Depression Support Thread

Tulip

*zippy* wrote: »

Katie :grouphug: sorry you have had a difficult day. Hope you enjoy your meal

thanks Zippy,meal was good never burnt it

chat soon


love and light,

Katie xxx

Tiff_2

Hi gilly!:hello:
Are you feeling better hun?

quote=gillette147;
Wow,
Wouldn't it be amazing if they found her.
Yes angel, it would. Hope and love for Madeleine.

I'm in a very down place.
Fell out with g/f. Feel very disturbed and restless.
I think I'm going to log off. Staring at the screen isn't calming me.
You're bound to be in a down place hun if you've split up with gf. Obviously I don't know the wheres and whys of it, but I hope things will balance out a little over the next few days once high emotions have cooled off.:o
It can sometimes make people stop and think about both sides of the relationship and their feelings and then they go on to build something stronger.
I've got no magic answers for you hun but I'm sorry you're hurting gilly.

If anyone knows anything about Ethel, can they let me know they are ok (her and family).
I will if I hear from her angel.;)

Hope you are feeling better SF xxx
Me too sf.

Hi to tiff, sazzy, greatD, andy, zippy, tulip of course, rbk, QB, dawn, poppy et al.
Hugs and handshakes to you all
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You too hun - look after yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all well,I am fine today off to the church to help out this morning,then this afternoon I have got my community nurse coming out to see me


I hope you all have a lovely day


love and light,

Katie xxx

BigMummaF

Morning All. It seems a bit quiet.. ..everyone hanging in there?

For those who saw it :shocked: Holby City!!?!?? Did not expect THAT last night, but they both got off lightly IMO[Nayler & Abebe]

We had a bit of a shower around 4:00 yesterday, so my knees were right:rotfl: There was just one rather loud clap of thunder last night, & the ground looks a bit wet this morning so I suppose it was that 'soft' rain IYKWIM. Oh crikes...I sound like my grandma!

Miro & Rose-well all of you-I hope that your 'silence' is an indication of you enjoying the sun :cool2: I cannot begin to imagine what the people caught by the floods must be facing, but I hope you get sorted asap & the weather is good to you.

The service for my friend's partner is this week & I'm not sure whether to go. I strongly believe that you attend/send cards to show support to those left behind--can't understand why folk say things like 'Oooh no-I won't go-- I don't like funerals'.....who the #*~$ :silenced: does! Likewise I obviously know my friend, but as is the way of things, once the romance took off I hardly saw them. But then surely one would want to support the friend at a time like this? There will probably be plenty of people there who knew the partner, so I don't want to appear as a 'fair weather friend' who turns up for dramatic effect.

Why can't people accept that everyone has different opinions on things & understand they are not necessarilly being asked to follow suit. :mad:

OK. I'm going for a :coffee: .....

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

learning_to_drive

Hi guys,

Hope you are all keeping well, have been online at work, but been so busy and kinda lost the thread a bit with this thread! So trying to catch up, obviously I will post updates with my thoughts and things once I read up on the various updates (20 pages of them).

Its nearly a year since I first was diagnosed with stress / anxiety / depression and it makes you think once you get on an even keel how much you appreciate little things, like going into work with a clear mind, Im back to my normal stuff because Im getting worried about things again, like letters I need to post and ensuring I keep my affairs (banking and what not) in order.

I'm still on my AD's and have been attending counselling for around 2 months, that has really helped me to understand what happened, I need to get some coping methods built into that, but I found it very useful, the counsellor makes you think like you are important and they understand and help, its not for every one, and I was lucky to get mine at low cost.

I've done 9 weeks in my job now, which is a major achievement considering:

First Direct - 1 week
Tax Office - 2 weeks (half of it off sick)
Asda - 6 weeks
Wh Smiths - 4 hrs
Thomas Cook - 2 weeks (let go)

So its nice to get settled, ive done a good job and only have about a month of my contract left, however I've agreed to be seconded over the road to cover another similar role until they get someone else in to do that permanently. If I like it, then there is a chance that I could apply for it, but Im looking around for my next move, girlfriend and baby are doing well, shes 7 months now and crawling all over!

I hope you are all keeping well, sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we can start to get better!

andipandi_2

yes indeed,always struggling but struggling more so today,what is the point of it all?

geminilady

learning_to_drive wrote: »

Hi guys,

Hope you are all keeping well, have been online at work, but been so busy and kinda lost the thread a bit with this thread! So trying to catch up, obviously I will post updates with my thoughts and things once I read up on the various updates (20 pages of them).

Its nearly a year since I first was diagnosed with stress / anxiety / depression and it makes you think once you get on an even keel how much you appreciate little things, like going into work with a clear mind, Im back to my normal stuff because Im getting worried about things again, like letters I need to post and ensuring I keep my affairs (banking and what not) in order.

I'm still on my AD's and have been attending counselling for around 2 months, that has really helped me to understand what happened, I need to get some coping methods built into that, but I found it very useful, the counsellor makes you think like you are important and they understand and help, its not for every one, and I was lucky to get mine at low cost.

I've done 9 weeks in my job now, which is a major achievement considering:

First Direct - 1 week
Tax Office - 2 weeks (half of it off sick)
Asda - 6 weeks
Wh Smiths - 4 hrs
Thomas Cook - 2 weeks (let go)

So its nice to get settled, ive done a good job and only have about a month of my contract left, however I've agreed to be seconded over the road to cover another similar role until they get someone else in to do that permanently. If I like it, then there is a chance that I could apply for it, but Im looking around for my next move, girlfriend and baby are doing well, shes 7 months now and crawling all over!

I hope you are all keeping well, sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we can start to get better!

Hi ltd:hello: It is nice to hear from you,thanks for the update.Glad to know you found a job you felt happy with.It sounds good about the job over the road ,hope you like it as well as the one you are in at present because i think there is a good chance you could get it permanently.It is better to employ someone that can already do the job than a stranger so fingers crossed for you.

BigMummaF

If we didn't have to struggle, would we appreciate the little things that make us feel better?

I fully accept that some of us always have to work so hard just to stay in the same place while others skip through with the least resistance. But at least we take the time to smell the flowers, & no-one can buy that!

Peaceful Minds. BMFx

geminilady

andipandi wrote: »

yes indeed,always struggling but struggling more so today,what is the point of it all?

Sorry you are having a bad day andi,anything you want to talk about?.I find the sunshine really lifts my mood but know that is not the case for everyone.Have a (((((hug))))) just incase you need one.By the way the point of it all is not everyday will feel as bad as this one,you WILL feel better even though uou might not think it at the moment.

queensway_boy

What would you do?....you make the choice. Don't look for a punch line, here isn't one. Read it anyway. My question is: Would you have made

the same choice?

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that
would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: "When not interfered
with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do.
He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?"

the audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. "I believe that when a child like Shay, who is mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to
realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child."

Then he told the following story:
Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, "Do you think they'll let me play?" Shay's
father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him amuch-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance
and said, "We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat
in the ninth inning."

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth
in his heart The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was
still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way,
he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the
stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on
base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit
was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life,
moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.
The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a
slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have
been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams
started yelling, "Shay, run to first! Run to first!" Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, "Run to second, run to second!" Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded
towards second base, the right fielder had the ball .. the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team He could have thrown the ball to the
second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the
runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, "Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay" Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted,
"Run to third! Shay, run to third!" As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, "Shay, run home! Run home!" Shay ran to home,
stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team. "That day", said the father softly with tears now rolling down his
face, "the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world".

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home

and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOTNOTE TO THIS STORY: We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to

sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion

about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.
If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the
"appropriate" ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference. We all have
thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the "natural order of things." So many seemingly trivial interactions between two
people present us with a choice: Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a
little bit colder in the process? A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.