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Can I just have a moan?

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I'm fed up with being jumped on, hair pulled, my DS getting up, down, jumping around...chucking his dummy over the sofa then crying for it...again putting his drink on the window sil and pushing it backwards and crying cause he can't reach it....babies crying in general because ones hungry and the bottles not ready or wanting to sit on my knee whilst I feed the younger one or because he can't have something ....
Not being able to go to the toilet by myself, not being able to eat when I want...or when dinner is ready and they are crying...not being able to go outside without spending ages getting everything together..not being able to take a shower when I want!!!
Oh my....I do love my kids.
They are 6months and 18months... :eek:
Rant over. I do love them but I am really craving some time alone...
Not being able to go to the toilet by myself, not being able to eat when I want...or when dinner is ready and they are crying...not being able to go outside without spending ages getting everything together..not being able to take a shower when I want!!!
Oh my....I do love my kids.

They are 6months and 18months... :eek:
Rant over. I do love them but I am really craving some time alone...
People don't know what they want until you show them.
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DS is 3 and is about as close as any child can get to having his neck wrung (not literally, of course, before people wade in). He is seriously pushing my buttons today, and there seems to be a constant whine coming from his direction.
I have a cold, I'm tired and my body aches. I don't feel like cooking (but I have to or they don't eat), I'm not in an entertaining children mood, but tough because that's what I need to do. I would kill for one hour to myself to do just one of the many things that once upon a time I could do without a second thought, like get my nails done, give myself a pedicure, read a book etc. I love my two and I am blessed to have them but some days a soundproofed padded room would really come in handy [smiling Smilie].
I have a 3 year old DS and a 7 month old DD, and some days I just want to run screaming from my house!
Recently they've been taking it in turns to be ill, and taking it in turns to kep us up at night, They ARE a devilish tag-team!
I can't even remember what it was like to just be able to do what I want, when I want.
I love my kids desperately too..but my oh my I do sometimes wish either my parents or OH's parents lived nearby so could take them off my hands once in a while! I glower with envy when I see grandparents out in the park with little 'uns!
:rotfl:
Oh and nope...not allowed to move resulted in a screaming fit.... o_O
At least when they're little, they don't know what they're doing !
Too late to worry now !
Anyway, I was advised by very knowledgeable and learned friends that "you must put your own oxygen mask on first", and it's true. So I now have 10 hours off a week. That's one day to do whatever I want to. DD is elsewhere, and I can read, go to the cinema, take up a hobby - do whatever I like in that day to just be me. Not mum, not wife, not business partner. It's bliss, and recharges me for the other 6 days a week.
Thats a great idea, but not everyone has the chance to do that. In those cases, it's hard. Not everyone has family or the affordability to pay for someone else to look after their child.
In Wales we get 10 hours a week nursery funding for 3 year olds. In England it's 15. In the most deprived areas it kicks in at 2.
I think us mums tend to prioritise everything else above ourselves. It's like we need permission to do something for us and us alone. I'm just saying that granting yourself that permission is something that may just preserve sanity and actually improve our mothering (and other) abilities.
Bless him. He didn't mind when I asked him to stop leaning on me and I know Ill probably look back and miss his small touches so much when he doesn't want anything to do with me
But.... Boy am I glad it's bedtime.