Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

Generali

mystic_trev wrote: »

Gen, I'm really sorry to hear you're having such a rough time at the moment and I do hope things will start to improve for you. I really mean that!

At least seeing the Windies beat the Aussies at the twenty 20 must have been therapeutic? Chis Gayle certainly enjoyed it!

http://metro.co.uk/2014/03/28/chris-gayle-celebrates-west-indies-t20-win-with-seriously-aggressive-gangnam-style-before-falling-over-4681808/

I don't feel that I should be having a rough time, that's the hard bit. I try to work a bit and I feel a f ing mess, just horrible. I'm angry, I can't even type. I've broken 2 keyboards in 2 days by punching them and I think I might have done in the lawnmower with a chair.

The Windies thing reminded me of the Tony Greig/'Make them grovel' tour.

Ha!

The best Test cricket ever:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXsfEdJ_G5w

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Nikkster

*insert expletive*

Plumber is due at 9. Therefore woken by an alarm for the 2nd Saturday in a row (unheard of nowadays!).

Have just had some breakfast and was entertaining myself by pretending to be a dragon (it is chilly so I can see my breath - that is BREATH, michaels ).

08:52 - the boiler decides to kick into action after 9 days of inaction and resisting my attempts to persuade it into life. I am now, for the first time, hoping it stops.

Edit: Phew! It stopped working again as he knocked on the door

Edit again: I think the hum of the boiler working is now my favourite sound.

hjd

Generali wrote: »

I don't feel that I should be having a rough time, that's the hard bit. I try to work a bit and I feel a f ing mess, just horrible. I'm angry, I can't even type. I've broken 2 keyboards in 2 days by punching them and I think I might have done in the lawnmower with a chair.

The Windies thing reminded me of the Tony Greig/'Make them grovel' tour.

Ha!

The best Test cricket ever:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXsfEdJ_G5w

?

You're allowed to feel angry, and if you can't take it out on your family then the inanimate objects will get it. Probably safer that way!
Cut yourself some slack.
BTW, I'm very good at dishing out advice but not so good at taking it myself, especially when it comes to health!

Nikkster

Generali wrote: »

I don't feel that I should be having a rough time, that's the hard bit. I try to work a bit and I feel a f ing mess, just horrible. I'm angry, I can't even type. I've broken 2 keyboards in 2 days by punching them and I think I might have done in the lawnmower with a chair.

The Windies thing reminded me of the Tony Greig/'Make them grovel' tour.

Ha!

The best Test cricket ever:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXsfEdJ_G5w

?

You don't feel like you should be having a rough time because you don't deserve to be ill? Completely agree.

You don't feel like you should be having a rough time because you haven't been through a lot/ should be feeling better by now etc? Completely disagree.
You have been through a lot physically, and I'm guessing continue to do so mentally. I admire you for trying to keep going with work (if it was me I'm sure I'd be trying if only as a distraction), but you need to allow yourself as much time as you find you need to recover.

Look after yourself, Gen.

neverdespairgirl

tomterm8 wrote: »

Um, I've now down 80lb from my highest recorded weight ( over quite a long period of time) ; I'd lost around 20lb I think before that but I can't be sure. I've got around 30 lb to lose to get to my target which is simply to get out of the obese category and onto the 'overweight' category by BMI. Despite what the labels say, 'overweight' is probably the category with the best health outcomes for most people.

That's a seriously impressive weight loss - 80lb or 100lb, whcihever it is, you get full marks for self discipline and effort and hard work!

zagubov wrote: »

When my grandpa (who we had little contact with) died, my parents hid it from us kids as it was Christmas Eve. They made sure we enjoyed Christmas, even though they must have been suffering immensely. With benefit of being a parent now, I realise that's what we'd have done, and I suppose most parents would have done.

Fifteen years later my other grandfather died (us kids were all adults, and they held a proper wake with good food and a knees up). He was the "jelly-man" I described some threads back.

The way the country worked in WW2 was remarkable and needs to be studied by everybody IMHO. There used to be a GCSE World History which covered 1870 onwards. I got one of the revision guides back in the 90s and it made me realise how much I'd undervalued history. The early 20th century had so much going on it could have give almost every other stage in history a good run for its money I reckon.:)

My maternal grandmother died on 17th December 2003, which put a bit of a damper on Christmas that year - it wasn't possible to arrange her funeral before Christmas either, so it was postponed until 2nd January and loomed over us.

She'd been ill for a few weeks beforehand, and had arranged for me to buy Christmas presents for Mama and her brother and bring them to her for approval. That helped both my mother and uncle, in a tearful kind of way, once I handed them over on Christmas Day.

My GCSE was 1918 to 1939, and my grandmother (the same one) was rather offended that a history course started 3 years after her own birth. She thought it rude (-:

Granny was born in July 1915, not long after the sinking of the Lusitania off Ireland. Her own grandmother was a stewardess on Lusitania, and lived to tell the tale. She was banned from the sea after the sinking until the war was over, much to her irritation, but went back to Cunard in 1919 and was a stewardess and then Chief Stewardess on the Mauritania until she retired. The Mauritania was itself sunk during the Second World War, after having been bagged by the Navy, but fortunately my g-g-grandmother wasn't on it at the time!

neverdespairgirl

SingleSue wrote: »

My ex mother in law said the bumpf from the hospital prior to my hysterectomy was wrong as her friend had been released from hospital the same day and she was back at work and driving within 2 days.

Unfortunately, ex hubby believed her rather than the hospital and decided I was malingering when the hospital refused to release me from hospital within hours of my op (when I was still in the land of the fairies, confined to bed and hooked up to many drips, monitors and with a catheter in!).

Sounds such a charmer, your ex. Why believe a load of doctors and nurses actually treating someone, when you can instead decide to accept what your Mum's friend's sister says?

I certainly couldn't have been driving a couple of days after having a caesarian birth, and I imagine a hysterectomy is rather less fun that that.

lostinrates wrote: »

Meh.

I have to think up a name for DH to play under this year by today. Everything I think of is taken or doesn't pass muster with one man or another who failed themselves to sort it out by deadline. Grrr.

Sounds like men in general. We are still un-agreed on a name for Aethelbald, owing to OH's objections to every name under the sun.

Doozergirl wrote: »

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Hope you had a great time at your bash, in your gorgeous new dress!

neverdespairgirl

Nikkster wrote: »

*insert expletive*

Plumber is due at 9. Therefore woken by an alarm for the 2nd Saturday in a row (unheard of nowadays!).

Next time you can borrow Isaac instead. He's much better than any boring old alarm clock, because he has no working snooze button.

He wakes at about 8am during the week, and earlier at weekends :eek: Totally the wrong way round, I reckon!

michaels

Generali wrote: »

I don't feel that I should be having a rough time, that's the hard bit. I try to work a bit and I feel a f ing mess, just horrible. I'm angry, I can't even type. I've broken 2 keyboards in 2 days by punching them and I think I might have done in the lawnmower with a chair.

The Windies thing reminded me of the Tony Greig/'Make them grovel' tour.

Ha!

The best Test cricket ever:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXsfEdJ_G5w

?

Well done on being able to express your anger, it's something I still don't know how to do.

Nikkster wrote: »

*insert expletive*

Plumber is due at 9. Therefore woken by an alarm for the 2nd Saturday in a row (unheard of nowadays!).

Have just had some breakfast and was entertaining myself by pretending to be a dragon (it is chilly so I can see my breath - that is BREATH, michaels ).

08:52 - the boiler decides to kick into action after 9 days of inaction and resisting my attempts to persuade it into life. I am now, for the first time, hoping it stops.

Edit: Phew! It stopped working again as he knocked on the door

Edit again: I think the hum of the boiler working is now my favourite sound.

Considering you are such a stick insect I don't suppose there is much breath for anyone to see...

I hope the boiler saga is now definitively solved.

Generali

Doozergirl wrote: »

Gen, I hope today was okay and SIL was on best behaviour. If she wasn't, then I hope you got some small pleasure in having an excuse for not being on your best behaviour and giving it to her in the neck, if you'll excuse the terrible pun.

Please don't beat yourself up. You don't have to act like things are normal.

SIL I have to deal with tomorrow.

She can behave as she likes, and she is very charming when on best behaviour. I will behave as I please. If she doesn't lije--=====

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LydiaJ

Nikkster wrote: »

Edit: Unrelated, but I just remembered my other update. I finally took the change I found in the house (+4p I found digging up that bed in the garden :rotfl:) into the bank yesterday. I added the cashback that became payable this month, some other money that qualified for my definition of 'bonus' money and rounded up the total to the nearest £10 to make a mortgage overpayment this month

You're confusing me. I've recently started reading some of the MFW board, and for a moment I thought I was over there!

Well done on overypaying, anyway. Have you played with the calculators to see how much you can save that way?

SingleSue wrote: »

My ex mother in law said the bumpf from the hospital prior to my hysterectomy was wrong as her friend had been released from hospital the same day and she was back at work and driving within 2 days.

Unfortunately, ex hubby believed her rather than the hospital and decided I was malingering when the hospital refused to release me from hospital within hours of my op (when I was still in the land of the fairies, confined to bed and hooked up to many drips, monitors and with a catheter in!).

You can only imagine his rage as the days passed and they still said no to releasing me....even though they had said right from the beginning the very earliest would be 4 days post op (Friday) if everything went as planned but probably longer because I had disabled children at home.

In the end, I came out on the Friday afternoon (op was late Monday evening), as he had badgered them so much.

Words fail me. You are sooo much better with that man out of your life.

Generali wrote: »

I don't feel that I should be having a rough time, that's the hard bit. I try to work a bit and I feel a f ing mess, just horrible. I'm angry, I can't even type. I've broken 2 keyboards in 2 days by punching them and I think I might have done in the lawnmower with a chair.

Gen, getting your diagnosis and having Leon cut out of your neck is a BIG DEAL. Cut yourself some slack. It's OK to be unable to work at the moment. It's OK to be angry - although finding people to vent at will probably help you more than destroying technology. Remember too that anger is a secondary emotion - it sits on top of pain, fear or loss. You're in pain, you've got reason to be afraid, and you've lost your health, which has always been important to you. Please try to find somebody you can talk to about those things.

Hugs and thoughts and prayers from me anyway. :grouphug: