Does your DH over promise and under deliver?

Counting_Pennies_2

I am rather frustrated tonight.


I have always been upset when the earth is promised but so much less is delivered.


The French chateau, the pictures shown, the 'I'm going to take you there' instead end up in the aunt's static caravan with a bucket to pee in.


Countless examples. I won't bore you with them, but there are many.


Do others get the same, or is it just me being played for a fool?


I sometimes find it worse that in his pumped up chest he promises the world, and I so desperate to believe him, that there is the dream come true, just ends up shattered. But the very fact he has dangled the carrot means the disappointment is so much worse than if it had never been dangled before.


Aaarggh!


Does anyone else feel this, or is it just me?

cmace2

Yes I do!! But not such ambitious promises. Just normal, easy to do things like coming to bed instead of falling asleep on the sofa or tinkering in the garage all night. Every time he promises that it won't happen again, but guess what! I hate getting up in the morning and going to check he's not seriously injured himself and finding he is absolutely fine just a liar :mad: .

nickyhutch

I would just book the chateau myself, to be honest.

daisiegg

No mine does not...but we have only been married a year so who knows what the future holds!

74jax

I second just booking it yourself if that's what you want. Or when he says he will do something, make sure he does it or keep asking him when it will be done.

No my hubby doesn't say something then not deliver, I don't either.

getmore4less

As above if you don't like the way the holidays are booked get your finger out and organise them yourself.

Counting_Pennies_2

nickyhutch wrote: »

I would just book the chateau myself, to be honest.

The chateau is historic, the first example of him doing this

This is more complicated but basically looking back he does this all the times on the big things. Thing is I feel really let down now

It is really unfair I feel like a puppet on a string. Promised lovely things, then get excited and end up so disappointed. If the promise was not made certain decisions would not have been taken and the low is so great because so much has been built around the promise

There are days I feel I am going mad

marleyboy

I always under promise and over deliver. As no surprise is no satisfaction.

Counting_Pennies_2

marleyboy wrote: »

I always under promise and over deliver. As no surprise is no satisfaction.

The funny thing is he brags he does this. That is his mantra at work

daisiegg

getmore4less wrote: »

As above if you don't like the way the holidays are booked get your figure out and organise them yourself.

Do you mean she should show her boobs to the travel agent?l :eek: :rotfl:

balletshoes

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

The chateau is historic, the first example of him doing this

This is more complicated but basically looking back he does this all the times on the big things. Thing is I feel really let down now

It is really unfair I feel like a puppet on a string. Promised lovely things, then get excited and end up so disappointed. If the promise was not made certain decisions would not have been taken and the low is so great because so much has been built around the promise

There are days I feel I am going mad

that is a sad state of affairs. Why do you think he makes all these pie in the sky promises? Does he ever have the money/time to do these things when he promises them?

I can't really pin my OH down to major decisions ie holidays, big home projects etc, but to be honest I've got used to that over the years (its external pressures which tend to get in the way). So I do the background work, get the prices/dates etc together, then as soon as my OH knows what he can/can't do, I book it, or delay it. That way we both get what we want, within the constraints that our lives bring us.
Sometimes my OH comes out with random ideas etc, but often he's just thinking aloud, gauging my interest etc. If I'm interested in his idea, then I'll talk to him about it, and then from there I might start planning for it.