talk me down please

Georgiegirl256

pinkandblueshoe wrote: »

You did better than me ognum, I was referred to as a man hater for my previous post on here (which Im absolutely not) and accused of flaming. Which I wasn't. At all. Yes we bring our experiences into everything we post, but to make judgement like that on me simply for trying to (kindly) suggest that you could be dealing with your issues another way, it says more about you than it does about me. Ive got better things to do with my time than deliberately provoke people on a forum. I think this thread will run fine as long as people agree with everything you say and tip toe around you, otherwise not.

I think the OP has got used to functioning in chaos and can't seem to function any other way. I get it, because life has been pretty much chaos for some time.

I find it more than a bit odd OP that you and other people seemed to have a reaction to me suggesting your OH was being less than pleasant to you (referred to a man hater no less), but you post a few pages back that if he continues to behave the way hes been doing, you wont be with him for more than another year.

And Im going to say no more than this because I cant be bothered getting insulted again. When you post a thread, as soon as the first person posts, its no longer yours, you take the chance of people not always agreeing with you. I wont be posting on here again, don't worry, just really didn't like being called names I felt I didn't deserve.

Take care of yourself.

Woah!! Where did that come from?

The way I see it is that for Melly, this thread is a place where she can talk and to get out all her emotions, and personally I can't see anything wrong with that.

Yes, it's frustrating sometimes when people ask for advice and then either don't listen or dismiss it, but at the end of the day, that's all it is, advice. Don't take offence that someone didn't like your advice on how you thought she should deal with things.

I can see in some respects where you are coming from, but at the end of the day, this is melly's thread, and she should be able to post about whatever she wants to without any critisism. I see it as more of a diary tbh, and it is obviously of help to her or she wouldnt continue with it.

ognum

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Woah!! Where did that come from?

The way I see it is that for Melly, this thread is a place where she can talk and to get out all her emotions, and personally I can't see anything wrong with that.

Yes, it's frustrating sometimes when people ask for advice and then either don't listen or dismiss it, but at the end of the day, that's all it is, advice. Don't take offence that someone didn't like your advice on how you thought she should deal with things.

I can see in some respects where you are coming from, but at the end of the day, this is melly's thread, and she should be able to post about whatever she wants to without any critisism. I see it as more of a diary tbh, and it is obviously of help to her or she wouldnt continue with it.

I admire your support and encouragement but I have issue with one thing.

This is not in a diary section it is one a general board and while of course the OP can post how she feels she and others who post here have to accept that other posters will and can critisis as that is the nature of the forum.

I have been critical and said what I think in the past, I do not regret my posts they were critical in some ways but we're also designed to be supportive which in my opinion is more useful than the fuzzy 'oh poor you, big hug' type post than seems common on this thread.

If the OP wants a diary this should be moved to a diary section or a different forum.

Georgiegirl256

ognum wrote: »

I admire your support and encouragement but I have issue with one thing.

This is not in a diary section it is one a general board and while of course the OP can post how she feels she and others who post here have to accept that other posters will and can critisis as that is the nature of the forum.

I have been critical and said what I think in the past, I do not regret my posts they were critical in some ways but we're also designed to be supportive which in my opinion is more useful than the fuzzy 'oh poor you, big hug' type post than seems common on this thread.

If the OP wants a diary this should be moved to a diary section or a different forum.

That was just my view on it. Maybe not a diary then? Maybe just a place where she can get out all her thoughts that are bothering her?

Totally agree with you though, I DO think that sometimes people have to tell it like it is, and that might come across as harsh, but sometimes there is a need for it, and a virtual hug just isn't going to cut it....although having said that, sometimes it's just nice to know that someone is there and is listening. Totally depends on the situation.

If the thread bothers people or they get easily offended by things that are said, done, or not done, then they should just stay off it and just let it plod on nicely.

Anyhow, back on topic....hope you're doing ok Melly, and if you have to go back to the hospital for further checks etc, then go!! Your OH and furries will manage without you. They need for you to be well.

mellymoo74

It isn't a diary, the title of the thread still stands. It was always about dealing with my OHs disfunctional family and it still about dealing with that only more now about how do I help my OH deal with it.
Too me it operates in the same way as Jackrs and Moo loos threads.

I also welcome different types of advice, I don't always take it but it is always considered.

I don't welcome random attacks but I am big enough and ugly enough to call people out on that as I just have done and that isn't directed at you Ognum.

Anyway

Occupational therapy assessment is going to be Thursday, from what she was saying their looking at access so it's not going to help as our needs are partially access but mainly impact noise is having in OHS mental and my physical health.

ETA - lost another one dig *cry* checked with the nice lady who lives at MIL'S and she's not cut them down do going to get some more end of august

mellymoo74

Gratuitous froo pic

wannabe_sybil

Thanks for the gratuitous pic - much needed here.

Recently I heard water rushing out from the house behind, water trickling down front steps, got the landlord out at 1.30am, they drilled the door out at 2.30am. The next morning there were two police vans outside. Apparently, and this is speculation, they were growing weed there. They rented the house, paid the rent on time and just called around now and then to top up water etc. I don't know what care was needed as I have killed every geranium that has ever come into this house but I never heard a lawnmower.

They were the best neighbours we ever had there. I'm sort of sorry they were caught because while what they were doing may have been illegal and connected with organised crime, violence and awful stuff - they were quiet.

Sending hugs.

mellymoo74

Bloody hell WS
I sympathise neighbour before these was a coke head party girl who beat her girlfriends it was much easier to deal with than constant toddler temper tantrums.

Just fed and had a cat food flavoured love, he's gone to bed with OH now.

Right work so getting a move on

mellymoo74

I know why OH is so wound up when I get in now.

The noise is so bad the walls are shaking.

Apparently an hour (so far) of both of them jumping in one spot is fine.

Occupational therapy assessment this aft.

As an aside my leg is very weak today (own fault walked to work) so I'm listing like I'm drunk

DigForVictory

Atta gal M, keep at it with cuttings & share them around to improve the odds? I've two dog roses at the local rail station after I asked the chap responsible for the floral side. He got baby plants, I got peace of mind & someone else nursing the fragile stages, everyone gets roses.

mellymoo74

Good plan dig there's a couple of places I could give them too.

Assessment went like this.

OT assessor 'I am going to contact HA as this is an inappropriate assessment, you need a medical assessment'

Me 'I know, sorry about this'