pimento wrote: »
Understood but the court has deemed her ex OK to have unsupervised access and I bet if the boot were on the other foot and the OP wanted to take their son abroad with her new boyfriend, she would be on here moaning about it if the child's father had asked to meet him first.
Bluemeanie wrote: »
It sounds like you are still trying to control your ex.
NYGiants wrote: »
I was just about to write the same thing but you beat me to it..
Bluemeanie wrote: »
Again, what I meant you just have a better way of putting it.
Take offence all you like, but that is the way it appears to me. You basically want to dictate who he goes on holiday with under the guise of concern of your son. What on earth do you think she is going to do to him? And as I said what are you going to glean from her in half an hour? I would trust my Husband's judgement if we split up. If I didn't I certainly wouldn't have had a child with someone if I didn't trust them to look after out child. Your basically saying you think he would let harm come to his son. I'm not surprised he has refused. It's just another control thing and kids being used as a weapon. You should be glad your son has a stable environment and your ex is willing to take him away. Some Dad's just aren't interested and as usual, one that is trying get's dictated to/controlled.
welshone1 wrote: »
I'm not a Troll i am a mum who worries about her children, i m glad that certain people have perfect lives. But thingsare not always black & white and thank you to the the positive reponse from some posters and understanding where im going with this.
Lily-Rose wrote: »
Yes I would definitely want to meet this woman and would want to know everything about her if she was spending a week with MY kids.
Maybe she is fine, and a nice person, and will treat your child well, but I am a paranoid penguin and don't trust anyone!!! :eek:
You're probably the same
Nothing wrong with being over cautious!
Mojisola wrote: »
However there is no legal standing for one parent to insist on this unless there are known problems like drug abuse or violence. Even then, I don't think you could insist on meeting the new OH but you may be able to stop them spending time with the children.
Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »
Mojisola - I don't think you can stop any ex-partner's new partner spending time with the children per se UNLESS you have confirmed safeguarding concerns.
swingaloo wrote: »
Looking at this from another side-
I was the new girlfriend and we took my partners child on holiday for a week. I had met the child a few times prior to this.
However as a mum myself I wanted to meet the ex just so I could put her mind at ease. My partner didn't see why I needed to as he's a capable dad but as I said to him 'Your ex knows nothing about me, I would rather we met so I can show her that her daughter is comfortable with me and that Im a caring and capable person who has been a mum and not some kind of heavy drinking 19 years old who will find holidaying with a child to be a burden'.
As a mum myself I wanted to reassure the childs mum.
I think if the OPs ex has a decent partner she will want to put the mums mind at rest, seems second nature to me.
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