Bad tightness from people who can afford to pay.

ska_lover

I find that disturbing as a human being, that someone would refuse to give a kitchen roll to a bleeding person.

If someone was in trouble like that I would, and have in the past, given an item of clothing I am wearing, to stem the bleeding.

Better_Days

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Wow....that IS bad!

Did she have a flannel wash or whatever it's called between her weekly showers? If not, she must stink to high heaven.

It was quite hard to read this. I have had a shower this morning - 6 days since the last one. Sounds awful I know and I hate it but is down to ill health (rather than frugility). But - what I do do is make sure I have a quick wash and put on a full set of clean clothes every day, and as far as I'm aware I don't pong to high heaven Mr BD nor the animals haven't said anything so far It is possible to wash adequately without showering/bathing every day.

The sort of 'tightness' I don't understand is people who reuse their teabags until they disintegrate but will also happily pay £50 for a bottle of wine.

mwddrwg

I had a mate who lived with his brother and they both worked in the same factory three miles away. The brother with the car used to charge the other brother for petrol when they went in to work together and based the charges on the exact number of miles driven!

neverdespairgirl

I agree with LIR about old clothes for gardening / painting / etc. Sounds perfectly sensible to me - if I'm at my parents' place and we're planting or digging or moving manure around (family slave labour!) then I'd dress both son and me in stuff with holes or stains or rips, why wear nice clothes and ruin them?

dandelionclock30

I think there is a difference between having something on thats old with general holes as opposed to something that has a big hole where the womans bust was all visible.
I personally would not like work people/the postman/ neighbours/visitors/gas/electric meter readers etc to see my bust and bra.
I dont think its right to make other people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable and I dont think its appropriate.

paulineb_2

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I think there is a difference between having something on thats old with general holes as opposed to something that has a big hole where the womans bust was all visible.
I personally would not like work people/the postman/ neighbours/visitors/gas/electric meter readers etc to see my bust and bra.
I dont think its right to make other people feel embarrassed and uncomfortable and I dont think its appropriate.

I agree, cant see the reason for doing the garden with your knockers hanging out.

Of course it makes sense to wear old clothes when doing the garden but surely if someone has a quarter of a million quid in the bloody bank they can wear a T shirt even if its fit for the bin that doesnt have large holes all over the place.

Ive opened the door to the postie wearing clothes that Id only wear when kicking about the house, but not flashing my bra, there's a line surely that you draw for your own sake and others as well.

barbarawright

mwddrwg wrote: »

I had a mate who lived with his brother and they both worked in the same factory three miles away. The brother with the car used to charge the other brother for petrol when they went in to work together and based the charges on the exact number of miles driven!

So they split the cost. What's wrong with that? I've been in lift-syndicates where the passengers pay and I don't really see the issue. Why should one brother have all the expense simply because he's got a car?

Georgiegirl256

Better_Days wrote: »

It was quite hard to read this. I have had a shower this morning - 6 days since the last one. Sounds awful I know and I hate it but is down to ill health (rather than frugility). But - what I do do is make sure I have a quick wash and put on a full set of clean clothes every day, and as far as I'm aware I don't pong to high heaven Mr BD nor the animals haven't said anything so far It is possible to wash adequately without showering/bathing every day.

I know, that's exactly the point I was trying to make. Even if people don't have showers or baths everyday, most people at least have a wash down. That's what I was meaning, as the OP was making it sound as if the woman was dirty because she only showered once a week, when in reality as we all know, and as you've pointed out, people can still keep clean even without a daily shower/bath.

The OP was saying she only showers once a week, so what if she does, that's her business, and (like I said), as long as she doesn't smell, she must be keeping herself clean.

What you have said above, is the point I was trying to make, no offence intended.

amus

I think there's a fine line between frugality and tightness, but the kitchen roll thing is very odd.

Had to laugh at what one of my Facebook 'friends' wrote once though. She was absolutely disgusted because a woman had rolled up in a Mercedes to collect a Holy Communion dress she had sold on eBay for a cheap price. She was ranting about how she works hard to pay for a £200 communion dress for her kids and some 'disgraceful' woman comes in a Mercedes to collect it after buying it cheaply second hand on eBay. I really had to restrain myself from asking who is the idiot in that situation, and that perhaps spending money wisely is the reason she can afford the Merc!

notechno

I do agree that meanness can be very annoying, especially close at hand with friends. A woman in our group of friends can get quite grating. If she drives I will buy her ticket (we go to see plays) and a few drinks, but this is never returned if I drive. We quite often have small parties at each other's houses (a few friends in total) and bring wine and food. If there's anything left from what she's brought she always makes a point of getting it out of the kitchen and taking it home. We're a theatre group and meet up in a social centre but she brings her own soft drink. And if we all go out for a meal she is always the last in the round to buy the drinks, and I figure she's worked out that she'll probably only have to buy one round whilst most of us get two. Petty things I know, but it does make me think less of her, I don't think it's a very admirable trait. I don't know how much she earns, but her and her husband both work FT and her job is a well-paid professional role whilst I'm a single parent with little money to spare, so even if she's just trying to count the pennies I do feel she's being a bit unfair