awkward sibling

MrsReason

probate granted five months ago, sibling saying not comunicating with her says she wants to contest will , constant harassment ,lying ,to solicitors ,false accusations wants money straight away but we want to wait until house is sold as we have still got expenses

Mojisola

It can make life difficult when a beneficiary behaves like this. Nothing you can do except follow all the rules as executor so there's nothing for her to challenge about your handling of the estate.

If there is plenty of free cash, it's not unusual to offer beneficiaries an interim payment but you must make sure there is plenty left to pay all the estate bills.

MrsReason

Thanks Majisola, we have 7 days to respond to solictors letter, there are 6 siblings as beneficiarys and none of us speak to her, we have already given a breakdown of assets with a copy of the when mum first passed, she wanted money and constantly asking for Jewellery, but been ignoring my emails, and make late nights calls to me - antagaganising me. What would happen if we didn't reply to solictor in 7 days, grant esd granted December 2013, would you be able to offer any advise please?

Mojisola

MrsReason wrote: »

Thanks Majisola, we have 7 days to respond to solictors letter, there are 6 siblings as beneficiarys and none of us speak to her, we have already given a breakdown of assets with a copy of the when mum first passed, she wanted money and constantly asking for Jewellery, but been ignoring my emails, and make late nights calls to me - antagaganising me. What would happen if we didn't reply to solictor in 7 days, grant esd granted December 2013, would you be able to offer any advise please?

What does the solicitor's letter say will happen if you don't respond in 7 days?

Without giving any details that would identify you, what is the letter about?

Savvy_Sue

Who are the executors, some of the siblings or solicitors?

MrsReason

They say we are unwilling to communicate yet she ignores emails, we blocked her number from our mobiles and discover over 20 text messages demanded breakdown of estate (stil in spam folder). they want full details of assets and liabilities of the estate on an interim basis. They want to know why we have not dispersed the rest of the estate, money is sat in executor account, but house only just sold and we still have expenses.

She is also upset because 4 our of 6 children were gifted by our parents and because we looked after them, 2 lived away and never visited, we did not disclose this at probate stage? should we have if premium bonds where in our names? She claims she has absusive texts but its all complete lies, we cant even grieve for our mum due to all this, she a buddhist of all people !!

MrsReason

6 children all beneficiarys - 2 being executors.

Mojisola

You realise that the solicitor will have written the letter using the "facts" given by your siblings? And will be happy to charge them to write several more?

Legally, the beneficiaries don't have to be told anything but it's good practice to let them know they are due an inheritance.

No-one can demand their inheritance before the estate is finalised. They don't have to be given interim accounts.

MrsReason

Mojisola wrote: »

You realise that the solicitor will have written the letter using the "facts" given by your siblings? And will be happy to charge them to write several more?

Legally, the beneficiaries don't have to be told anything but it's good practice to let them know they are due an inheritance.

No-one can demand their inheritance before the estate is finalised. They don't have to be given interim accounts.

Thanks Mojisola, so if we ignore the letter what could they do? my concern is 4 of us being gifted? is there a time limit involved? can she try to claim for our premium bonds even though given in 2006?

Mojisola

MrsReason wrote: »

Thanks Mojisola, so if we ignore the letter what could they do? my concern is 4 of us being gifted? is there a time limit involved?

Has the solicitor said that any particular action will be taken if you don't respond to the letter?

MrsReason

Mojisola wrote: »

Has the solicitor said that any particular action will be taken if you don't respond to the letter?

No just to respond, but we all know our sister is a bit mad and will cause as much trouble as possible. The house is sold now to cash buyers and could be all completed in 4 weeks.

The reason they are giving ius 7 days to respond is because she is saying that we are sending abusive texts but we are not, surely he would have asked for proof before writing to us, so stressful, if I'd have known all this I would never have been an executor in the first place.

Thanks for your advice starting to feel a little better !