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Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People
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I was going to post about the effects of burnout and/or adrenal fatigue along similar lines above. Feeling CBA about something doesn't necessarily mean that the stress hormones are too low, but that you no longer have the ability to respond to them at the high level they are at. Tearfulness, inability to stir my stumps to do something, and inarticulateness are outcomes I find myself far more prone to the more anxious / stressed / overwhelmed I feel. The mind sort-of goes into shut-down and thus doesn't react.
I don't know how long it takes to reach 'irretrievable' impact state (if at all) but hope it's not yet (for any of us).
My life is not significantly stressful ATM, apart from the relentlessness of single parenting that lir has just so eloquently described. I have, I would say, less than a quarter of the stressors that I had at various peak stress points over the last 10 years.
I am already in the "not absolutely irretrievable but equally not able to be bounced back from quickly" state. That's the issue.
The good news is that the OH nurse, who says she's seen this many times before, assures me that in time I will get better. I am just not sure how much time, and I would like it to be quicker than it's being.lostinrates wrote: »...
Sorry, thinking while I type. There must be interesting ( along with load so rubbish) realms on this because its so ripe of possibility.
Interesting post. Very thought provoking, but ATM not provoking the sort of thoughts I can pin down and articulate. But I did want to post to tell you not to be so silly as to apologise for posting it.
I have emailed back....but feel my words are just words, talk is cheap and that when we met up we were blinded by our own happiness.
As I said..this is an epic fail.
No, not at all. When I was in a failing marriage, I absolutely did not want people to know - was paranoid about people finding out, in fact - until I was ready. She has now arrived at the point where she wants to tell you, and has told you. That means she now feels ready to accept the support and understanding that she was trusting you to respond with - and you have in your email. :T
Talk is not always just talk. Sometimes talk is the medium by which we convey our thoughts, our care, our belief in someone, the value that they hold for us, the way in which their pains affect us too...Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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By nature I am emotional..show tears, laughter and anger. I have learnt to control some of the peaks and troughs for work and for a happy home life (OH is such a gentle soul). Usually I would be described as sociable.
During the time I was depressed,my emotions flattened few peaks few tears. The E 'extrovert' in my MBTI started to behave as an I 'introvert'. I became withdrawn but could do a passable high functioning professional role...then crash with exhuastion in the privacy of my own home.
I'm E too. Very E. When I am interacting with people, I feel more or less normal, although realistic about not wanting to commit to doing things. I can have feelings about trivial things (although not much about really big things). As soon as the people are not there, though, I have no fuel of my own on which to run.Ok Lydia...bed time now:)
Off you go.
Thank you. Good night all. :hello:Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Sleep well, Lydia. And all other NP, too, of course....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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vivatifosi wrote: »That's a shame. Will you do the rest for fun? Would you do the resit next time? I've enjoyed it and have been frantically searching for my next MOOC.
DH starts one on learning to play the guitar next week (Berklee School of Music, Boston). I've seen a few others that take my fancy... one on China (the country), another on human trafficking, archaeology and another one on behaviour. I did say I fancied doing the very basic physics one and just got laughed at. I was OK at maths, chemistry and biology at school but my physics was really bad.
In addition to Coursera (if anyone is interested) check out edX, Udacity, iversity, Open2Study, FutureLearn (Open University).... Or there are a couple of consolidated MOOC lists online. Coursera is by far the biggest though.
If the course runs again, I'll re-do it hoping for the distinction.
I have put 2 other courses on my watch list. One started last week, & I thought I had 2 more weeks of Mr Ariely left so declined the invitation. It was about philosophy & managers. I can't recall the other. Think it might have been psychology related, but, as I may have mentioned, memory like a sieve.:o
I have some weird recollection of one on magic, but I'm sure I'd have gone for that.It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
Had a day of arguing with Lloyds.
Net result, they see my point, disagree their policy is wrong, but will give me money for inconvenience.
Absolute rubbish, as in summarising the issue the complaints handler used my terminology in trying to refute it, but hey ho.
Tried to cheer myself up by going birthday present shopping for my nephew.
I'm now sorting out stuff for tomorrow, as I get to try out my new golf clubs for the first time! (christmas present).
Thursday I get to go see Frank Skinner - have heard the show is great.It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
I remember reading a while ago (don't know if it's still true) that people are more likely to divorce than move banks for current accounts.
My family does its best to reverse those stats - my parents "moved their overdraft" as my Dad puts it, in the 1980s from Barclays to Lloyds, and about 5 years ago from Lloyds to HSBC, and sister #2 is just moving from Barclays to Santander at the moment. So several moves, no divorces (-:...much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
Given that I have about 15+ current accounts, I feel I kinda buck the trend too.
Bad customer service sees me leave at the drop of the proverbial hat!It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
Got three current accounts and that's too many!lemonjelly wrote: »Given that I have about 15+ current accounts, I feel I kinda buck the trend too.
Bad customer service sees me leave at the drop of the proverbial hat!lemonjelly wrote: »Acca Dacca rule. Desperate to see them live 1 more time. Doubt it'll happen though.
Crowded House are New Zealanders. My mate is/was their tour manager. Have met them all (except Neil Finn). Crowded House are superb!
Haven't met any of them. But did see Neil Finn performing live tonight (and a few other acts). Went to see a show being broadcast and just got in by the skin of our teeth!
Just seen myself and DW on iPlayer, for half a second. Nearest I'll get to fame but who cares!There is no honour to be had in not knowing a thing that can be known - Danny Baker0 -
The days are greyed out:(...I need to brief people on something tricky, my non working days and other peoples holidays mean it is Thursday this week or so delayed that peopel will not have enough time to react. Thursday it is.
As it is an hour each way of travel it does wreck most of the day. First thing I have a diabetic eye screening, so a fun day all round. Not.
Can you dial in? My boss does a 4 day week and does that when required.0 -
I'd not heard of adrenal fatigue before tonight, but it doesn't sound implausible to me in principle (no idea about individual NP, natch). Sounds kind of like insulin-resistant diabetes, but with a different hormone being affected...
I think from very , very cursory reading the similarity might be more with syndrome x, or pre diabetes, or early un diagnosed type 2 insulin resistant in lots of cases, if one is looking for comparison. I.e., stop early enough, reset life, and change.
Just as syndrome x is poo poo'd still in uk. Very early on I was id'd as syndrome x. I didn't eat much then but a high percentage of my diet was sugar ( through apples, and alcohol). I was slim because I didn't eat much and did a lot, not because I ate well necessarily. :beer::D. The syndrome x warning was great for me because it gave me a great opportunity to reset. I was never a chocolate and pizza guzzling person, but I did have a sweeter tooth. I swapped apples for celery for a while and ate nothing on a 'sweet spectrum' and ditched the booze for a bit. It reset my taste buds, making it easier to make better choices for me. Really, its pretty amazing with all the other rubbish going on and weight and hormone stuff that I haven't had diabetes ( yet) but the syndrome x warning I feel was the biggest help of a diagnosis because it was something I could control and take power over for my well being, stopping anything becoming full blown diabetes.
The other thing of course, is adrenal fatigue in some cases, could be early signs of things we consider rare, or related to things that have no clear diagnostic path yet.
Its very easy to dismiss things I think.0
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