awkward sibling

reason01

RAS wrote: »

Hi

Can you go through the last message and at least refer to sister 1 and sister 2 etc as it is not clear who has done what?

Now complete thanks

reason01

reason01 wrote: »

Now complete thanks

Updated further sorry it was a bit of a rush, hopefully its a bit clearer.

Savvy_Sue

If you cannot trust what your sister is saying, phone the solicitor and ask them to communicate with BOTH OF YOU rather than just one.

Have just re-read the thread and this may be her solicitor she is speaking to, rather than yours as executor. However, the advice stands: if you cannot trust what she is saying, ask for everything in writing, with evidence, eg the law society have asked her to sign something, what is that exactly? If she needs your involvement in something, let her provide the documentation. If she is just trying to get things moving faster, then say that you will just have to wait until YOU receive something from the law society.

reason01

Thanks Savvy sue, I've just asked sister 2 again before I contact the solictor (Sister 1's solicitor). She now informs me they were from Solicitors Regulation Authority, but why on earth would they ring a beneficiary? This seems a bit odd! Do you think shes just trying to rush us as executors.

RAS

Hi

It appears that there are a lot of "Chinese whispers" going on here.

Why is Sister 1's solicitor communicating with Sister 2? This is completely inappropriate if they want to discuss the estate as she is not an executor

The fact that the two executors are communicating with sister 2 about her conversations with sister1's solicitor is also completely inappropriate.

I suggest that the two executors write to the solicitor formally advising that all queries regarding the estate must be addressed to themselves.

I suggest that both executors advise Sister 2 that because of her involvement with the SRA, they can no longer discuss the estate with her.

As for what one earth the SRA http://www.sra.org.uk/home/home.page have to do with this, I am at a loss. They deal with complaints against solicitors, so the only people in this saga they could take action against are Sister's 1 solicitor? So why are you panicking about this?

g6jns_2

Mojisola wrote: »

One way I've heard of it done is that everyone takes a turn - you can pull numbers from a hat to see which order you go in to make it really fair. If you're not going to get together, get everyone to make a list and do it the same way - A's first choice, B's first choice, etc. If A's second choice has already been taken by the time his/her turn comes round, move onto third or fourth choice.

Not a legal way for the executors to act. Ultimately they should sell the lot and divide the proceeds.

reason01

Hi, Thanks for replies and advise. I have written to the solictor and told him this is totally inappropriate discussing estate with sister 2, Sister 2 worked for this solictor for 10 years so she made out they were friends. Solictor has responded saying totally untrue. I have formally advised sister 2 that I can no longer deal with her. She has now denied she said it! complete liar - obviously desperate for money. I Have retained all her text messages if they need them as she has made false allegations.

I have today sent the assetts and liabilities to all beneficaries, by recorded delivery to sister 1 & 2, the estate is now finalised so I've just asked if they would like cheque or by BACS payment, and waiting for their response. Do I have to send to the solictor a copy of the assetts and liabilities, am I obliged to send him the liabililties or should I let sister 1 go to the inconvenience of sending it on to them?

The joint executor my brother doesn't wanted any money distributed until all siblings sign and return, but surely once they've had the cheque thats the end of it.

When the jewellery was distributed ( in hindsight I should have had this valued) but at the time was on speaking terms with sister 2 and calmly choose pieces of mums jewellery, sister 2 choose sister 1's jewellery, at sisters 1's request via the solicitor. It now turns out sister 1 is unhappy with what shes had! The solictor has asked for a full inventory AGAIN!!! I've asked him to contact his client and ask for the emails and photos that she had been sent. I will not be sending them again.

God a year since we lost our mum and be glad when I can finally grieve, money sure is the root of all evil.

This has made me change my own will and not have family but a trusted friend!

reason01

Further solicitors letter asking for copy of bank statements, copies of bills etc., all ready to send - however I want to send direct to solicitor but my brother(the other executor) is adament I should send direct to Sister 1, as he's says she is being ackward and we are doing all the work for her. What would happen if I didn't send to the solicitor? Is there an advise Helpline I could call please?

RAS

Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill and stop your emotions getting in the way of basic reason.

Send the solicitor a copy of the letter you sent previously with the bills etc.

"Dear twerp

Thank you for your letter of x September. Please can we remind you that we sent these documents on x (month).

However, we enclose a copy of that letter and a further copy of the documents for your convenience. We trust that you will not be requesting these documents again."

I would be inclined to send a copy of the letter to your sister.

Do however sit down with both letters requesting documents and make SURE that your emotions are not blinding you to facts.

1. What exactly did the solicitor request each time? Is it identical?

2. What exactly did you send? Does that cover everything requested in the letter?

reason01

We originally sent to all beneficiaries all assets & Liabilities, with the figure of inheritance, 5 have accepted - however sister 1's solictor has requested all copies of Bills/Bank Statements, not previously requested by the solictor, their comments are they will then decide whether they accept or reject' the inheritance.

If they reject for what ever reason we cannot distribute the inheritance to all other silbings?

Thank you!