Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

gillette147 wrote: »

Hi to all,

Glorious Goodwood has kept me busy today.
I got up early..bought a Racing Post and started putting bets on.
Messed up the joining process at first two....may have blown £275!!!
I'm arguing with them about it....we'll see.

I played a casino which was rubbish before.and it's still rubbish.
Took all my guile and 1.5hrs to make £3. At least I won.

My mood is poor....i went to bed earlier than normal but still really tired.
I know I've not been around much...but I love you all deeply.

Worried about Ethel...very worried.
Rose..big hug...i hope that b/f ain't dumped you.

Love and hugs to all
xxxxx

Hi gilly!:hello:
I bet you thought you'd slipped under Tiff's radar. How are you sweetheart?
What with your betting and your worrying hun, you must be exhausted! Is there anything else that would calm your mind and your bank balance angel? Maybe the reason you're feeling a bit low is that you're following the same routine? Not my business I know and I'm not judging you gilly ok?;)
I just wonder that maybe all that maths and then the adrenaline that must be running through your veins waiting for results, isn't also stressing you out and fraying your nerves a bit too much hun?
Well gilly badger, please look after yourself hun. Keep posting - it's always good to hear from you angel.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

Hi Everyone,

Hope you are all ok hope you get some rest Tiffy I had a good day today and sang 5 songs on karioke went to do a bit of food shopping on way home as well

I have had a relaxing evening

love and light,

Katie xxx

Tulip

Well I am off now as I am tired

Night! Night!

chat tomorrow

love and light,
Katie xxx

RoxsiScotland

hi everyone, just wondering if anyone thought this would be a good idea -depression support penpals.
i suffer from depression and love getting post, so maybe we could all pair up and send the odd letter, card, and even money saving stuff like vouchers we cant use ect.
im only 22 but do get pretty lonely sometimes.
anyway, if anyone thinks its a good idea maybe we could start a new thread where everyone says a little about themselves and people can pm saying they want to penpal-up!
i dont know maybe its cheesy but hey!

*zippy*

RoxsiScotland wrote: »

hi everyone, just wondering if anyone thought this would be a good idea -depression support penpals.
i suffer from depression and love getting post, so maybe we could all pair up and send the odd letter, card, and even money saving stuff like vouchers we cant use ect.
im only 22 but do get pretty lonely sometimes.
anyway, if anyone thinks its a good idea maybe we could start a new thread where everyone says a little about themselves and people can pm saying they want to penpal-up!
i dont know maybe its cheesy but hey!

Roxsi I have been doing this with someone off mse for a few weeks now and it is lovely to see a nice friendly email in your inbox.

I had a fab girly evening out tonight, it was just what I needed and we are going to meet up more regularly Nice to have something to look forward too.

I've decided to enrol in some evening classes for sept to meet new people, I live in a small town so knew there wouldn't be a huge choice, but had quite a surprise to see I have a choice between different computer classes, one is a 10 week course on how to send an email . My other option is belly dancing, I never realised how popular this was around here, but I have a huge choice of casses at different times, so there is alot of hip shaking going on in Wales I know nothing about. Anyone tried it and can tell me if there were all shapes and sizes there? I'm off to find a jewel for my navel

Tiff_2

quote=BigMummaF;

...Hope everyone is doing as well as.......had a bit of bad news last night. A really good friend has had 10yrs of awful health issues & was hoping to start a family after having new treatment, but it won't be happening. To top it all, a sibling to them lost their Life Partner to cancer yesterday morning.

So yes....life is a 8itc4, but hey-someone has to live it. Catch ya L8R

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx/quote

Hi bmf!:hello:
How are you angel?
I am really sorry to hear about your friend and their family.
It always seems to come all at once, doesn't it?:o It's at times like this that people value a good friend and I'm sure you're being a wonderful support to them.:T

Sadly, I can't agree with your comment on life hun, although I have enough evidence to agree :rolleyes:, I've been determined to prove that untrue.
Maybe that's where I've been going wrong!;)
Thinking of you angel and wishing you well.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi ilgd!:hello:
How are you hun? Sorry it's taken so long for me to get to your post, bless you.

quote=ilovegreatdanes;hi all,
bit of a strange day today for me.felt really envious of my ds(13).hes off skool on hols without a care in the world and i felt such a baby...cos i want to be 13 again.fed up of the responsibilities ands the debts, all of which are my own making,and how itll take me 26 years on my present course to pay them off.
I think we'd all use a time machine if we could hun.;)
But are you remembering being that age in an honest way? Didn't you feel then that your problems were huge, that no-one understood, that it's so unfair getting spots, hormones and you-know-what, that your friends weren't always friendly, that you'd got so much homework and that boys were yeuch?
Imho angel, whatever skin you're in and however old you are, you always want to be something different than what you are now. So, if it helps, try and remember that, five years from now maybe, you might be wishing to be back where you are today.;)

It also seems to me that adulthood and responsibilities might not have to cancel out youth and fun. We really restrict ourselves and forget to live without the rules when that's appropriate.
Who says you can't sing loud and proud in the house? When did you last dance, play a board game, skip or jump in a puddle? Think of doing young things (preferably not involving the back seat of a car, hangovers or anything illegal!:D ) and throw yourself into them - what's the worst that can happen to you? Who's going to stop you having a daft moment? No-one! In fact hun, they'd probably envy you.;)

am spending money, not huge amounts, iykwim, and dont seem to have anything in the fridge to eat.thank god for the o/d but still have to pay it back when get paid.
sometimes i cant seem to see a light at the end and think if this is it then im stuffed!!!all the pleasure from my life seems to have gone lately and the more i think how cr*p my lifes becoming, it gets worse.
I know angel - it's those nickels and dimes that eat away at our money. It's a vicious circle that a lot of us know. I feel the same about evaluating my life angel. But I think nearly everyone feels like this at some point. It's like fighting depression - you don't like being this way.

Our negative feelings and our positive ones need to be more equal, imho. We have to balance the equation ilgd and no hun, I don't have the formula. Think simple things - we can't afford to splash out most of the time, especially when we're in debt. I'm not meaning to be condescending hun - I'm just trying to let you know that I really understand.

i have loads in the house i could be doing but honestly, i cant be ar*sed.i feel such a lazy, idle c*w at the mo and am so ashamed.
Don't feel ashamed hun. As I was told, there'll always be time for housework. I find that every now and then, housework can be a stress fighter. With everything looking like it's in some kind of order and the dishes out of the sink, it can lift our mood, clearing some of the clutter in our minds too. Sometimes.;)

trying to diet, which is going the opposite way, and feel so disgusted cos i look like such a bag lady these days.feel like 74 not 44.nothing fits anymore and i cant bear to look in the mirror.have loads in wardrobe but cant get my head round anything lately.i really hate myself lately and as i dwell on it, things get worse.
Wow, you're doing a great assassination of your self esteem! I know these things all too well too angel. Please try and remember that this is also how depression makes you feel. When we're really down, we don't get an accurate view of everything. Depression likes nothing more than to screw everything up into one huge avalanche of misery.
I know you've got big problems angel but you know what ilgd, you come on here with your kindness, compassion and support for everyone and I have nothing but warmth and respect for you.:T :A
If you feel depression is swamping you hun, please go back to the drs and open up to them.

im sick of putting a brave face on, cos in the end ,it doesnt do any good and ppl think im not serious.
must try to get myself together as its a slippery slope, as we all know.its only this thread that keeps me together, i swear.at least on here, you all understand and theres no smart ar*se saying"pull yourself together"and various other comments that do not help at all....
am now wallowing in self pity and i know its not helping......but its so hard , sometimes to be who i have always been to those close to me.feel like my lifes been an act and am waiting for my real life to start...but all the time ,its passing by and am wasting it when i feel like i shouldbe somewhere else doing something i was destined for.
You are fully entitled to have a good wallow angel! This really does seem as though your illness is in charge at the moment. Hun, it will change. The way we can apply those faces at the drop of a hat makes everyone assume that we're ok and all is well.

If I could give one piece of advice to anyone - and yes, it'll be hard :rolleyes: - it would be to tell them to get rid of everything in their life that's not helping them, that weighs them down and that includes family and friends who don't treat you properly. Once you've cleared the carp out of your life, things suddenly become very simple.
And yes, I am a hypocrite because I'm just learning to do this myself. It's hard to break a habit of a lifetime by starting to say no, and even finding out what you do want.

Always ask yourself when faced with a choice, will I look back and regret this happening/not happening?

god im confused, so i bet you all are.hope you get the gist.for all the jokes and stuff are all an act to keep me going.i worry im alittle skitzoprenic(sp?) or just childish???
had to get it off my chest and no doubt, will read it back later and wonder who wrote that lot.....
thanks for reading, guys,...i appreciate it.
love ilgd xx/quote
You'll see your words repeated in many posts here sweetheart. I've confused it all more with my reply!:rolleyes:
You put down raw, honest feelings well hun. No-one is going to have a problem with that and a good many of us will be able to identify with it.

When you feel yourself getting overwhelmed ilgd, try and just let it go. You're abusing yourself, imho. If a friend came to you with what you've said, you'd find a piece of hope to throw out to them and we've got to learn to do that to ourselves and speak more kindly to ourselves too.

I'm sorry for the length of this. I don't know how much of it makes sense.:D I hope you can pull something out of the above that comforts you angel. I hope you're feeling a bit better hun. Be kind to yourself sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

poppycracker

Morning everyone

Well, back to work today :eek: ..... don't know what sort of reception I'll get, the monthly charge letters should have got here by now and I bet people will be complaining.

Some people do nothing but complain and it really gets me down. I do my job 110% and STILL they complain. Makies me feel like sticking my finger up to the lot of them and disappearing.

wish me luck today

hope everyone has a happy day

huggles
PC

Tiff_2

Hi pc!
How are you today hun? I know I'm behind with replies I want to give, but I wanted to say welcome properly.

quote=poppycracker;
I wonder if I could join in this thread? I'm having a bad week and just reading the posts in this thread has helped a lot. I've been arguing with my OH since he got back from seeing his brother last weekend, he's just so negative all the time it does my head in! And then he's blaming me for putting him in a bad mood..........
No permission required angel.;)
I'm sorry to hear your week's been a hard one pc. Well done on posting angel - I know it's never easy - but this thread has a magic all of it's own imho. I think it's wonderful that the guys here give so much back to the thread after they've joined usually in pieces themselves.:T :A

Obviously I'm no professional :rolleyes: ,and I don't really know your situation hun, but it sounds as though there's stress on both sides behind all this sniping.
You're definately not a happy bunny and neither is OH. Have you been together long hun? Do you honestly feel that there will be happiness later on in this relationship pc? If so, it's worth fighting for. If not, well, you then have decisions to make.

I can't seem to get anything done, then I'm blaming myself for not doing anything, my job sucks, and I'm spending a lot of my time in tears. But I don't want to go to the Dr and say I'm depressed because I can't think what I have to be depressed about. Anyone feel the same?
I think about 4,000 hands went up then hun.;) Depression can be like that angel and without any hesitation, I'd say call your gp. Let him make a diagnosis hun.
Many of us don't know what we'll say when we get there and then we spend 30 minutes babbling away in tears. And the gp will have seen it all before but it is really important that you're brutally honest with your gp about how you feel. If you don't, then you won't get all the help you need and could delay your recovery. Sometimes we just have to admit that we need some support/help and we're not necessarily expected to know why.

No-one expects you to walk in and say ''I feel depressed because...'' We usually go in and say that we're finding it hard to cope or we can't stop crying and go on from there.
It's hard to do but when you've done it, you'll feel better knowing that someone in a position to help, knows what you're going through.;)

Anyway, I was going to go shopping today but the royal mail being on strike meant that my wages came a day late and they still haven't cleared :mad:
sorry to be so negative/quote
This is the depression support thread angel and any happiness will not be tolerated!:D Just kidding sweetheart.;)
Whatever your reasons for feeling so low hun, they are completely valid ones! There's nothing worse than nasty surprises like the one you had with your pay. That alone would upset anyone.:o

Please see your gp pc. They're a gateway to resources and you shouldn't struggle any longer than you need to.
As for your relationship, you can go to Relate either on your own or with your partner, for counselling. People don't always see how counselling from anyone can help, but it can in most cases - even if it's just to unburden your feelings angel.;)

I hope you're feeling better now than when you posted the above on page 38 pc. Go and see your gp hun - you've got nothing to lose!;) Thinking of you angel.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

Hi Everyone,

I hope you are all well today I am fine,not doing alot other than seeing my physcologist at 11am listening to my bananarama cd I got from the Daily Mail last Sunday and listening to love in the first degree as thats my favourite song of all as well as venus and cruel summer

Have a lovely day everyone and welcome Roxsiscotland to the thread

love and light,

Katie xxx