Letter from School quoting Abusive Language

larkrisetocandleford

cte1111 wrote: »

Perhaps you are so inflexible that you would never change your opinion?

Mmm, perhaps, or perhaps there is another explanation?

cte1111

larkrisetocandleford wrote: »

Mmm, perhaps, or perhaps there is another explanation?

Such as what?

fufu_banterwaite

cte1111 wrote: »

Such as what?

I think larkrise might be referring to what I am saying in my post (#152) - am I right larkrise?

whodathunkit

cte1111 wrote: »

Indeed. You know people can sometimes come round to understanding a different POV from that they started with.

Not usually in half an hour though.

cte1111

OK well I've obviously spent the last few years carefully building up a post count to start a pointless thread in order to fool you all... Or possibly I wanted to hear other people's opinions and have taken them on board.

fufu_banterwaite

cte1111 wrote: »

OK well I've obviously spent the last few years carefully building up a post count to start a pointless thread in order to fool you all... Or possibly I wanted to hear other people's opinions and have taken them on board.

Which is it?

Janepig

meritaten wrote: »

I am totally amazed at how naïve some posters are. Haven't you listened to any group of preteens lately? I can only assume you are all in work and think that 'playground' gossip and games are still 'rounders' and 'hopscotch'.
Wake up and smell the coffee! even in primary school the playground talk is of 'boyfriends', 'my dealer dad', 'make up', 'fashion', 'sex', 'getting big boobs' and other 'grown-up issues'.

and the language is rather 'ripe'. then they trot off into the classroom and become nice polite ten year olds. butter wouldn't melt in their mouths.
Kids have always had 'secret lives' away from grown-ups. these kids are having a very scary secret life though - this is 'extreme'. perhaps the head is hoping for some parents to come forward with information?

I think parents, even outwardly sensible parents, are incredibly naive when it comes to their child/children's use of the internet. My DD is in year 6 and has an ipod touch with the usual Facebook, Kik, Instagram, etc... available to her, heavily policed by myself, and I'm amazed by the sort of bullying tripe alot of her classmates are allowed to post. Admittedly nowhere near what has been detailed in the OP's posts, but still, if I caught DD posting stuff to her "friends" that she's had posted to her then I would knock her block off (and she knows it!).

It has calmed down a bit now but even stupid stuff like one of them will do a Bio on Instagram with who their BFF's are and someone who isn't included will take offence and all hell will break loose. DD had a "boyfriend" before Christmas (I use the term very lightly, they had two "dates" and barely spoke to each other!) and she received messages from so called "friends" expressing surprise that she had a boyfriend because she's "buzzing" etc...

The mother of one of DD's best friends actually asked me to report her DD to her if I read anything inappropriate because I was more likely to see it than she was! Her DD was posting messages on instagram with another girl the other day which included some fairly fruity swear words - I chuckled a bit at another one of DD's classmates telling them off on there for it!

I know the school have worked quite hard at promoting internet safety with the kids, they have the Police to visit and do assemblies about it. How much of it sinks in though I don't know. They think they know everything at that age don't they!

My DD is well behaved, quiet and well mannered. However, I am not so naive as to think that she doesn't get up to nonsense in school as the other thing she is is a sheep, unfortunately. I just keep trying to drum into her that she must never say or do anything to anyone, that would upset her if it was done to her.

Jx

slightlyconfused1

Unfortunately we can't monitor our kids all the time. The mobile phone we give them to help keep them safe also exposes them to unsupervised use of internet etc.

I appreciate all the info I can get so that I can have a meaningful conversation with my children. Your child doesn't have to take part in these "discussions" to be sent nasty threatening messages. I was shocked by what was alluded to in the first post and it will certainly prompt a discussion in this house today.

If the letter from the school had said "inappropriate language" it wouldn't have had any impact at all. I think you have a very wise head teacher who knows how to deal with parents very well.

mrcow

larkrisetocandleford wrote: »

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Where has the OP stated that the school has disciplined those involved by suspension? If she has then that is another issue but I haven't read that.

It's been mentioned several times in the thread. Post 136 confirms it.

FBaby

Wake up and smell the coffee! even in primary school the playground talk is of 'boyfriends', 'my dealer dad', 'make up', 'fashion', 'sex', 'getting big boobs' and other 'grown-up issues'

And maybe that is exactly why parents can start getting into ridiculous plots to avoid their children going to certain schools.

What surprise me about this thread is that OP seems more concerned by the fact that the letter was sent rather than that this type of activity is taking place in her child's school. I would have been reassured to be made aware of it so I could monitor what was done about it. The idea that this kind of conversation was common place in the playground would certainly prompt me to consider another school unless it was identified that it affected only very specific pupils and that the matter was dealt with very quickly.