People living their lives through Facebook/Mobiles etc

building_with_lego

My boss tells us that her daughter, in between contractions, posted updates to facebook and once the baby was born (but before the placenta) demanded her phone so she could upload a photo of the baby....

I have close friends who were deeply hurt that they found out the name their grandchild had been given from a friend who had seen it on facebook.


Thinking about it maybe I'm one of the annoying posters! I do "this is our free/ cheap activity today" statuses during the holidays as a way of keeping my local friends informed of what's on in our culturally rich area. It's become a 'thing' now, so if I miss a day people ask what we've been doing

Bathory

A few weeks ago I was on the tram in Manchester city centre, this woman clearly obsessed with looking at her mobile walked out in front of the tram and almost got knocked over. Luckily the trams only go slow in the centre and the driver sounded his horn but to be so engrossed in your phone that you don't notice a huge yellow tram on the move is just scary.

I have no FB account nor Twitter, I remember society well before all this lot came about and I would hate to be contactable 24/7.

balletshoes

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This is something that is starting to get on my wick, it didn't used to previously annoy me, but its becoming so common that I think people are forgetting to enjoy the moment or their own company.

I'm not sure if i'm wording this very well, but there are two things that I've noticed that seem to happen more and more.

1. People, including some friends seem to think its ok to just pick up and check their phone every time it bleeps, even if we are talking, eating, socialising etc.


I think thats really rude, I have a couple of freinds/relatives who do that and I don't even think they're aware how addicted they are to their phones - but its like their phone takes precedence over real company and they even cut you off in mid-conversation to tend to their phone.


I was asking one friend for advice on an outfit and she was spending more time on her phone than looking at my wardrobe. I wanted to say something, but I felt I couldn't without causing offence. It happens so much this kind of thing that I think people have forgotten the fine lines between rude and etiquette.

2. People living their lives through facebook...oh look at what I'm having for breakfast, oh i missed my bus i'll just have to have a drink in costa, oh my other half is really annoying me tonight and more..... Now don't get me wrong Facebook has its advantages, but a lot of what people put is trivial, unnecessary and I think they are so busy thinking what they can put on FB that they are forgetting to live in the moment. Yes I know I don't have to read or I can scroll down, but when its people I know it catches my interest, until its too late.....

I have a smart phone, I have a facebook account, but I caught myself morphing into the above and now I actively try not to be that way. Some may think me a grumpy old wotsit, or not moving with the times, but I'm hoping some of you might understand where I am coming from.

When people say to me, oh you didn't reply to my text or did you see my post on FB, I find myself wanting to say, "No I was working, or enjoying the kids in the garden".
I find this assumption that i'm available or online all the time to be intrusive.

Feel better for that.......:D

yep, i can take days to reply to texts or fb messages (sometimes I don't bother unless I'm being asked a question where a reply is needed from me). People who know me well know the only sure way to get hold of me is to call me, not text or fb me.

In_Debt_Bet

It drives me bonkers when some one just posts a sad face on FB and receives dozens of replies along the lines of 'aw Hun what's wrong?' It's just attention seeking. I do occasionally find it useful to keep in touch with friends and relatives abroad but most of the time I find it downright annoying.

Bet

Georgiegirl256

In_Debt_Bet wrote: »

It drives me bonkers when some one just posts a sad face on FB and receives dozens of replies along the lines of 'aw Hun what's wrong?' It's just attention seeking. I do occasionally find it useful to keep in touch with friends and relatives abroad but most of the time I find it downright annoying.

Bet

I hate that too. Reeks of attention seeking. :mad: What's nearly as bad as that are the folks that panda to them and ask them what's wrong.

A friend on my DH Facebook is always doing that and people are getting sick of it and don't reply as often now.

Personally I can't stand Facebook and I deactivated my account because I got sick of the pointless updates and 'me me me' posts, and don't get me started on selfies....another attention seeking annoyance.

savingmummy

I don`t have a mobile, I ditched my little payg in 2010 and I still don`t miss it.
ALL my friends and family live with their phones in their hands - I don`t get it!!


I have facebook though and use it to talk to people who live far away, I only talk via PM`s and also share family photos.
Twitter I don`t get at all, I tried it and didn`t `get it`.

Netwizard

Oh god, my topic has arrived! Don't get me started on this! It gets right on my t!ts.

I remember a time, when I could go for a social beer with the lads from work, after a busy week, in our local social club, or out for a burger and a beer over a game of pool with a few mates, and it would be a lovely social occasion.

Not now! Every time someones bleeding phone goes off, they have to check it! Drives me up the wall.

Work nights out are another thing. I lost count of the amount of times ive been on work nights out, got home, only to find the photos of the night out, uploaded to bloody facebook before ive even got home!

Another girl on my facebook has been on holiday in Turkey, posting all of her holiday snaps on there every single day! I hope shes on wi-fi or thats one hell of a data roaming bill, but why can't she just enjoy her holiday (with her friends!) without the running commentary on facebook every few seconds.

I actually ditched my FB a while back for 6 months and didn't miss it, however, I have some friends in france and belgium, and its free to keep in contact via facebook than any other way.

I've seen people people walking through town, bashing into people because they are too busy on their phones to look where they are going. Wish i could just punch these people!

I just wish we could go back to a time where people went to the pub and spoke to each other, rather than keep checking their bloody phones. It makes me sad and angry in equal measure

System

I admit I'm slightly attached to my phone, but when I'm with people it stays out of the way. Personably I like FB, aside from texts and calls it's a free way to stay in contact with my bf (LDR) my laptop is also pretty much dead, if it worked or I could afford a new one I'd use that but instead use my phone.

I do remember the days pre mobile phones and pre internet, but I'm not sure if like to go back to that. I think used properly (and appropriately )there's nothing wrong with FB or phones.

Air_Cooled_75

Haha Netwizard, gets on my tits, most overused saying by me probably

I made a comment on fb last Monday, for the first time this year I reckon and I was inundated with 'nice to see you back' type comments. I did a bit of catching up etc. which was fine but i hate all the 'I'm eating fruit pastilles' type stuff.

I thought fb was a great way of wasting some time during work now I'm at home with a LO I just prefer to spend the free time I have doing something else.

My family live all over the place and while I did used to post pics of the LO for peeps now I tend to what's app (yes, I know fb bought it but I can really limit who sees what)

I hate all the unsolicited advertising, my timeline looked like some sort of 24/7 ad channel last time I looked!

trolleyrun

I use FB to keep in touch with friends I don't see often. I rarely put up pictures, but I do have some seriously random conversations on there

FB used properly can be a great tool for keeping in touch but it does have some downsides:
Selfies
TMI posts
"Positive inspirational quotes" (a friend of mine puts these up about 20 times a day, so had to unfollow as it was driving me bananas)
The block function can be handy if one is getting harassed by someone, but it smacks of kindergarden when used just because you didn't agree with something they said.
People using it as a diary
People adding randoms to bring their "friends" count up

I still enjoy using it, as I've only got about 40 people on it. I know every one of them and I like these people. I get requests from colleagues sometimes, but even if I like them, I don't want them as FB friends.