talk me down please

mellymoo74

Found out what set him off.
Remember vulnerable neighbour he died at 3.30am yesterday morning his elderly mother came round and told OH.
He has said he went numb

dragonette

oh, yes that could be a very strong trigger atm! Coming so soon after MiL especially.


Lots of (((hugs))) and hopes of endurance for you

mellymoo74

He's pumped me full of painkillers. Covered me in witch hazel anx I am on couch with dogs.
Ribs and knee are really sore

meritaten

oh dear melly - sorry to hear about the neighbour!
hmmmm - your body must be getting desperate if it just shut down on you! REST!
and let OH look after you - it will be good for him.

mellymoo74

No sleeping for me.
Really tired but ribs hurt and can't sleep

DigForVictory

How're you today?
Himself?
The livestock?

Hoping this weekend can be a rest & recover a bit more time for you all!

meritaten

I sympathise with damaged ribs! had them myself and honestly, trying to get comfortable enough to sleep was difficult!
I found that painkillers half hour before bed, then folding a spare duvet in quarters and putting it on the mattress - then a pile of pillows which I could 'arrange' to suit - did help. I felt like 'The princess and the pea' I had so many pillows! but, I did find I could get comfortable enough to sleep after a bit of 'rearranging' pillows.

mellymoo74

Himself had another all animals must go attack.
Mr T escaped briefly then we had an ace game of chase and he finally came in (gotta love dreamies)
Without any drs reports the housing has assessed us as level 3 don't need to move so will be sorting that out tomorrow.
Following the loss of power our delightful upstairs neighbours (who blocked OH on the car park when he needed to get to his mum, and when they were told the situation had a lovely stomp around upstairs) left a passive aggressive note telling us not too touch their property.
Don't think they liked me asking them whether the caution live apparatus don't touch tape hadn't given away it was a power company and that actually it's not their property it belongs to the power company.
Ribs and knee still bloody hurt.
OH is much better he kept the painkillers flowing yesterday and left me on the couch with the dogs.

mellymoo74

Yep upstairs didn't like it pointing out. They have been stomping around since 6.30am.
Housing have assessed us as nit needing to move. So about to have fun drafting my response.
I knew MIL'S had gone as the day before they were told there was a woman and child looking for MILS house number and she was saying we can't look at it officially yet but we can have a nose through the windows

meritaten

I had a 'feeling' that the house would have been 'allocated' as soon as you notified them that MIL had died. So sorry melly. but, in a way, don't you think its better that you make a 'clean break'? that house held some very bad memories.
I think OH does the 'Pets must go' thing to punish himself. in a perverse kind of way he gets annoyed and to punish himself he thinks of a worse case scenario for himself. ergo, Pets must go. I don't think its to annoy you or punish YOU. its to do with HIM. he needs to learn that he doesn't have ANYTHING to punish himself for! he was a lovely son - my sons are lovely and he sounds like them. A son any right-thinking mother would be proud of!