feel so sad and lonely in my marriage

FBaby

Or could it be that you are the type to say in 1000 words what you could say in 5? That's me, I love to talk and can go on and on to the point when I lose my audience way before I reach the important part

My husband is a good listener but will tune out when I get in my talkative mood. I don't blame him because I know what it is like...by DD is worse than me and I too tune out after a while she she goes on and on about a film she's seen or a book she is reading which mean nothing to me at all. Even worse, sometimes I have a habit of repeating myself too!

It's not just with OH, I do it here, write a novel to say what others do in one line The problem is with me, not my OH!

Mr_Toad

valk_scot wrote: »

My OH regularly replies to emails in single words like "Yes" or "Four" or "Noon". I don't mean just emails to me either, I mean work emails or from friends. When I remark this is a bit terse he says that if someone sends an email asking say if he's finished the last batch of marking what else is there to say but Yes or No? As someone who will quite happily write several paragraphs to say Yes or No I don't understand this at all. But it seems to work for him.

There's nothing wrong with being concise and to the point. I'd rather be concise and spend my time doing something else.

My phone conversations are short and to the point. I get a call,

Pub?
When?
7.30
Right

Call ends. All that needed to be said was said, anything more is superfluous.

On the other hand the memsahib gets a call, she talks for 20 mins and after the call ends she tells me she's meeting X for a drink after work.

I often wonder what they spent the other 19 and a half minutes talking about but never ask because she might tell me!

System

My Dad was never a talkative sort of man. His motto was 'Why say two words when one will do'. My brother is much the same but he verges on ignorance.

Mind you, he was married to my Mom. My Dad that is, not my brother.:D

beautiful_ravens

OP I had this problem with my ex, but my fiance is the opposite, so Ive seen both sides.

My ex would do this stare-and-wait. I could be talking about trivia or relationship threatening stuff, still the stare-and-wait. I think the only time he spoke to me properly was when it was too late, after Id said it was over and when it really was all over. He told me all the answers to 12 years of questions. Absolutely bizarre but didnt help one bit.

My fiance however, loves a good old discussion - about interesting things. If I talk about mundania I can see the fog forming over his eyes so I start talking gobbledegook til he notices, then we have a laugh. But then I do the same to him when he chats about mundania, which isnt often. Start on about NWO, prepping, pollution or current affairs and we're away. But then we dont watch TV and our relationship began with massive discussions, so its a continuation of that.

He is unusual for a man though, but, my brother is the same, loves a good discussion. One time back home we nearly had a physical fight over an argument about the possible size of outer space.
And my partners friends are very talkative, infact when they all get together its the women who talk in single grunts, not the men.

Tamsin_Temrin

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

Telly. My wife will just turn over if she wants. Not even ask.

Music? She hates my music. And will turn it off as she walks past on the way to the kitchen, saying "This is rubbish"

Should I divorce her ? :rotfl:

If your fine with being treated with contempt, no problem.