Just needed to be heard for a little while

System

I'm banging my head against a wall (not literally don't worry!) trying to write a cover letter. I had a template from last time i was applying for jobs but seeing as this is an independent shop a lot of that isn't relevent.

Procrastinating whilst watching a documentary on excluded kids, its sad to see so many of them having issues but rewarding to see them eventually engaging with support

whitewing

Good evening, all.

I think this is an especially poignant article for anyone touched by the bleakness of depression:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-30939668

A Point of View: Why tyrants are afraid of art and beauty

tea_lover

Why are there so many mondays compared to the amount of fridays we get??

seven-day-weekend

May be PENGUIN:

I'm interested in discussing Compulsive Hoarding. I'd like to know what someone thinks when they have to try to throw something away. Or why they DON'T think to throw it away. Especially in the case of something that is obviously junk. What goes through someone's head?

I understand this is a mental health condition - that's the reason I'm trying to understand it.

My son had a lodger while we were in Spain. Looking back now, it is obvious to me that the young man was a compulsive hoarder - the amount of stuff he could fit in one tiny bedroom was amazing, and he was upset when my husband threw away a rusty frying pan with a lose handle.

Anyway, if anyone wishes to discuss it, either on here or by pm, I'd be interested.

END PENGUIN

mellymoo74

tea_lover wrote: »

Why are there so many mondays compared to the amount of fridays we get??

I know it's not fair.
It's the same as there are more 8 am's than 4.30's

Gingernutty

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

May be PENGUIN:

Hi seven-day-weekend, there are a few threads on the Old Style Board that deal with that particular PENGUIN.

Some posters have family members who have issues (Jo-Jo the Tightfisted and Grey Queen) and are living with the consequences.

Jo-Jo's thread about Springing Ahead might be of some use.

I post there.

seven-day-weekend

Gingernutty wrote: »

Hi seven-day-weekend, there are a few threads on the Old Style Board that deal with that particular PENGUIN.

Some posters have family members who have issues (Jo-Jo the Tightfisted and Grey Queen) and are living with the consequences.

Jo-Jo's thread about Springing Ahead might be of some use.

I post there.

Thanks ! I'll look there

whitewing

Yes, 7DW, it's a brilliant thread. I used to post there!

heartbreak_star

I think I might have a look as well - my nan tended towards that penguin and I'm the absolute opposite!

It's a very interesting subject.

HBS x

Pyxis

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

May be PENGUIN:

I'm interested in discussing Compulsive Hoarding. I'd like to know what someone thinks when they have to try to throw something away. Or why they DON'T think to throw it away. Especially in the case of something that is obviously junk. What goes through someone's head?

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Possible penguin reply to above penguin. It deals with hoarding.


7DW, bear this in mind.........

1. Everything has a value.:-

A rusty frying pan with a loose handle could still come in useful for something.
Eg. For mixing glue, or paints. For holding lots of little loose things, for painting a face on the back and becoming a garden art piece, for being a bird-bath.
It's the recycling mentality exaggerated.
The fact that the rusty frying-pan never gets used for any of those things is neither here nor there, because it might, one day.

How many of us have chucked something away, only to wish we still had it a few weeks later, because it would than have been used?
The feeling of getting rid of something that still has a use or a worth is counter-intuitive!

2. It connects with a feeling of safety in the past:-

Perhaps mum used to use a frying-pan a lot. Perhaps Dad bought it for him. Perhaps it's like one that Dad bought for him. Maybe it's associated with some jolly student times. Maybe it's associated with food which is a comfort.
That connection with the past can be too strong to break. For you, it might be a close relative's favourite necklace. For him, it might be a rusty old frying-pan.

Those are just some thoughts about one particular object.

Some of this I relate to. I could very, very easily let it get out of hand, so am very careful to try and rationalise the need to keep a particular object. If I find I have loads of say, cardboard boxes, I force myself to get rid of some, etc. but some people just cannot bring themselves to get rid of even some of the boxes, so they build up and up.


I hope that might be a little bit useful.