I'll tell you what annoys me...

sax11

toniq wrote: »

I just saw some of the posts in this thread as mean, simple as.

Fair enough. As i said , people take offence. Depends on how you interpret a comment.

toniq

I didn't take what sax said as horrid, The were responding to me saying I'm taking my expensive baby to bed.

purplebutterfly

BlueBella wrote: »

Such a sensitive subject should NOT be discussed on here - or mocked!

That is EXACTLY the point I was trying to make earlier! If you put something sensitive on the internet, you open yourself up to hurt feelings.

There's no "should" or "should not". It's like deliberately sticking your head in a wasps nest and then complaining when they sting you.

Humans judge, humans can be cruel - it is part of what defines us as sentient beings.

I'm not mocking anyone, I'm not disputing anyone's pain or suffering; I am simply saying that I find it strange that anyone would willingly open up the most private parts of their life to public scrutiny. If you choose to do so, you have to accept the consequences.

The internet does NOT care about your sensibilities. Everything you write, every photo you post will be accessible forever. I think a lot of people still don't understand that.

in2win

2 points to be made here...

1:- Dont feed the trolls.

2:- Everyone is a hero or has an opinion on the net, its the field of dreams for people who cant handle real life confrontations.

3:- ok this is just a distraction and completely unrelated.


Keep calm and carry on :beer:

sax11

in2win wrote: »

2 points to be made here...

1:- Dont feed the trolls.

2:- Everyone is a hero or has an opinion on the net, its the field of dreams for people who cant handle real life confrontations.

3:- ok this is just a distraction and completely unrelated.


Keep calm and carry on :beer:

damn - read point 1
notice 3 points
and read opening line

confused

in2win

I would hope so ;-) thats the point of no.3 - re-read it.

Moneybot

BlueBella wrote: »

Sax that is a horrible thing to say - it is an insult/dig at any person who has lost a child or struggled to have a child :eek: Such a sensitive subject should NOT be discussed on here - or mocked!

And yet it is used at a comment under a facebook post to win a prize which was the original point to this thread.

Anybody who feels they need to post comments about dead relatives/illness/dying pets etc to win a competition are then open to whatever the 'nets throw at them.

toniq

Moneybot that post was regarding an Msers baby who died of a cotdeath, she had his headstone funded from a wish from a comp. No that is not open to peoples abuse, It's her loss of a child how/where she mentions it is her business.

Moneybot

toniq wrote: »

Moneybot that post was regarding an Msers baby who died of a cotdeath, she had his headstone funded from a wish from a comp. No that is not open to peoples abuse, It's her loss of a child how/where she mentions it is her business.

The trouble is there is no way of telling if the person really needs the money to buy a headstone for her dead baby or they have made up the story to win a prize.

Anything posted on the internet is open to abuse and I mean anything. It can be the saddest, most personal thing ever but as soon as you post it where other people can comment you are open to any and all kind of crap that people can and will post.

It is her business where and how she mentions it but and it's a big but once it's out there you will get responses you may not like.

The internet is a rather unpleasant jungle all be it with a large number of pictures of fluffy cats.

purplebutterfly

toniq wrote: »

Moneybot that post was regarding an Msers baby who died of a cotdeath, she had his headstone funded from a wish from a comp. No that is not open to peoples abuse, It's her loss of a child how/where she mentions it is her business.

I didn't even know about the "wish" comp. I saw the same comment posted a couple of times on competitions to win £100 etc. I'm pretty sure they were random draws too, so no need to mention it at all. The fact that it was unnecessary to make it public was what shocked me at the time.

The comp today for the vouchers was also a random draw, so why on earth mention heart transplants/surrogacy/IVF? You could just have said "my best freebie was a spray from a perfume counter".

It annoys people when others use emotional blackmail to try to win a potato masher - and they do!

Once you put something in the public domain, you have no control over it. So anything you don't want mentioning again, you keep to yourself - it's not rocket science.