Mother of the Bride outfit

meritaten

this may not be question you expect............but what would YOU think appropriate as the 'Mother of the Bride' to wear?

I have just been loaned the Brides wedding photo album, of a wedding I attended last year.
the Mother of the Bride (henceforth known as MOB) wore for the ceremony and photos a full length evening gown in purple, with a fake fur stole). I thought at the time it wasn't really 'the right thing to wear'.
the colour wasn't one of the 'colour themes' of the wedding. obviously an evening gown (she told me it would be nice to wear for dinner when she went on a 'cruise'), and to me it just looked 'naff'!
it may sound as if I am bragging, but the registrar and her colleague both came up to me after the ceremony and told me that they scored the guests outfits, and thought I had the 'best' wedding outfit (nothing special, just a nice dress and jacket from Roman Originals. but they made a point of saying they include MOBs and MOGs in their scores!).
The MOB wore the identical dress, as she did in the day, though in a different colour for the evening 'do'.
It was a beautiful wedding, in a gorgeous setting and I know it cost a huge amount of money.
I just thought the MOB looked as if she was trying to 'upstage' the Bride.

Velvet_Glove

LOL, I love the idea of the registrar 'scoring' the guests' outfits!

I am getting married in August, and although I think that the Mothers should contrast the bridal party rather than match (my mum is wearing champagne yellow, our colour theme is dark green) I do agree that evening gowns are a no no.

meritaten

I don't expect the MOB outfit to match the bridesmaids - but in this case the Bridesmaids were in Emerald Green...............and MOBs Bright Purple stuck out like a sore thumb! ouch!
I have taken care with my own MOB outfit and MOG's to NOT clash with the wedding theme colours. even if it meant wearing bland neutral colours.

thorsoak

meritaten wrote: »

this may not be question you expect............but what would YOU think appropriate as the 'Mother of the Bride' to wear?

I have just been loaned the Brides wedding photo album, of a wedding I attended last year.
the Mother of the Bride (henceforth known as MOB) wore for the ceremony and photos a full length evening gown in purple, with a fake fur stole). I thought at the time it wasn't really 'the right thing to wear'.
the colour wasn't one of the 'colour themes' of the wedding. obviously an evening gown (she told me it would be nice to wear for dinner when she went on a 'cruise'), and to me it just looked 'naff'!
it may sound as if I am bragging, but the registrar and her colleague both came up to me after the ceremony and told me that they scored the guests outfits, and thought I had the 'best' wedding outfit (nothing special, just a nice dress and jacket from Roman Originals. but they made a point of saying they include MOBs and MOGs in their scores!).
The MOB wore the identical dress, as she did in the day, though in a different colour for the evening 'do'.
It was a beautiful wedding, in a gorgeous setting and I know it cost a huge amount of money.
I just thought the MOB looked as if she was trying to 'upstage' the Bride.

Hmmm......at No 2 son's wedding the Registrar and I were wearing the same outfit - even same colour:eek: AND I was No 2 son's witness! We laughed, congratulated each other on our good taste - she apologised and said that she'd gone to Cheshire to get her outfit so that she wouldn't be wearing the same as any other guests (she also happened to be the next door neighbour of No 2 son & DIL) and was attending the reception - and I'd got my outfit in Essex! She changed for the reception :rotfl:

savingmummy

I think it depends a lot on the person.
My mum wore a trouser suit, my mil wore a dress and jacket.
I`ve been to weddings where the mothers wore normal `going out` clothing along with a nice bag and shoes.


A lot of my friends seem to choose what their mums wear too, dome mums don't get much of a choice.

Auntie-Dolly

That's really not a nice thing to say about other peoples taste & style. Perhaps she thought you looked like a wedding cliche in an old lady dress & jacket combo, but was too polite to post about it on a discussion board.

meritaten

But, would you wear full evening regalia? to your daughters wedding?

meritaten

to me - MOB or MOG is in the 'background'. the focus is on the Bride and Groom. yes you should wear a nice outfit, look your best. its just that the MOB wearing full length evening gown and fake fur stole just looked like .....................chavvy naff!

ska_lover

I agree, that sounds very OTT.

Poppy9

Personally I would be very unhappy with two public servants being so indiscreet in passing on their thoughts to guests of a wedding. Totally unprofessional.

I think the MOB should be free to wear what she feels comfortable in and if she's buying with a view to wearing again, MSE members should be congratulating her as many MOB outfits are horrendously expensive and a wear once outfit.

It's people who are important at weddings, not outfits.

Person_one

If someone is appropriately covered and there are no offensive slogans on their clothing then what's the problem?

Shame on that registrar. If they must have such judgmental thoughts they could at least have the manners to keep quiet about it.