Can I just have a moan?

Billie-S

God bless you all. Such amazing, wonderful young women with great kids, who are not afraid to admit that they drive you nuts at times ha ha.

The thing I love about the internet is being able to vent like this without being judged.

Mine (now 18 and 19) are 14 months apart, so I know how you all feel.... truly I do. And it IS hard going, quite exhausting and demanding, even when they are being good!

We DO need a break sometimes, young kids do wear you out at times (like I said, even when they're good,) and it's perfectly natural and normal to feel like this.

Another thing is, many years ago, young mums had lots of help from other family members, as they often lived closeby, your kiddies nanas didn't work, and aunts and cousins were on hand to help. These days, many, many women work, people don't live close to each other, and 'mum' is expected to return to work just a few months after baby is born (sometimes,) having to pay impossibly high childminder and nursery bills and wrestling with guilt. (Hats off to working mums AND SAHM's of course; we are all worthy and amazing people!)

People have no clue how hard being a (GOOD) mother is! The best and most amazing kids can drive us crazy at times. We are but human after all.

But it's all worth it in the end, as there are far more amazing and enjoyable good times, especially as they get older. I have so many lovely memories of my two now, and I really miss them now they're at uni: though it's nice to have a quiet, tidy house!

Your kiddies are lucky to have all of you!

Kayalana99

daisiegg wrote: »

This thread is very scary for a pregnant woman...!

Just don't have two close together. :rotfl:

Just answaring an e-mail for work and eldest had nicked youngest bottle and drunk half of it..... :j

What a fun start to the day as I have no bottles left ready. :eek:

Thankfully we have someone to baby sit Friday and we are going out for a meal...

I feel for you gilly as well, I wouldn't say skin crawling but I get more annoyed then anything else.

misswig

I feel your pain!! I have a 2 year old who generally is an 'easy' child however, over last few weeks has learnt to whingy consistently!!
This morning he whined and shouted to get up. When I went to him he screamed and cried when I tried to get him out of his bed. He whinged for breakfast but when I have it to him, he whinged and whined he didn't want it, tipped it out and washed his face with it all the time consistently whining. Wanted juice which I gave him then he decided he didn't want juice but milk instead which he instantly refused to drink instead all the time keeping up a low tone 'eeeeehh'. Got him done from table where he then complained loudly that his top wet from the milk he'd tipped down himself but than had meltdown when tries to change it. Then decided he wanted breakfast after all!!

To top it all off, went to car to get my 9 year old to school as late getting ready because of it this morningand flat battery so had to walk anyway which he adamantly refused to do but them screamed when I carried him.
I love my kids desperately but today is the kind of day that I dream of the child free times!!

Metranil_Vavin

I am in the process of trying to potty train my 3 year old, which is proving challenging. I don't personally think he is 100% ready, but I am feeling massive peer pressure to get it done, + he is a big 3 year old and I really want him out of nappies.

My 7 month old is also weaning/coming off the boob and teething, so I am having to juggle cleaning up potty accidents, make up bottles in time (which is an art after BF'ing on demand!), sort food for both and all on practically no sleep as my baby is waking continually through the night.

It's ruddy exhausting. Fortunately (and I am not ashamed to say it), DS goes to childcare 3 days a week (I am on Mat leave but due back to work in June)+ will be getting his 15 free hours next month so that takes the sting out of it a bit, but I honestly could not cope with both full time. I struggle on Thursdays and Fridays as it is! I take my hat off to SAHM's who can not only cope with the madness, but also seem to enjoy it!

I wish I had a day a week without any child-related responsibilities but sadly as my parents are old and not well and OH's parents live over 3 hours away, we have no family who can help in that way.

I realise having children was my choice and I love them dearly and count my lucky stars every day, but boy they do take over your entire life.

Metranil_Vavin

..I have decided to stick DS in a pull up as we are going out and I just cannot face him wetting himself/having to carry spare clothes/find a loo in time etc...

Potty training: not one of parenting's finest moments!!

Gillyx

My motto of the day is 'thank crunchy for mr tumble'

notanewuser

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

..I have decided to stick DS in a pull up as we are going out and I just cannot face him wetting himself/having to carry spare clothes/find a loo in time etc...

Potty training: not one of parenting's finest moments!!

Understand why you're doing that, but it's going to confuse things.

Doesn't sound like either of you are ready for potty training. It happens when it happens, screw the peer pressure.

Could you put your youngest into childcare one day a week when your son's funding kicks in with the money you'll save? That would give you your day off.

(FTR, I wasn't saying that every mum should have a day off, just that doing something for YOU is important - even if thats just a couple of hours in the bath once a week! The first 9 months after DD's birth my parents lived abroad and my husband was working away too. We have no other family within 180 miles. DH often works away for several months at a time, which adds to the pressure.)

fabforty

Gilly and MV, I can relate to both of your posts. DS turned 3 in Janauary and it sometimes feels like he is always 'on' me. If I am sitting down, he is either climbing on me or leaning against me and I find myself literally prising him away. He is also big for his age, not potty trained and showing no signs of being ready. I have put it on hold for a few weeks before trying again. He had a speech delay and a few other issues, so potty training was not top of my list but now it needs to be. He qualifies for the free 15 hours (he qualified early because of he speech delay) but finding a suitable nursery with space - relatively close, with good Ofsted report and recommendations - is not as easy as it sounds.

GailF

Have you got a Mum and toddler group anywhere near? I found my local one a Godsend when my 2 were little ...you can grab a tea/coffee and a natter with other Mums while the little ones get rid of their energy. Sometimes they are attached to a church, but you don't need to be religious to use them. Great way for making friends too.

pollyanna24

Haha, I can relate to all this! My girls are 5 and 3 and I finally feel like I’m coming out the other end where my girls are actually a little bit enjoyable and we can have conversations.

No way would I want to do the baby bit again for anything!

In my case, I am a single mum who works part time and it works well for me. I pay my mum to mind my kids and take them to school and collect them.

I get the mum saying that she didn’t want to be touched by her son. I remember going to a friend’s house way before I had kids and she had a 4 yr old at the time. The little girl wasn’t doing anything wrong that I could see, but suddenly my friend flipped and shouted, “Stop fiddling with me!” I didn’t altogether know what was going on and thought she went over the top, but didn’t say anything. NOW I completely get it. My girls are always leaning against me, climbing on me, fidgeting on my lap instead of just sitting still, just general touching which is nice in a way that they feel they can do that, but honestly, sometimes it really gets on my wick!

And to the mum who said don’t have two close together. Man, my girls fight constantly, but now that they are older, I am glad I’ve got two of them, close in age, same sex. They are into the same things and hopefully will always have each other.

To the mum with the constant whinger – what I do is join in. it really really pees them off!! Haha! Or that copying game that kids do, I do it to them and they realise how flipping annoying they are being!