Only freedom will do

in_need_of_direction

Hey mr ed, do the applications. You'll only need to worry about the other bits when you get a job offer. Don't be searching for problems until then. I earn more than my OH but he's a better cook than I. Don't let stereotyping restrict you. The only concern I might have would be how you'd manage if mrs ed was on maternity pay and you had a reduced salary. Like others have said though, if everyone waited to afford babies, we would face extinction.

nattypants

Hey Ed

I am a bad MSEr and haven't been around, however your diary was fairly near the top and as I 'ken' you, I decided to do a stealth post.

In total and utter agreement with the others, Mrs Ed I am certain would far rather have a 'happy at work' Mr Ed and you WILL end up being in a far better position emotionally and, in the near future, financially.

PS. the house prices you are considering are similar to the price I paid 3 years ago with one income and two teenagers. By the way, teenagers are notoriously the most expensive items on the planet.

So, Edinburgher to recap, you will find a way, oh and baby Eds won't care a jot if the decor is slightly dodgy .... teenagers on the other hand ....

By the way, I was in a Edinburgh today and it was p1ssing it down, hope Glasgow was slightly better!

edinburgher

Thanks to all

I don't really mind the stereotypes. My one minor gripe is that Mrs E, while wonderful, will occasionally make comments along the lines of 'what will that mean for getting a house?' when I mention changing jobs. This makes me feel like it's all 'on' me, which Mrs E doesn't mean to suggest, but it does feel like that.

I think I'll just need to toughen up and tell her to get a pay rise next time she says it :rotfl:

I have written the first application, which Mrs E has reviewed for me :T

It has taken me a long time, but I have now decided that I am going to change direction completely in my career. I have started looking and will likley have to take a 50% pay cut

Yup, that's what I'm looking at!

I am a bad MSEr and haven't been around, however your diary was fairly near the top and as I 'ken' you, I decided to do a stealth post.

You sure know how to make a boy feel special Natty

£20 refunded from a matched bet that I had forgotten about entirely, will have to pester a non-paying eBayer soon. Off for some 25p HB popcorn and a HB beer.

Habibiboo

:wave:

Just stopped by to visit Edinburgher, so impressed with how you're managing the matched betting, can't get my head round it.

Good luck with the job applications, the fact you're filling them out means you know in your heart that it's time to move on from where you are. He who dares wins and all that malarkey ... oh and stereotypes are just made to be challenged, it's what works for you and Mrs E that's important, not what anyone else thinks! Wishing you all the best!

in_need_of_direction

Ps did I mention that my boss bought me cookery lessons as a Christmas present. As a very traditional man, he sought the only logical explanation for OH's control of the kitchen and tried to fix the problem!

Goldiegirl

This whole matched betting thing fascinates me...... I don't understand it, but it still fascinates me!:rotfl:

The only gambling I understand is the lottery. We only do a few Thunderball lines each week (lotto is too expensive now), and normally get a couple of wins a month. I'm holding out for the half a million, then I'm retiring, like yesterday:rotfl:

Secret_Saving_Squirrel

Good luck whatever you decide, but as the others say, just do the applications and then worry when you get the offer!

Tilly_MFW_in_6_YRS

Morning Mr E, I've been the main earner for years until about 4 years ago then we switched. We never worried about who put what in the pot though.

ETA: I do realise it may impact any imminent house moves but truly kids don't remember how big the bedroom was. They will remember whether Dad played with them every night, and the days out in the park with football, rugby ball, picnic etc. You'd have years to get sorted before they'd really be aware. Natty is absolutely right - teenagers are a totally different breed

I agree with everyone else. Get the applications in. Start practising for interviews and get a few books from the library about interview prep. I may have you mixed up but I think you don't like interviews? There are some really good books around now and if you do some prep and practise, have a few key points immediately to hand that you can slap on the table, it will help enormously.

Good luck and when you've got your future career sorted, you can give us all matched betting lessons

Best wishes, Tilly x

Alchemilla

I hope you guys work this out in a way that suits you both. Does Mrs E know the extent of your feelings about your present post?

edinburgher

Mrs E is well aware of my feelings, she does understand and wants me to be happy, but there is definitely quite a bit of concern around reduced income at present. The die is cast anyway, I have submitted the first application :T

It's also a bit of a game changer. By applying for a couple of jobs that pay c. 50% of my current wage, I no longer have the psychological excuse that it's too big a cut. From now on, I'll apply for anything that looks like a 'career' and is likely to bring me back to my current level within 3-5 years max.

Current level is more than sufficient. Even with a couple of kids, I have already said to Mrs E that we could quite happily stick on our current salaries and still retire early. I think that has been where the fear has been coming from - the worry that a one time drop is a forever drop. It's not the case, all of the posts that I have been looking at would have incremental pay rises based on completion of exams etc.

I think that I'm actually ok at interviews, if a little nervous. As an INJF, I get on well with small groups, I try and keep it light and have been told that I'm engaging

• £50 free bet withdrawn
• £1.27 made from a free slots promotion
• CD sold on eBay, £4 or so profit
• Money to pots
• 8.75 mile jog tonight :eek: