Letter from School quoting Abusive Language

fizz

Oh so not a Primary school child then but High School? Shred the letter, sit down with your child and have a full and frank talk about what goes on in the world......and then move on. Talk about crisis and drama!!!

fizz.x

thorsoak

cte1111 wrote: »

You think I'm naive because I don't think that it is definite that my 11 year old has heard talk about incest, rape and bestiality in the primary school playground? Interesting.

I find it extremely hard to accept the fact that any 11 year old has heard such talk in the primary school playground - what an indictment of the world we live in today! However there will be some 11 year olds who have older brothers and sisters, and who listen to them ...and then repeat what they have heard without any real knowledge of what they have heard/are repeating. What your 11 year old needs to know is that the words should not be repeated, that they walk away and report to an adult that so and so is using such words - you do not have to explain in graphic detail what such words mean. Let's try and keep some of their innocence.

You haven't answered my question though - how do you intend to deal with this situation? And how is the school dealing with it?

Tiddlywinks

cte1111 wrote: »

I presumed that the parents of the children involved had given their consent for the skype conversation to be sent out, as otherwise it would be a privacy issue. Possibly not though, as the head has previously listed number plates of cars that nearby residents have reported to her as parking inconsiderately. I did point out to her on that occasion that she may be opening herself up to legal issues, given that this was hearsay rather than necessarily fact. She didn't bother to reply to my email on this subject and has carried on with this process on other occasions.

Regarding the transcript, there is no privacy issue if the data does not identify an individual.

As to car number plate details - you really think this is a privacy breach? I can't believe you would object to the head circulating registration numbers of inconsiderate people. After all, those number plates are visible each and every day and are clear for all to see.

Your indignation should be directed at the change in society that sees children using adult sexually graphic language.

The head is just the messenger - she is not to blame for the shocking behaviour she has tried to bring to your attention..

fufu_banterwaite

This entire thread = making a mountain out of a molehill...

cte1111

As previously stated, the school has suspended 2 children. My daughter told me their names. They are not close friends of her, although one of the children who read the skype conversation was a friend (and probably how it came to the school's attention, as I know her friend's parents would have been appalled and reported it to the school).

The school had an assembly yesterday and talked about the issue with the children in this year group. I received the letter about it today.

As already stated, I've considered trying to discuss it with the head but probably will not owing to her inflexibility and other people's opinions that it's not necessary.

As already stated, I have talked to my daughter about the incident and made sure she wasn't involved. I've also reiterated that she can talk to us about anything like this.

Mojisola

cte1111 wrote: »

As already stated, I've considered trying to discuss it with the head but probably will not owing to her inflexibility and other people's opinions that it's not necessary.

Have you tried talking to any of the governors?

If enough parents feel strongly about the issue, they could ask the school to have a parents' meeting about it.

GobbledyGook

If the two girls were suspended in relation to this I imagine some things must have happened in school as well. Suspension for something that happened whilst the children were in their parents care wouldn't/shouldn't happen. If there were multiple incidents on social media there was probably incidents in school time as well, social media is an easy way for bullying to be continued once the school gates are closed.

saidan

OP

I have to say I would not want to recieve the letter either.
We recently had a letter home saying -
please monitor your childs use of the internet etc as some year 5 children have been found to be using it inappropriately. Please let me know if you wish to discuss this further.....

I didn't wish to discuss if further (my year 2 child is not involved, and is heavily supervised online at home) and so no need to contact the Head.

If I were the 5 parents of the children involved I would not want what my child had said being written down and given to all.

I think it was heavy-handed of your childs Head - and a letter saying there is a problem and inviting you to a meeting may have been more appropriate in this instance?

tough one I know, but I wouldn't appreciate that letter either...

Saying your child may have opened the mail and read it is a very weak argument and will attract more critism than anything else - certainly not an argument i'd use with the Head.

hth - and do post the outcome - given the recent letter home to me I'd be genuinely interested to know.

cte1111

Mojisola wrote: »

Have you tried talking to any of the governors?

If enough parents feel strongly about the issue, they could ask the school to have a parents' meeting about it.

I will talk to one of our friends who is a governor. Hopefully I'll see him on Monday when we pick our children up from football. I might also try to talk to another parent who is also a teacher at the school. His daughter is in my daughter's class so I'll be interested to hear his take on it and how much detail he felt was appropriate to discuss with her.

meritaten

I am totally amazed at how naïve some posters are. Haven't you listened to any group of preteens lately? I can only assume you are all in work and think that 'playground' gossip and games are still 'rounders' and 'hopscotch'.
Wake up and smell the coffee! even in primary school the playground talk is of 'boyfriends', 'my dealer dad', 'make up', 'fashion', 'sex', 'getting big boobs' and other 'grown-up issues'.

and the language is rather 'ripe'. then they trot off into the classroom and become nice polite ten year olds. butter wouldn't melt in their mouths.
Kids have always had 'secret lives' away from grown-ups. these kids are having a very scary secret life though - this is 'extreme'. perhaps the head is hoping for some parents to come forward with information?