Regret moving!

DKLS

Start planning the move back.

DigForVictory

+1 for Move.

If for no other reason than your son is not thriving at school.

Just do so with all reasonable speed & mindful of exam times?

duchy

It's all very well to say "move back" but it isn't always practical.

It could be a long term plan but depending on the age of your son disrupting his education again may not improve anything.

Frankly you sound bored out of your mind -no wonder you're depressed. Even if you can't currently find a job there is volunteering or even studying to get extra skills that will lead to work really you need to get out of the house.
Why are you scared about jury service ? It's nothing to worry about, quite interesting to see how the justice system works (in between stretches of boredom waiting to be allocated a case or when the jury are chucked out of court whilst the judge and barristers argue points of law-take a book or magazine -you'll need it !!) and you'll meet some new people. If nothing else it's a chance to treat yourself to lunch out every day for two weeks at the expense of the court
Look on it as a chance to get out of your rut rather than a negative chore and who knows where it could lead. A change sounds just what you need !

I don't agree every move from rural to urban is a disaster - but I do think you have to make more effort to build social networks than you do in a town. A friend who moved is now heavilly involved in salsa classes in Wales, another friend who moved got a job in a pub just to get to know people and network. Even something like the WI might introduce you to new friends. I do think if you're not working and your children are secondary school age so you don't have the school playground to meet other Mums opportunities that we tend to take for granted when kids are younger you need to make more effort to actually meet people.

BitterAndTwisted

If your husband's job has turned out to be a joke, what are his views on the move you made?

To be honest, looking at where you decided to move to, you'd be hard-pressed to have chosen anywhere more remote. I know, because I lived not far from there when I was a youngster, and the locals were definitely not welcoming either. Even if there was stuff to do in order to get to know them. Which there wasn't. Even if there were jobs locally to achieve the same thing, which there weren't, not to an outsider.

Mojisola

weeze210 wrote: »

We moved, Son, Husband and I two and a half years ago to rural Wales.

Job took 12months to materialise and it isn't what he thought it would be. He had to work away as an electrician till job happened.

Son isn't happy, hes not doing so well at school, sits in his room on xbox talking to old friends when not at school,

and I'm bloody miserable.

More than two years and no-one is happy.

Why aren't you actively looking at moving?

SailorSam

My Nan & Grandad moved to North Wales after my Grandad retired but my Nan regreted it. They'd had a couple of caravans in Rhyl since i was very young and all our holidays were there. They were really looking forward to being there permantly, unfortunately when my Grandad died it left my Nan on her own and she missed all her old friends, found it difficult to make new friends at her age and on her own so moved back home. I think if my Grandad had lived they would have stayed.

duchy

So you aren't happy,son isn't happy.........what about your husband-How does he feel ?

weeze210

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Your family members have their own lives to lead - you can't expect them to keep making the trip - you could always visit them.

This is your life, you are in the driving seat, if you don't like where you are then you need to accept that or actively do something about it.

How does your OH feel about things? You haven't really mentioned his feelings.

I have visited them lots of times was going back about once a month but have given up in the last 5/6months as although they always seemed pleased to see me no one has bothered to do the journey this way.

weeze210

duchy wrote: »

So you aren't happy,son isn't happy.........what about your husband-How does he feel ?

He loves it here even though he is stressed about his job he still wants to stay here and is looking for extra work as the wages are so poor.

securityguy

weeze210 wrote: »

I have visited them lots of times was going back about once a month but have given up in the last 5/6months as although they always seemed pleased to see me no one has bothered to do the journey this way.

Why should they? They aren't the ones who moved.