Advice to a 21 year old?

wiggywoo9

I have been wondering a lot about the things people do through their lives. I am 21 but mature for my age. I have a child, a dog, a rented home. No job as of yet, but always looking and currently studying and volunteering.


I was always a good girl, no drugs, smoking, fights or anything. Never had any 'bad' relationships like a druggie or criminal. Only one long term relationship and that was with my son's father. I'm single.


Now, I often wonder about the future. What will I be like in my thirties? Will I regret anything? What about when I'm older, say 60, or 70? Will there be anything I wish I'd done?


So if anyone has any thoughts, I'd be grateful. Anything to do whilst I'm this age? Anything you wish you'd prepared for or tried? Any advice for what comes later?


Thanks, appreciate it!

savingmummy

I am 32 married 10yrs with 2 children aged 8 and 6.
I wished I had travelled the world a bit, or at least visited some fab countries. Impossible to afford that now.


I wished I had been brave and followed the career I always wanted - never had the confidence to go for it!


I wished I`d saved from the age of 18, leaving it til now is a big no no, I have no pension so its quite scary to think I could or will be old and very poor!!


Only you know what you want in your life, what others wish others wouldn't want to do.

mountainofdebt

Oh Wiggy

The best advice anyone can give you is live life to the full but always remain true to yourself......the moment you start doing things because you think its the thing that's expected of you,you're not

Age is just a number

PeacefulWaters

No point looking back regretting.

double_mummy

the only advice i would have given to myself at that age is be a bit more you and a bit less of who you think everyone else wants you to be

oh and take lots of photos of little wiggy they grow up so fast

Person_one

There's really no point getting hung up in what you should do, what you might regret, what other people are doing. Do what seems to be the right thing at the time, pursue the things you want to pursue when you can, don't do things that hurt other people, and you'll be more or less fine.

I'm 29, at 21 I could never have foreseen all the things that have happened in my twenties, or how I'd feel about them or how they'd affect the path I took.

You know the famous John Lennon quote, right?

greenorange

I'm 23 and try and adopt the attitude of no regrets. I've been fortunate in some areas of my life where I've travelled a lot, have a degree, did the drinking/partying aspect of my life, have lived in halls/student house/my own apartment, however in some aspects I feel I'm lacking, such as no relationship, no kids, and no idea where I go career wise from here (I've just graduated).

The only thing I now want for my life is to start a great career, meet someone, have kids, and be happy.

What's happened has happened. Don't compare yourself to others (I do this a lot, and it gets you nowhere). Look at what you have got, and make plans for the future that will help you and your son have a better, more fulfilled life.

Kabazzzz

If I could sit myself down at the age of 18 I would say:


travel
follow my career/ dreams
not allow myself to get into debt
save
start my pension earlier
surround myself with people that make me happy
don't be afraid to be myself

lilmissreading

Love your body - every year it gets a little less forgiving

Don't be in a rush - everything happens eventually

Say yes to something new when it's offered

Don't worry what people think - you don't know what they are really thinking and if it's not kind, they are not worth thinking about

Watch less TV and spend more time with people - you will never look back wishing you'd watched more BGT but there are people you will wish you spent more time with.

Tiglath

Develop healthy habits now - you won't regret it. Oh, and as soon as you can, start a pension. Wish I'd done both of those things earlier.

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

I am 21 but mature for my age. I have a child, a dog, a rented home. No job as of yet, but always looking and currently studying and volunteering.

So if anyone has any thoughts, I'd be grateful.

At 21, life has hardly started - plenty of time for all sorts of opportunities to crop up.

As others have said - don't do things because you think you should do them. It's actually fine to live a simple, even boring life if that's what you like!