Mother of the Bride outfit

BitterAndTwisted

I wouldn't be seen dead in a full-length evening gown in the day-time, never mind a wedding ceremony. Other people can wear what they like but don't expect me to approve because I don't. A fake fur stole! Was it her grandmother's?

purpleshoes_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm bemused, I recently went to a wedding and wore a full length dress - similar to a bridesmaids I suppose. Was that wrong? Everyone said they loved it!

Perhaps theres an issue if a mother of the bride tries to upstage her own daughter at the wedding. I think theres a massive difference between someone who going all out to look as good as they can and someone who is perhaps trying to outdo someone on their special day.

There's too much people don't know about this wedding, we don't know anything about the mother and daughter relationship, the daughter might have been absolutely fine with her mother wearing a full length gown, a fur stole and a tiara.

On the other hand she might not have been.

daisiegg

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I wouldn't be seen dead in a full-length evening gown in the day-time, never mind a wedding ceremony. Other people can wear what they like but don't expect me to approve because I don't. A fake fur stole! Was it her grandmother's?

This post has made me laugh, because my cousin's wife (who is mid twenties, with the figure of a model and a stunning short quirky hairstyle) wore a full length dark purple evening gown with a white (I presume fake) fur bolero to my wedding! :rotfl: She looked fab and like the most glamorous person there. We have a brilliant picture in our wedding album of her outside, with huge sunglasses on and a cigar, looking far too cool for school! I think she was the only person in a full length dress at our wedding, though I couldn't say for sure. We did not specify a dress code or anything but as I am half Scottish there were loads of men in kilts and full regalia, which I think look much more formal than suits and make full length dresses look quite appropriate.

I probably would not wear a full length dress to a wedding either but I wouldn't judge anyone who did. I honestly didn't and don't care a single bit what people were wearing at our wedding. I just cared that they were wearing a smile for us!

purpleshoes_2

LilElvis wrote: »

And words fail me that you would attend a 'posh' wedding in a cheap polyester outfit. Didn't you read the dress code?

I didnt see anything much different from the site that the OP posted from, than many other fashion sites out there on the internet. Looks very similar to Dorothy Perkins style clothes. Just because a wedding is posh doesnt mean people shouldnt wear high street clothes, we dont all have tons of money or access to high end fashion just for a one off event.

It's all about context. If the bride didnt want her mum turning up wearing a floor length gown, a fur stole and a tiara at her wedding, because the mum might take attention away from her, you would think that a mum might have the sense to realise that. Some people could look good in pretty much anything they wear. But I think many people have enough respect for a bride at a wedding that they aren't going to rock up looking like it's their special day. The mum and daughter might have a great relationship, they might also have a relationship where the mum tries and outshines the daughter in everything she does and she deliberately overdressed in order to make some kind of point, the attention is on me so to speak, not you.

I'd be interested to know how the bride felt about it all, before wondering too much about the motives of someone who commented on the situation.

lostinrates

daisiegg wrote: »

This post has made me laugh, because my cousin's wife (who is mid twenties, with the figure of a model and a stunning short quirky hairstyle) wore a full length dark purple evening gown with a white (I presume fake) fur bolero to my wedding! :rotfl: She looked fab and like the most glamorous person there. We have a brilliant picture in our wedding album of her outside, with huge sunglasses on and a cigar, looking far too cool for school! I think she was the only person in a full length dress at our wedding, though I couldn't say for sure. We did not specify a dress code or anything but as I am half Scottish there were loads of men in kilts and full regalia, which I think look much more formal than suits and make full length dresses look quite appropriate.

I probably would not wear a full length dress to a wedding either but I wouldn't judge anyone who did. I honestly didn't and don't care a single bit what people were wearing at our wedding. I just cared that they were wearing a smile for us!

I have worn a full length day dress to a wedding, I wear maxi dresses a lot. Even going for silk it can be hard to find some formal enough sometimes for a day wedding but not ott. But they exist.


Eg I just did a google image for 'silk maxi day dress'. And quite a range comes up from things I'd extravagantly waft about the house and garden in, or wear to the beach to stuff that would be for me more 'day into evening'. And an awful lot I personally wouldn't wear.

Its interesting though that some people do see beautiful maxi length purely as evening wear. I found it a mental adjustment to wear more as day wear I guess a little, but its very comfortable.

tea_lover

purpleshoes wrote: »

I'd be interested to know how the bride felt about it all, before wondering too much about the motives of someone who commented on the situation.

Usually I would agree. However, I think the OP has shown their motives quite clearly by posting about some ridiculous conversation they allegedly had with the registrars.

Buzzybee90

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I wouldn't be seen dead in a full-length evening gown in the day-time, never mind a wedding ceremony. Other people can wear what they like but don't expect me to approve because I don't. A fake fur stole! Was it her grandmother's?

I'm even more confused now - if you're my age (20s) what do you wear to a wedding then?

notanewuser

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm even more confused now - if you're my age (20s) what do you wear to a wedding then?

A shorter dress or trousers?

BitterAndTwisted

I think I can probably tell the difference between a pretty maxi-length day-dress and an evening gown. If the OP says it was an evening gown then I'm quite prepared to believe her. Who wears a fake fur stole with a day dress? In fact who wears a stole at all, fake fur or real?

daisiegg

lostinrates wrote: »

I have worn a full length day dress to a wedding, I wear maxi dresses a lot. Even going for silk it can be hard to find some formal enough sometimes for a day wedding but not ott. But they exist.


Eg I just did a google image for 'silk maxi day dress'. And quite a range comes up from things I'd extravagantly waft about the house and garden in, or wear to the beach to stuff that would be for me more 'day into evening'. And an awful lot I personally wouldn't wear.

Its interesting though that some people do see beautiful maxi length purely as evening wear. I found it a mental adjustment to wear more as day wear I guess a little, but its very comfortable.

To be fair, I do not wear full length dresses at all. At under five foot, even if I could find one that did not swamp me, I would look like a little girl dressing up in mummy's clothes. I don't disagree that they can look lovely, though, and think maxi dresses of varying formalities can look very elegant I would actually love to be able to wear maxi dresses (perhaps not for a wedding, but who knows!) because they look so comfortable and, as I said, elegant.