Second Bedroom House Dilemma

bagpussbear

My son had a 10x7 bedroom up until the age of 14. Be creative with the storage space, I really don't see the problem.

See how the visitor situation goes after a few months, and then you will get a feel for whether the arrangements are just fine or not.

Kayalana99

jweb2k wrote: »

This was my original thinking - but I'm assured the guests will be flooding in. Part of me believes this is a "just for show" thing as you say, a bit says it's the practicality of a 5 year old not needing anything bigger than the small room, but I'm assured we will have guests (various siblings, my parents live away and friends) on a steady schedule to warrant it.

Thanks all for your replies so far!

When me and my partner first moved in with each other I wanted a guest room ~ had a spare bed put in the 2nd but we only ever had one person stay over and thats because they fell asleep on the sofa... soooo it was never used!!

Although everyone is different....

Let him have his guest room and put your youngest into the smallest room...roll on a year or so of guest room hardly being touched I am sure he will come around to letting the little one 'move up' and everyone will get their way then.

tyllwyd

Is part of the problem that you don't want to feel that the room that you are giving him is 'second best' compared to the double room? I think the 5 year old will be fine in the smaller room for a few years yet, and by the time he has outgrown it, your situation might have changed - you might have more children, you might have moved house, lots of things could change - so it doesn't seem worth worrying too much about it now, just do what works at the moment and be flexible in the future.

pukkamum

I slept in the box room at mums, there was only enough room for a bed and small wardrobe but I loved it, it was so cosy.
Even now I prefer a small bedroom, dh moans because I put the girls sharing in the bigger bedroom and us in the smaller one, it just makes sense to me after all we just sleep in there, we don't have friends over in there!

hazyjo

You could always have a 6-12 month trial. Give him the small room, but if guests aren't staying over every few weeks, move him into the big room (if he's happy with that!).

Or maybe just ask him. You may find he wants the smaller room!

I do like arbroath lass' suggestion of having him sleep in the bigger room but have it set up as a guest room, but have his 'room' as a smaller one (just with no bed).

Jx

19lottie82

I don't think a 5 year old is going to complain about having the smaller bedroom, especially if they aren't there FT.

Put him in there just now, if things change further down the line, then review the situation.

Estateprincess

I grew up with the Box Room and I would like to think I'm a fairly well adjusted adult

I actually picked the room myself when I was 5/6. My sister was a baby and my older brother didn't come and stay much anymore as he was a teenager so Mum & Dad said I could decide which room I wanted so my sister and I would have one each.

I picked the smaller room. It was decorated in football paper so I got a new, freshly decorated room all to myself (that was my logic at that age!) I didn't really ever regret it although my Mum would probably have preferred my sister in the small room as she was really messy so there would have been less available floor space to cover!! :rotfl:


If OH and I do have a baby we will use the smaller of our two spare rooms for the baby and keep the larger as a guest room.

Poppops

tyllwyd wrote: »

Is part of the problem that you don't want to feel that the room that you are giving him is 'second best' compared to the double room? I think the 5 year old will be fine in the smaller room for a few years yet, and by the time he has outgrown it, your situation might have changed - you might have more children, you might have moved house, lots of things could change - so it doesn't seem worth worrying too much about it now, just do what works at the moment and be flexible in the future.

This is the exact question I had.

I was in a similar situation except it was my son and not my husband's. I would have been proper put out if he had suggested my son had the smaller room leaving a large room empty most of the time. I would definitely have had more questions about the reasoning for this.

chocdonuty

My guest room is an air bed in the lounge:rotfl:
Either that or dd bunks in with me and said guest goes in her room,

A room soley dedicated to guests is a bit of a waste unless it gets used frequently, otherwise make it up to be a hobby/play/office room with a sofa bed and your son sleeps in the small room,
My daughter had a 5x7 room and coped just fine, she had a toddler bed that fitted widthways and actually had a fair bit of space,

Pretty sure my room as a child was that big, 6x6 or thereabouts, even smaller! my sister had the bigger room although we did swap occasionally

Tigsteroonie

Gloomendoom wrote: »

My sister had room smaller than 9 by 7 until she left home for university. She had a cabin bed.

She grew up to be a normal, well adjusted, adult.

So did I until the age of 16 when my brother left home so I got his bigger room.

As to whether I grew up into a well-adjusted individual, that's still open to debate