Second Bedroom House Dilemma

Mrs_Soup

Personally I think that people who actually live in a house shouold have priority on space over occasional guests so I wouldn't put my child(ren) in a smaller room for the sake of having a guest room. However as the son doesn't live there all the time he might well be better off having the smaller room that is "his" and not used for guests so he has a propoer palce in the new house. Also if you did at some point have other children who live with you they might need the larger room and it would be unkind to make the other child move out.

GracieP

Seeing as how you do plan on having a child/children together in the future, I think it's best if your son has the smaller room. Eventually you are going to need the 3rd room for that child and it makes sense that the child who lives in the house 14 days a fortnight has the larger room as opposed to the child who is there for 2/3 nights and has another room of his own in his mother's house. If you and your partner have more than one child, they will be sharing a room and will certainly need the bigger one.

If you give your son the bigger room now and then move him to the smaller one in the future for his half-sibling's benefit it will give him the message that he is less important to you than those new children. Consistency is key, imo, so give him the room now that he will always have in your house, so he knows he always has his own, uncompromised, space in your home.

indsty

Your little boy will be absolutely fine in the smaller room - he really won't notice the size. What he will notice is that he has a permanent "my room" at his dad's house. A room you can make specially for him that will be the same every time he visits. It will keep him happy, and it will keep your wife happy. So everyone will be happy.

Tiddlywinks

mum2one wrote: »

My daughter has the box room, L shaped room, so she has single bed on the long side and the short wall (over the stairs) she has a built in wardrobe (now houses the boiler), she has a small wardrobe, chester draws. x

I'm hoping that's a mistake... but just in case it isn't, the correct term is 'chest of drawers' as in a chest (storage box) with drawers (not 'draws').

ska_lover

IMO Kids DO notice the size of the rooms - and the importance thing. I have experience of this

Mojisola

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

I'm hoping that's a mistake... but just in case it isn't, the correct term is 'chest of drawers' as in a chest (storage box) with drawers (not 'draws').

I think the name is morphing into 'chester draws' - it's in regular use on our Freegle site.

FatVonD

I've always hated 'draws' instead of 'drawers' and 'chester' is just adding insult to injury!

notanewuser

FatVonD wrote: »

I've always hated 'draws' instead of 'drawers' and 'chester' is just adding insult to injury!

I've just had a kitchen quote through. He's said "draws" 5 times in his email and "drawers" not once. I'm tempted not to give him the work now!

Nadstar

When together with my ex, we bought a 3 bed house for him, me and his daughter. I said to put her in the box room so the larger room could be used for guests/storage/other activities (and would contain her mess somewhat as he would never get her to tidy her existing room and it looked like a bomb had gone off)

The daughter didn't care which room she had but her dad took this as a MASSIVE slight and several huge rows later, she got the bigger room.

For 2 years, she was kicked out of it every time we had guests (Predominantly people she was a blood relative to before anyone implies I was placing my social life above her) and she had to spend much of the time she got at ours tidying her room so as the guest could actually see the floor. Her dad still maintained this was for the best.

Years later, and with me no longer about on a regular basis, she has specifically requested to move into the smaller room so it can just be HERS (And amusingly, used all the reasoning that I did years ago)

Surely far better he get the room and it can be HIS?

fannyanna

OP - I agree with your OH that your Son should go into the small room (for many of the good points that other people have already raised).

I have a 3 bedroom house. If my Husband and I ever get lucky enough to have a baby I'm sure we'll turn the smallest room into a nursery and move the office into the other spare room and have a guest room/office.