Mother of the Bride outfit

BitterAndTwisted

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm even more confused now - if you're my age (20s) what do you wear to a wedding then?

Loads of options: trouser-suit, dress, dress and jacket. Any kind of pretty and smart day-wear. NOT something that patently looks like evening wear in the day-time.

Eh, but I'm the kind of old fogey who doesn't think it's appropriate to wear something backless and sleeveless in church either!

lostinrates

daisiegg wrote: »

To be fair, I do not wear full length dresses at all. At under five foot, even if I could find one that did not swamp me, I would look like a little girl dressing up in mummy's clothes. I don't disagree that they can look lovely, though, and think maxi dresses of varying formalities can look very elegant I would actually love to be able to wear maxi dresses (perhaps not for a wedding, but who knows!) because they look so comfortable and, as I said, elegant.

Some of the celebrities who wear maxis best are not tall! ( though never seen them at weddings so cannot comment there!)

lostinrates

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Loads of options: trouser-suit, dress, dress and jacket. Any kind of pretty and smart day-wear. NOT something that patently looks like evening wear in the day-time.

Eh, but I'm the kind of old fogey who doesn't think it's appropriate to wear something backless and sleeveless in church either!

Maxi's aren't necessarily evening wear. And certainly don.'to mean you have to show arms and back in church. Lots of people see trousers suits as 'inappropriate'.

Style changes. While I agree, protocol is to be followed and sensitivities catered for even if we don't necessarily hold them, we don't all rock up to every wedding or formal event dressed in period costume, so fashion does influence what we wear.

Long doesn't mean evening wear just because one person interprets it as so. I wouldn't wear evening wear in the day, ( well, not home or gardening anyway) but might I might happily wear something I could use for both.

Because we haven' seen the dress can we say its an evening dress?

daisiegg

lostinrates wrote: »

Some of the celebrities who wear maxis best are not tall! ( though never seen them at weddings so cannot comment there!)

I know! This really frustrates me! After much scrutinising of photos, I have come to the conclusion that while not tall, they still have a good few inches on me (I really am a tiddler) which must make all the difference, and I can only assume their dresses are made to their measurements. This is the only way I can explain how they look good and I look horrendous!

Buzzybee90

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Loads of options: trouser-suit, dress, dress and jacket. Any kind of pretty and smart day-wear. NOT something that patently looks like evening wear in the day-time.

Eh, but I'm the kind of old fogey who doesn't think it's appropriate to wear something backless and sleeveless in church either!

I wouldn't say a long dress is strictly evening wear, I'd certainly wear one racing, for example (though I do have long legs!). Plus most weddings mostly consist (time wise) of the reception.

What about the wedding dress? Rarely see sleeved bridal gowns!

thorsoak

Trouser suits on a 70 year old ......a look that looks even older! I'm not really into Jaques Vert type things ...look too WI function for me. The dress order is COCKTAIL DRESS - and if I google cocktail dress now, most of them aren't even knee high. So I have the option of old lady trouser suit - no thank you - Jaques Vert coat & dress - again, no thank you, above knee cocktail dress - purleese! Or slightly longer - on the knee - my knees are not pretty things, nor actually are my ankles. So I'm going for the dress I mentioned before. As I said, the wedding is at 4pm in the afternoon, going on to the cocktail hour - so I'm happy with my choice - as is my DIL - and (most importantly) my 16 year old DGD - who thinks it is fab! The mother of the groom is wearing something similar, I understand (thought I'd better check!).

POPPYOSCAR

I for one will never understand why some people get so hung up about what other people wear!

GobbledyGook

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I for one will never understand why some people get so hung up about what other people wear!

Couldn't agree more. At my wedding my Great Aunt wore a long dress, formal jacket and a hat; it's her style of attire when it comes to weddings. My friend was just out of hospital and she was wearing a nice top and jeans with an elasticated waist as they were the only trousers she owned that didn't rub badly on her scar. I didn't care what either was wearing, I was just happy that they were there with us.

I think the registrars were downright rude and unprofessional in their comments. It was also highly risky of them to say anything to another guest as they had no idea of the connection between people or how they'd react. Utterly baffling thing to do.

LilElvis

purpleshoes wrote: »

I didnt see anything much different from the site that the OP posted from, than many other fashion sites out there on the internet. Looks very similar to Dorothy Perkins style clothes. Just because a wedding is posh doesnt mean people shouldnt wear high street clothes, we dont all have tons of money or access to high end fashion just for a one off event.

No, not everyone has tons of money but everyone who posts on here, including the OP, does have access to high end fashion at a good price. It's called eBay. Examples of my purchases include paying less than £10 (including postage) for a brand new (with tags) silk Nicole Farhi top which had originally cost £299, £4 for a Formes (French brand) brand new (with tags) maternity cocktail dress (tags showed £149). Lots of other sites sell 'previous season', high quality clothes at huge discounts of up to 80%. So, in my opinion, the OP could easily have purchased an outfit more in keeping with the 'dress code' whilst staying within her budget.

lostinrates

LilElvis wrote: »

No, not everyone has tons of money but everyone who posts on here, including the OP, does have access to high end fashion at a good price. It's called eBay. Examples of my purchases include paying less than £10 (including postage) for a brand new (with tags) silk Nicole Farhi top which had originally cost £299, £4 for a Formes (French brand) brand new (with tags) maternity cocktail dress (tags showed £149). Lots of other sites sell 'previous season', high quality clothes at huge discounts of up to 80%. So, in my opinion, the OP could easily have purchased an outfit more in keeping with the 'dress code' whilst staying within her budget.

High street is fine. My wardrobe is a mix of high street, supermarket designer and self bodged. When I met with someone from this Internet board I was :rotfl: when she sweetly posted about how chic I looked. And I admitted it was all not highstreet but supermarket, Even the shoes.



I have a beautiful pair of shoes everyone in Milan when I lived there loved! ( asda) and I also have choos.

There are, IMO, (though I am increasingly considered outdated and I Am NOT that old :rotfl: )wedding wear faux pas. Lack of interest in fashion, or desire to spend a lot aren't among them. Some, for example, have ethical principals about where there clothing comes from ( and I do feel guilty when I supermarkets buy) and how many things they own.