Only freedom will do

edinburgher

I like to think of it as an investment in awesome. No denying it was expensive tho, we went for a far more reasonable £30 fitting for the living room off Am@azon

In our last place, we did next to nothing bar emergency repairs, lay some flooring and redecorate. As we will have the pleasure of staying in our current home for 20 years or so (I'd like to retire and downsize when the FITs run out (aged 53)), it's important that it feels homely.

It is very interesting reading about your experiences Greent. I'm also from a big family (5 kids) and to be honest, I'm already feeling like one child may be enough! This isn't solely coming from me, Mrs E is also thinking 'what have we let ourselves in for?'

It is interesting that previous generations (not being cheeky, think you're a little older than me) had relatively large families despite the 'lack' some of the million and one creature comforts that are supposed to make child raising easier these days. Perhaps millenials (I'm one of those until March) are just less able to cope with 'hardship'?

lulabelle1

Ed, I really feel for you and Mrs Ed, being a new parent is so hard and completely exhausting. I'm sure you're both doing amazing jobs and the little one is lucky to have such wonderful devoted parents.

greent is right though... a few years down the line you will forget the exhaustion, the crying and not always feeling like you know what to do for the best and that's when the thoughts of having another one will start seeming like a good idea! (Although it took me 5 years to have those thoughts!).

I think I may have sounded a little harsh in a previous post - I certainly don't advocate leaving a baby to scream and get upset..... but so long as babies needs are attended to and you've given a loving whisper in the ear and a stroke on the head, there's no harm in letting her grizzle for a wee while... so long as you're around to give her reassurance there's a good chance that she may learn to settle without the need for music, tropical fish and some of the other lovely ideas that IMO could just end up waking her up further.

Again, as greent said though, all models are different and what works for one may not work for another.....

Try not to get down and enjoy every single moment as the time flies by and soon enough she'll be going to school! x

Karmacat

edinburgher wrote: »

I'd love a white cat.... mwa-ha-ha-ha {strokes white cat}

Yes please! And then link up to my cat website with a CCTV and have it trained on the cat the whole time :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I lurve white cats.

Erm, not meaning that to sound quite as stalker-ish as it does, sorry!

greent wrote: »

Sometimes it's enough to just 'be' - sit and cuddle, doze together on the sofa,

Sometimes thats absolutely the best - there's altogether too much emphasis on activities nowadays, I think - its true that kids have more energy than us :rotfl: but that level of loving physical nurturing and attention is very precious.

edinburgher wrote: »

I like to think of it as an investment in awesome.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Coolest quote ever :cool:

greent

edinburgher wrote: »

I like to think of it as an investment in awesome. No denying it was expensive tho, we went for a far more reasonable £30 fitting for the living room off Am@azon

In our last place, we did next to nothing bar emergency repairs, lay some flooring and redecorate. As we will have the pleasure of staying in our current home for 20 years or so (I'd like to retire and downsize when the FITs run out (aged 53)), it's important that it feels homely.

It is very interesting reading about your experiences Greent. I'm also from a big family (5 kids) and to be honest, I'm already feeling like one child may be enough! This isn't solely coming from me, Mrs E is also thinking 'what have we let ourselves in for?'

It is interesting that previous generations (not being cheeky, think you're a little older than me) had relatively large families despite the 'lack' some of the million and one creature comforts that are supposed to make child raising easier these days. Perhaps millenials (I'm one of those until March) are just less able to cope with 'hardship'?

I'm 45 - so a decade or so older than you? My oldest is 18 next week :eek::eek: and my youngest is 6. I was quite happy with 2 children - I always wanted more than one - I was an only child and didn't want any child of mine to be the same - I envied friends and cousins with siblings (well, I have a half sister who was born when I was six - I met her when she was a baby and then not again until our dad died 4.5 years ago) - but no 3 was a surprise (I was told I would need help conceiving any more - but clearly that wasn't the case!:rotfl::p) (hence the almost 6 year age gap between 2 & 3)


Most of my mum-friends from 1 & 2 era only have 2 children. I have a second set of school-mum friends with children the same ages as 3 &/ or 4. They tend to be born around 1979 -83, so more in line with your age (I think?!) - many of them are having their third or even fourth child with a much smaller age gap than I did - I've certainly noticed a move towards larger families in a relatively short time frame - 1 mum has 5 - ranging in age from (just) 9 to 1 - that's just scary! (And she's one of those annoying yummy mummies always with immaculate hair and clothes and the cutest blonde kids ever! )




Loving the idea of investing in awesome-ness, though
x

edinburgher

It has come to one's attention that one is gamifying one's investing

• £200 into Funding C1rcle, invested into 12%+ loans
• Sold all FC loans yielding less than 11%, reinvesting proceeds into 12%+ loans
• £100 lent out at Ablr@te on a highly questionable investment to a fund manager with a hot tip (12%, secured)
• £200 into Money Th1ng to help fund a portfolio of HP motors (well, once they go on sale (12%, secured)

smallholdingsister

Just thinking about Juliet.
Not joking, but have you tried wearing her in your jumper?

edinburgher

For giggles?

smallholdingsister

Well yes, but, some babies will find it soothing. Not much clothing for her so she doesn't overheat.
Google "Kangaroo care".

I can hear my mum in her best health visitor voice saying " Its all very well teaching us how the Maoris bring up baby but there's not many Maoris in Manchester."

edinburgher

DD learned to roll over this evening, I am proud as punch! :j

ajmoney

edinburgher wrote: »

DD learned to roll over this evening, I am proud as punch! :j

Sometimes I wish MSE had a "like" button :j