Bad tightness from people who can afford to pay.

lostinrates

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

People talk usually I only know what I've seen and been told. I just wondered if anyone elce had experience of anyone like this as I havent.

:rotfl::rotfl:

The things I have heard back about people I KNOW to be untrue are incredible. Hearsay is simply....hearsay.


If the woman smells you could smell it, whether she'd bathed or not. Your rags might be her bohemian, your smart clothing might be her idea of style faux pas of some sort. If she is only inoffensively 'unclean' ( people did used to cope on a bath a week and strip washes) and wearing the holey clothes in the sanctity of her own ground then whose business is it , her worth?

The issue with the 'meanness' over helping people really is awful, but for her too. Its not a happy way to be. Perhaps, As she seems to be the subject of uncharitable conversation it might be she picks up on it and feels uncharitable herself?

Hermia

barbarawright wrote: »

I always puzzles me how people know so much about their friends' finances. How do people know that someone has £250,000 savings?

I'm seen as being one of the more financially savvy amongst my friends and family so they do sometimes tell me about what they have.

Richard53

To be honest, most of this is just individual to her, and really no concern of yours - the bathing, the holey t-shirts etc. It would be a boring old world if we were all the same.

Refusing to give a kitchen roll to someone injured is pretty low, though. I wish I had been a bystander:

"That woman is bleeding to death. If you won't give her one of your kitchen rolls, sell one to me and I will give her it."

thorsoak

Personally, I wouldn't waste energy on this person - she wouldn't be a friend of mine, nor would I waste time on posting about her!

InsideInsurance

The kitchen roll is an obvious low

Ignoring that one though, the majority of the complaints raised are nothing to do with how much money someone has or not. I do wonder therefore if there is more to do with envy of the money the other person has more than anything else?

I've borrowed many things from friends that I could afford to buy myself just as I've lent them things they could afford. I thought that was what friends did rather than turning each other down accusing them of being tight for not buying their own? Hell, I've even given friends things they could afford

Georgiegirl256

Richard53 wrote: »

"That woman is bleeding to death. If you won't give her one of your kitchen rolls, sell one to me and I will give her it."

From what I've read, it sounds like she probably would have done as well.

globetraveller

paulineb wrote: »

I actually think that being so tight when you have tons in the bank and making attempts to be super frugal has little to do with money, its a mental health issue

I fully agree with that. I don't think they are deliberately being mean. Of course I am talking generally here.
Bad tightness- great title by the way

dandelionclock30

No envy at all about the money, just I couldnt really get my head round how someone could be so mean. The money brings her no happiness or pleasure at all.
Mental health issues probably explains it really.
Anyway I wish her well and its a lesson learned as I will never have anything to do with someone like that again.

Fuzzy_Duck

I have relatives who wind me up with their tightness, and they are all comfortable money-wise. To be honest though it only really bothers me when they take advantage of other people to save money. Things like asking for lifts so they don't have to get a taxi (but not offering any money towards the petrol), using your internet because they refuse to pay for their own, and making negative comments when you go out with them and make a purchase they consider unnecessary (particularly on holiday, a time where most people like to treat themselves!) Another relative wanders around in rags and spends all her time wandering the reduced aisles in supermarkets, but she has a lot of problems and it is clear she is mentally ill.

I suppose I just find it sad. What's the point in having money if you don't spend some of it and enjoy life?

AppleChai

I have a colleague who drives me up the wall with this. He is at the highest grade possible for an employee and although I don't know exactly how much he earns, I know it will be around £70k. He is the tightest person I've ever met, to the extent that when he took his family abroad he packed bread, butter and sandwich fillings to make them sandwiches each day because he was afraid the ingredients would be more expensive in Spain. I bet he made them steal from the breakfast buffet too and have that at dinner :O

He is overall obsessed with money, even money that isn't his. He takes it as a personal affront if a colleague does something that could lose the company money, and complains that they are "indirectly affecting my salary".

There's another one who is always complaining that we aren't paid enough, and yet EVERY morning he gets coffee and a snack from Pret A Manger. Priorities, people...