Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

vivatifosi

Nikkster wrote: »

I'd like it back on principle, but it's value is going down by at least inflation every year. Most of it has already been out of my hands for prob 3-4 years, so I'm very used to not having it!

Sure. I understand where you are though. I've been there. Over 25 years ago. I never got my stuff back. Now I can barely remember what it was. There was one photo that I would have liked to have kept, it was of me on holiday, he wasn't there and it was a nice pic and I dont have another of it. Other than that, I don't care.

The sooner you don't care about the stuff at all the sooner his hold over you will be nada. Hopefully not speaking out of turn, but from experience.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

The non-specific costs I include are only those which don't apply to employed people. I only included those which are tax deductible, and suits, work shirts and commuting costs aren't included.

The "travel costs" part is from Chambers to court, only. Travel costs between home and Chambers are the normal, employed-as-well commuting costs. But then you need to pay for the cost of a 3 week trial in Reading / Oxford / Southampton / Harrow etc on top of that.

Costs for clothes in the list I gave only applies to wigs, gowns, bands and court collars.

Stationary costs aren't paid by employed PAYE types, nor do they pay for the computer they use at work.

I'm not sure about criminal solicitors. I don't do much crime any more (and pay is certainly one of the reasons, but far from the only one).

Apologies for misreads .

When DH got moved to Brussels his trips home which we thought would be fairly deductible were not. That was one hell of a normal commute cost.

I can find out criminal solicitor costs....would be an interesting comparison.

bugslet

Nikkster wrote: »

Understatement. Not entirely convinced it'll help me spot and/ or end up with a good one, but either way I'm much better off with a couple of years of being single since then

I was trying to be NP on MSE and not trucknet-ish with my vocabulary ;-)

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

Sure. I understand where you are though. I've been there. Over 25 years ago. I never got my stuff back. Now I can barely remember what it was. There was one photo that I would have liked to have kept, it was of me on holiday, he wasn't there and it was a nice pic and I dont have another of it. Other than that, I don't care.

The sooner you don't care about the stuff at all the sooner his hold over you will be nada. Hopefully not speaking out of turn, but from experience.

I spent silly amounts of time, money and energy chasing stuff ex has of mine for a while. I don't actively miss any of it now:o. Every now and then I wonder where so etching is and realise its one of those items then think....so be it.

Nikkster

vivatifosi wrote: »

Sure. I understand where you are though. I've been there. Over 25 years ago. I never got my stuff back. Now I can barely remember what it was. There was one photo that I would have liked to have kept, it was of me on holiday, he wasn't there and it was a nice pic and I dont have another of it. Other than that, I don't care.

The sooner you don't care about the stuff at all the sooner his hold over you will be nada. Hopefully not speaking out of turn, but from experience.

Not out of turn at all, viva.

I'm not too far off, honestly.
That was all a lifetime ago.
There is nothing I'd like to have kept - I got back most of the things that were mine and that was plenty. Sure I'd like the money back (not an insignificant amount), but not enough to do anything about it (it's enough that the loan stopped increasing in size).
The most important bit was that I got my (or at least a) life back That's priceless!

Yorkie1

Spirit wrote: »

POSH ALERT. Impulse buying.

I once (too many years ago now to admit to ) couldn't face the ironing so went out and bought a double bed to replace the cast-off single bed I was then sleeping on.

One of my more expensive impulse buys, but given the length of time it's lasted ( again), it's been value for money.

lostinrates wrote: »

So, after feeling grim and getting up and going out I came home ...

I would like to give you a non-dodgy :grouphug: . Take care of yourself.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Remember that woman that did a lot of charity work for cancer .... and kept living - then people started saying "she's a liar, not got cancer, look at her living and running....." then she died.

Jane Tomlinson

Her family have been wonderful in keeping her passion for fundraising going. There have been a lot of 10K runs set up by her Foundation, continuing to raise money for charitable purposes. She was an amazing woman and the amount of abuse she received was just unbelievable.

Yorkie1

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm not sure about criminal solicitors. I don't do much crime any more (and pay is certainly one of the reasons, but far from the only one).

I'm not 100% sure of the details, but my recollection is that their rates of pay had been frozen for the last 10+ years (not even costs of living / inflation).

The Gov't has now imposed a new pay structure on them, which includes fixed fees irrespective of length of time taken for police station interviews / complexity (e.g. defendant with vulnerabilities or interpreters required) / travel to court / waiting time. The overall rates have been cut by 15% in two stages over a few months.

The even more radical proposals from the Gov't have been weakened - these had real impacts on the client's ability to choose a solicitor and risked real access to justice for the less urban regions.

But there will still be many smaller solicitor firms which do not survive; the chances are that big, factory-style firms with less qualified or experienced personnel will sweep in to the field - and thus provide a less tailored and detailed service to their clients.

When you combine that with cuts of 25% to the prosecution's overall budget, the risks of miscarriages of justice appear higher all the time.

Yorkie1

In other news, I too am now feeling elderly: I have ordered my first pair of varifocals.

This has hit me harder than turning 30 (40 was OK as I'd just bought my house in that year) and also harder than my younger brother turning 40. I thought I'd get to my mid-late 40s before this was needed but it's crept up on me more quickly than I was ready for. Silly, I know

I will also have to replace my oven (one that in built in under a hob) at some point in the not too distant future. All ovens on the market now need a cavity depth of 55cm. My cavity depth is 56cm - but there's a gas pipe going up to the gas hob, which reduces the cavity to 53.5 cm. So the pipe will need to be moved. Cost £50-100??

And my present oven has a 13A plug on it which goes to a socket which isn't immediately accessible. Apparently I will have to have an isolator switch fitted (going to check this out on the In my Home forum for certain) - which will cost £150-300??

And that's on top of the cost of the oven. Grr. :mad:

silvercar

Whatever the truth, the public perception will always be that barristers, doctors and dentists are paid well. There is also the perception that they can do private work to supplement their publically funded work.

LydiaJ

I seem to remember some NP offering to help me next time DD needed fancy dress. Well... her class will be taking assembly on the Friday morning just before half term (ie the Friday before the bank holiday at the end of May) on something to do with Greek myths. She has been cast as Aphrodite.

Suggestions anyone? Please?