Second Bedroom House Dilemma

jweb2k

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Do you usually have your son and guests at the same time? Could your son have the small room as a playroom but sleep in the "guest" room. Kids love big beds.

This is true! He's had a double bed at my rented properties for the past few years - I hadn't thought of doing out the playroom in the third bedroom and not putting a bed in it, then giving him the double bed (we would be unlikely to have guests at the same time as him I imagine, but not completely impossible).

mum2one

a thought that crossed my mind, - without sounding personal are you planning a child with your partner, thinking that if that is the case then you'd be better with your son in the big bedroom and the box room as the nursery, as your son would want his own space, (thinking future), ...

My daughter has the box room, L shaped room, so she has single bed on the long side and the short wall (over the stairs) she has a built in wardrobe (now houses the boiler), she has a small wardrobe, chester draws. x

*max*

I would definitely give your son the bigger room. You can't possibly have guests more often than every other weekend? I think that giving him the smallest room and (potential) guests the bigger one just reinforces the idea that he is only a part of your home (and of your new family unit) "part-time", and gets to have less personal space than an actual guest would. It's a bit sad, when you think about it.

jweb2k

mum2one wrote: »

a thought that crossed my mind, - without sounding personal are you planning a child with your partner, thinking that if that is the case then you'd be better with your son in the big bedroom and the box room as the nursery

A pertinent question, we have no plans for a child in the next 3 years.

maman

ska_lover wrote: »

Many guest rooms go largely unused, and seems to me to be a waste to put your son in the smallest, whilst leaving the biggest room empty for the most part..why have the second biggest bedroom for occasional visitors, when you have a regular visitor, your son?

One of my friends have done this, put her daughter in the box room and created a large guest room, which has never once been used in the two years she has lived there - its more 'just for show'

Why do guests need a room in my house, they dont pay the mortgate - it is how I see it - In our house, we have a seperate dining room which houses a bed settee. We do have a 'spare room', but prefer to utilise it for ourselves, it is a hobby room we spend lot of time in - and to be fair, if we only wanted use of two bedrooms, we would have brought a two bed. That is just me though, and obviously just sharing my thoughts - we dont tend to have lots of visitors to stay over, only two in the last year, so no way would I set a room aside to be used twice a year

I must say it came over as possibly 'for show' and OP has confirmed similar concerns. I think I'd put your son in the smaller room for now (size is absolutely fine for a child/one person IMO) but ensure that the guest room is available for him to play in or sleep in if he fancies a change. What I'd also do is make sure the guest room is dual purpose so perhaps a sofa bed or desk for work or storage or dressing room or anything than just wasted space when guests may drop in.


Then after a while review the situation. So what I'm saying is go along with your partner's idea for now but make sure she's aware that you're still undecided but are prepared to 'suck it and see'.

onlyroz

I wouldn't bother with setting up an entire room as a guest room - I'd make it into an office or play room and push a futon into the corner for guests.

peachyprice

Where do all these guests sleep when they visit you/your partner now?

JIL

My sil moaned and moaned to anyone who would listen about how dreadful the ex husband was being to his daughter. She stayed most weekends and had been given the smaller room. The guest room was not used.
Have you asked your son what room he would like? It may solve your problem and he may then feel more involved.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

If he has the smaller room, it's all his and he won't need to worry about toys, etc, having to be moved around for guests. It'll also be more affordable to make it super duper kid friendly with decorations, etc. it also means you get regular use of the larger room with ease when he's at his mum's.

I'm not saying one is wrong and one is right, I'm just trying to think of advantages here.

good_advice

Hiya, I would let your son have the larger room but neutral decorated. Not kids theme room. If you had one guest at the same time they could manage in the single overnight.
if it was a couple, your son could sleep in the single room for the 2 nights.
Explain it to your son.

We rarely have guests. When we do they get the second hand sofa bed in our front room. Once in use morning people can sit in back dining room or have breakfast on the decking in summer.