would have expected it to read so .......natural, and normal and not scary. .

Well, I think this goes for everyone else, too. When I first started reading the thread, it never occurred to me that any of the posters had any MH issues, so when, gradually, people began to relate their own experiences, it was a surprise.

It is really nice to be able to admit things here, that one wouldn't elsewhere, for fear of being criticised. It is a very safe thread! Cuddles all round!