Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

So, after feeling grim and getting up and going out I came home and ate a courgette and now feel grim again. Its so unfair. If I came home and ate....I dunno, a chocolate bar, or a packet of crisps, or a piece of cake I bake, or a scone fair enough, I'd get it. I just want fruit and veg.:(. Well that's not true, I'd like some cheese and a glass of wine too, but I'd be happy with fruit and veg.

I'm not sure I could cope without wine or cheese or courgette. Add Marmite and spicy food onto that list and I'd definitely be struggling. I don't know how you manage it lir. What can you eat? Can you concoct something more 'exciting' out of it?

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

I'm not sure I could cope without wine or cheese or courgette. Add Marmite and spicy food onto that list and I'd definitely be struggling. I don't know how you manage it lir. What can you eat? Can you concoct something more 'exciting' out of it?

Well. I still cannot reliably eat anything, but alcohol is off cos of meds. Dairy is off though I think the idea is now that its not.

Carbs are ok, apart from when they aren't.......:D


I'm sort of trying to eat more things. Tonight I've made a fish salad which I planned to had with things like cucumber but no lettuce.


Avocado and grapefruit were really suiting a few weeks ago and I was thrilled, two things I loved, and which itch a lot of taste sensations...fresh, creamy, sharp, juicey...so I was having salads of them ( segmenting the grapefruit) then one day my body said no.


Popcorn always seems to suit, but its getting really boring! Noodles. Meat.

Salad, fruit, veg are very iffy. It could be the symptoms are NOT food related, but I'm trepidatious. I'm eating fruit and veg a little more at home now, but only when I know I don't have to go out.

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

You're right, it's pretty normal, so all girls have to learn the don't-even-think-about it frosty stare pretty quickly.

Ah ... that's where I failed. I didn't do the frosty stare - I'd go into full on attack back mode

Things never went well after that, anywhere.

I'm not a people person.... I don't read people, faces, body language etc.

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

A label is fab. You're right that it enables you to explain succinctly, then expand upon that into specifics.

e.g. without my Speshul label, I could tell you I don't want to work as a waitress as I am too clumsy/uncoordinated.... and that'd be laughed off. With the speshul label, I know that it's actually a feature and has a name of its own - dyspraxia. So, instead of sounding like a lazy/weak/pathetic whiner who says they're clumsy I can now "pin" it on a specific set of traits that convey the fact that I really DO have issues that would make me unsuitable to do something.

Labels are brilliant.

It also prevents me feeling useless if I DO try to carry things - because I know why I can't.... so I know it's "not me" so to speak, it's the speshul bit.

Yes, that's exactly it. Thank you for putting it so clearly.

lostinrates wrote: »

I just paid for one privately at an NHs facility. If you like I can tell you how much it was, I'll need to check invoice. It would have been available to me NHs if I had been on that route and it suggested to test for it.

Where you might have issue is convincing need, your OH nurse is the person who can advise with that and appropriacy I would have thought.

Occ health nurse thinks I should go back to the same GP who was nice about it in December, and ask for a full check of everything, just to cover all possibilities. I think, from what he was like last time I saw him, that he will be OK with that.

She and I have also decided that while the GP was right to say I needed some kind of talking therapy, actually standard "counselling" isn't hitting the spot. I don't need help processing my feelings - I can do that very effectively myself, with a bit of help from my friends, of whom I have many wonderful ones. What would help me is something much more like a life coach, who will help me set incremental targets for doing the things I know I need to do but can't motivate myself to be bothered with. So next week I'll talk to the counsellor and see if that's something she feels she can do for me, or if I need to find somebody else.

Most helpfully, she validated my belief that I am not OK, and that the things I say are a problem are actually a problem, not just me being unrealistic. She was again very definite that antidepressants wouldn't help my particular case.

If I do manage to settle out of court in a couple of weeks, then I will have the money to pay for whatever kind of help seems most likely to result in actually getting better.

GDB2222 wrote: »

Hi all. I see that the thread has been ticking along nicely without me. Sorry that I have been too busy/stressed to look in.

I am pleased to report that my minor scare has turned out not to be an issue. And we are off to Norfolk for the weekend soon. That's my news.

Nice to see you. :hello:

Glad things worked out OK about the scare.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Er .. no ... and right up to this moment in my life, I've never heard of such a thing

Was that a posh alert? Or a generational thing? I mean - nowadays, would that be done in most schools, or just posh 'uns?

I went to a pretty rough school on a council estate. We still had debates and mock elections though. And quiz teams. I remember debating the pros and cons of proportional representation when I was about 14.

Nikkster wrote: »

I'd like my portable property back. But I'd settle for an admission that it isn't going to happen. Don't think either is going to happen.

Well, in a few years time you'll be less attached to that property and the minimal hold that he thinks he has over you won't exist.

michaels

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Similar to chess, and darts, and stuff like that, I reckon?

I played chess competitively, and at county and national level until I was 15, and county level until I was 18. At Under 9 team level, it's about 60% boys, 40% girls. It then gets more and more male until at grandmaster level it's pretty much men only.

There comes a point at which if you want to carry on competitively, it has to become a complete obsession. You have to spend hours and hours every week practising and researching openings, middle games and endings, working through problems, etc.

I think men are more interested in taking things to that level on the whole than women. I certainly didn't want to - I wanted to do other things as well, such as sailing, debating, going to the theatre, all sorts of stuff.

Isn't it still the case that men get more firsts and more fails at uni, and women get more solid 2.i degrees?

In year 3 at secondary school I was school chess champion and they encouraged me to play in some external tournaments, it didn't take me more than 2 to realise:
a) all that thinking was hard work
b) there weren't many girls there

After that I wasn't really interested any more.

Spirit_2

I feel real joy that Stephen Sutton is well enough to be going home from hospital and thinking weeks ahead.

PasturesNew

Nikkster wrote: »

I saw what I wanted

That's a fabulous thing to spot! I always saw what I wanted...... and not the truth... so always crashed and burned.

There's always the NP Plans for you .... if you get to 50 and nothing's occurred

He'll be mortgage free by then .... a good bet.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

I came home and ate a courgette and now feel grim

I could have told you that!!

Courgettes... ewww.

I was trying to eye up a cheese baton earlier in Tesco, but in all honesty I just looked like some old lady freak zoning in on a hottie who was also by the bread, so I beat a retreat.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

I remember debating the pros and cons of proportional representation when I was about 14.

I couldn't do that now
... even with 14 year olds.