talk me down please

mellymoo74

Figured out why Ty is threatening him.
Guess who's bullying Pickles.....

mellymoo74

Been pathetic
The news was that I had a meeting about a job
I have been putting off calling them as I got stupid.

Instead of remembering that I am currently living shifts, I panicked at the idea of working them.
Instead of thinking about the lack of commute means a 45 hour week is doable, I worried about coping

Stupid stupid me

mellymoo74

Fed up!!!!

elsien

You're not pathetic or stupid.
It's perfectly reasonable to wonder about how you'd cope when you're already in a situation where lots of people wouldn't. FWIW, I wouldn't want a 45 hour week and I don't have any of the difficulties that you're managing at the moment. Cut yourself some slack, woman!

Ref the carer assessment thing, can pets be in the other room with OH, or in a crate in the same room as you.
If this is a care act assessment there should also be options for telephone or online assessment. Personally I wouldn't recommend it because seeing the situation in person can have far more impact on the assessor but if it's remote or nothing then remote is something. You should also qualify for an advocate to help batter some sense into the local authority although they're not always great at offering it. And an advocate can help you challenge if they offer less than you need.

Do something nice for yourself tonight. I can guarantee you've earned it.

surveyqueenuk

But Melly, I'm not sure a 45 hour week would be doable. It wouldn't matter if your new workplace was three streets down from you, you'd still be out of the house for all that time and you'd still have to do everything you're already doing once you got back. And you're not a well woman yourself are you?

Your health and your needs matter

mellymoo74

Well it's been offered now need to figure out what to do.

I don't k ow whether a lot of my issues will recede if I'm back using my brain.
Also very concerned about money as we all know PIP will go again and we will be back to starving.

mellymoo74

It's both the assessment and people coming in to care whilst I'm out.
Having a call at 8 to find out full offer.

mellymoo74

Driving me mad in his quest for ladies

mellymoo74

Start Monday
Had offer letter etc
Let's see how it goes
Xx

elsien

Well done melly on getting the job offer.
Whether it turns out to be the right thing for you or not, I hope it's given you back some of the confidence that having knock backs tends to affect.
I know when I was job hunting even if the job wasn't what I wanted I still went into "what's wrong with me" mode when they said no.

That's a very quick start though/ Does it give you enough time to start to put things in place?