Is it normal for women to love their husband MORE than their children?

Indie_Kid

I agree with others - it's different. That's what my dad said too - his brother told his daughter that he loves his wife (her stepmum) more than he loves her. :mad:

Mojisola

balletshoes wrote: »

I agree with others here - its a different kind of love, and I also think the love you have for your children evolves as your children grow up.

The love you have for them when they need you to keep them safe and protected is a different love from when they are growing up into independent young adults. Its not less love, its just different.

This ^

Your partner is someone you hope to spend your life with - your children will leave you and find their own partners.

shays_mum

I def agree that there are different types of love,I love my family equally,but my kids are flesh of my flesh,blood of my blood,bone of my bone & in the event of a fire,they would be first!.

Also judging by the divorce rates in this country, partners come & go as well, my kids were a physical part of me & that bond is unbreakable.

Tiddlywinks

berbastrike wrote: »

just wondering as I think my Mum does

You need to understand that you're not in a competition to see who is loved the most.

Is her husband also your dad?

Why are you feeling less loved?

arlybarly

My kids are now 21 an 19 and when they hurt i hurt and when they cry because someone has hurt them i feel murderous so yes i love them more than my oh. Yes they will leave home one day but they are part of me and nothing can even come close.

poorlittlefish

My mum has always loved her horses way more than her kids!

FBaby

Before I met my husband, the thought of loving a partner more than my children seemed utterly ludicrous and unconceivable. Then I met my husband and for the first time understood what it feels like to love and be madly in love with a partner.

As everyone says, it is different. Part of my love for my kids is this innate instinct to protect them which I don't feel to the same extent with my OH. However, I am totally in love with him which is a feeling I of course don't have for my children. Even if I add it all up, I can't find myself in a place to be able to compare it, I just feel extremely fortunate to be able to experience the level of love I feel for the three of them.

marisco_2

When you have children you want the very best for them and their future. Personally I think one of the best things a woman can do for her children is to love her husband. When a couple put their marriage first it brings about lots of positive benefits for their children.

Showing them by example that you are a loving strong team, happy in each others company, have one another's back, are totally loyal to each other and will defend each other, gives children vital security. Confidence in their family, which is the foundation of their life, gives children that much less to worry about in a complicated world. A huge form of love in itself.

By seeing what a good marriage looks like, children are enabled to develop healthy views and will most likely set the bar high later on in their own relationships. That is what my parents did for me and I am very thankful to them for that

bylromarha

My kids know how very loved they are.

My hubby knows how very loved he is.

I find love hard to measure TBH. But I would say hubby has slightly more of my love than my kids.

To explain, my hubby has my heart. Utterly, completely and totally.

My kids have my heart 99.99%. 0.01% is held back as I hope and pray that one day I will no longer be the love of their life, but that both of them will find someone to love and be loved as completely as OH and I love each other. If I loved them as much as I love OH, then my heart would break when the time came of them finding the boy/girl of their dreams.

OH and I agreed long ago though that the kids get the priority of being saved over a spouse in life threatening situation. Bizarre, but true as we didn't fancy that conversation mid burning building.

mountainofdebt

Weirdly enough I've never thought of who I would save first -OH or Junior.

Perhaps it would be a case of who needed my help the most?