flushing the toilet at night (when you live above another flat)

jellybeans_2

t0rt0ise wrote: »

My theory with children was that if I kept quiet at night, whispering, tiptoeing round and not flushing loos, that's what they'd get used to and never sleep through noise. So I did none of those things and just lived normally and the children were, and still are now as adults, able to sleep through anything. The neighbour here was obviously brought up with the 'hush, the baby's asleep' type of parents. So be warned new parents, being quiet for the baby is a big mistake.

I was brought up flushing the loo everytime. I had never heard of anyone not flushing until I had these problems with my current neighbour- hence my post to see if I've somehow missed out on social etiquette living in blocks of flats. I've lived in 2 other blocks where everyone flushed though- I also sleep through it so I think your theory could be correct!

EmmaHerts

Personally- I am not good with noise when I am sleeping but that is why I sleep with EARPLUGS!

Annabee

I think it is correct about learning how to sleep as a baby. I was brought up in the era where you put the baby in a pram down the garden to sleep. Any little noise at night will wake me up. In our first house, the neighbours clock radio used to wake me up in the morning, about an hour before I needed to get up. So I started wearing earplugs and now find it hard to sleep without them.

Whereas when my daughter was a baby she would sleep in the living room with everything going on around her. She is still a very good sleeper today.

Since the soundproofing at your flats is obviously inadequate OP couldn't you make a gesture by not flushing at night unless, ahem, it is absolutely necessary? Saves water as well!

But it is certainly unreasonable of the neighbour to bang on the ceiling everytime you dare to get out of bed. They sound a bit unhinged and I think it is them that should think about moving to somewhere more isolated or with better soundproofing.

ConfusedofYorkshire

Annabee wrote: »

I think it is correct about learning how to sleep as a baby. I was brought up in the era where you put the baby in a pram down the garden to sleep. Any little noise at night will wake me up. In our first house, the neighbours clock radio used to wake me up in the morning, about an hour before I needed to get up. So I started wearing earplugs and now find it hard to sleep without them.

Whereas when my daughter was a baby she would sleep in the living room with everything going on around her. She is still a very good sleeper today.

Hmmm, well that's one theory. But my baby sleepy in the living room and had constant noise. He barley slept as a newborn (when compared to normal newborns) and hasn't slept a lot since. He used to sleep though noise, now the slightest noise wakes him. So he sleeps with white noises on in order to drown out creeks of floor boards etc.

Unfortunately I think some bad sleepers are just born that way.

jellybeans_2

Annabee wrote: »

Since the soundproofing at your flats is obviously inadequate OP couldn't you make a gesture by not flushing at night unless, ahem, it is absolutely necessary? Saves water as well!

Thanks for your replies. I have been doing not flushing since he said that the loo flush was a problem (unless I knew he was already awake or it was necessary), and shall carry on this way whilst I live here and he still has a problem. It is annoying though as he is not behaving reasonably or doing more to help himself. I wouldn't have minded at all if he asked me nicely instead of banging.

There has been opinions both ways for if to flush or not, so if/when I move or get new neighbours I shall just have to see what the soundproofing and my neighbours are like and do what is best. thank you everyone

Jinx

I used to live in a four in a block and my downstairs neighbour was always complaining about the noise. I found it all really stressful as he was complaining about day to day noise (me and my 5 year old) Eventually I had to get the Council involved (he was always threatening to report me) and they basically warned him to stop complaining about normal day to day noise.

However, I never really relaxed in that house and was VERY glad to move. I wish you well.

cottage_retreatist

I say ignore him! I can lie in my bed and hear my neighbours above when they do a particularly 'powerful' (racehorse is the word that comes to mind) Number 1 (apologies if TMI) :eek: :eek: and I don't complain - I don't want them to tell me what they hear from my flat below them!

So tell your neighbour he's lucky!!!!!! Or maybe that's what he's complaining about rather than the flushing?

Alias_Omega

This guy is totally off it, I have seen with it an elderly relative in our family, who lived opposite a Tesco supermarket in the city centre.

During the night, they would collect the trolleys from the car parks, and my relative would complain constantly about the noise. They had a bedroom at the rear of the property away from the noise..but chose not to sleep in it..

So this guy below you, this is the first step, the next step is telling you that you cant have friends around, and then telling you that you cant bring anyone back after a night out...

I have a 1000w surround sound system (Samsung HT-Z315) which is ideal, if next door start moaning we drown them out by putting the radio on...

thefrugaltrial

I've had noisey neighbours, neighbours so bad I had to check into a hotel one night to have a decent sleep after non-stop music for 3 weekends in a row and being on the verge of a breakdown. I've had rows with different noisey neighbours about being respectful to others about noise levels (all day/night bbq every slightly warm weekend) sometimes I think I am the one with the problem as I have had rows with many neighbours in a lot of different flats. However, I have never asked someone to not flush the loo at night or tell them when to go to bed!! I think your neighbour is highly unreasonable. I think you should do the 'if its yellow, let it mellow' etc but otherwise flush!!

I was told once by a neighbour that I walk heavily. I never realised. A cheap pair of slippers sorted that out as you tend to shuffle in slippers. Have you tried that? Otherwise, don't be intimidated by your neighbour.