Depression Support Thread

BigMummaF

What's happened to this thread? We used to LISTEN to each other!

It's called a Depression Support Thread for a reason.....primarily to offer a haven for folk with mental health issues. We all know what it's like to feel as tho you're walking thru treacle at the best of times, without having to face it here too:o

There are any number of reasons why certain elements of your posts are not given a direct answer...the biggest being that no-one can say anything constructive.

Personally speaking, this has to have been one of the worst weeks for me......just when I needed to vent to you lot,
the ferkin bb connections have been decidely unreliable;
been so !!!!!!! angry that I could have easily thrown the chuffin lot in the bath, with it all plugged in & me holding the frayed wires;
had to bite my tongue with my por old mum cuz she's definately loosing the plot,
and worst of all bury my lovely BIL.

I notice that you've also had a funeral this week ILGD...apologies for missing your post earlier, but as I said...mechanical failure. I am so sorry for your loss:o

I'm signing off for now.....perhaps someone will be good enough to give me a call when it's all sorted, cuz with my temper right now I will only say something that I shouldn't. Nothing personal is intended, but I value our cyber-friendships too much to risk it.

I do hope you will all find Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

rose07

I agree with you mumma on everything you say. And i am here for you always, i mean it!!!

ok people i havent been a round in a while coz i am seriously unwell atm, there is no point explaining.

But what is going on in this thread? as mumma says ...this used to be a lovely, supportive and caring thread, it has soo gone down the pan since the early days, of tiff, saz, myself and others. Newbies are of course welcome. But i think we are loosing track of why we are all truly here. Because of depression. AS the title states it is a depression support thread. SUPPORT!!!!. not anything else. IM soo angry i could throw my lappy at my baby. thats how angry i am. !!!!

There are a few of us going through hard times atm, and when we feel we need to go somewhere for support or a shoulder we turn to here, but we no longer can do so.


Tiff and saz i hope you are ok atm, as havent heard from you in a while
And thank you feelie for ...you know

ILGD hugs for you, my sincerely sympathy and condolences, take care x

Mumma i am here for you, and dont you dare be throwing anything in the bath with you attatched to it, i bloody care about you. I know how you feel tho, i felt exactly the same this time last week...;)..its time for me to be here for you. xxx

right im gonna go now, i do not mean to offend anyone, just remind us why we are all here

take care EVERYONE
goodbye
xx

feelinggood_2

Please everyone remember that it is easy to be angry and judgemental, but please remember to always respond with love, kindness and understanding. Sometimes we may not act in the most loving way ourselves, but I think that a lot can be solved by reacting in the best way we can. I don't think anyone here has ever, or will ever, mean any harm or upset with thier posts. The very reason we are here is a reason that may make us sensitive or harsh sounding. You are all valued and all your opinions are valued.

week

Well I'm up!
I am as you will all know relatively new to this. I found this thread by viewing a users previous entries when on the boots thread. As someone who has been depressed for most of her life I was interested and decided to join in. Everyone has been very nice and friendly to me. I have went to a group for people with mental health problems a couple of years ago thinking it would help to see others like me but I found it very distressing as they all seemed to have such bad lives and problems. I felt I didnt belong as I hadnt been abused, nor was I an alcoholic(all be it I had given up alcohol but that was on my psych advice) or nursing elderly relatives whilst depressed. I have read a lot of your posts and there are many different problems you are all facing on top of mental illness but I can handle this, not sure I could do it face to face though. I am not the best person to give advice but will if I can. I have no man in my life and have not done for 13 years. I am not anti men its just I cant deal with personal relationships. I am hard work with my highs and lows and irrational behaviour. I would love someone to take care of me and sort out this mess of a life for me, a knight on a white horse! The anniversary thing brings back bad memories as the last wedding anniversary I had whilst married was the start of the end for us so I would also be wary of congratulating anyone on here just in case! I will need to go out and move my car as the wardens patrol regular and I will walk the dogs.
I like to be able to post how my day has gone and how I feel as there is no one else to tell(not the real version anyway). I will respond if I can to any other posts, and I do read them all from when I was last on.
*whitevanlady* will pm you later, never got a chance last night, sorry!
K.

ilovegreatdanes

whoa........
ive been away lately and its all gone to pot!!!!
tiff......we need you to bring some sanity ......and smarties!!!!
i have always loved this thread, cos ,as others have said,(lovely posts from rose and miro and bf and feelie, btw)everyone can come here safe in the knowledge they wont be judged.
we all know how hard life is, and doubly so when we have depression issues so i, personally seem to read more into innocent comments than i should. also i have found reading lots of diff threads on here than everyone will read a comment diff to everyone else.depending on the phrasing , you can take all sorts good or bad.even something totally innocent can read back as something its not.
i have missed alot lately as same as miro said, its diff to catch up on here cos it goes so fast.
ccstar,...im sorry i missed your anniversary.hope you had a lovely day.xx
shaz......hope things are better.no-one tells you how hard motherhood is, but hopefully always rewarding.i dont have experience of adhd, but have heard some stuff.it must be so frustrating for your kids at school as they have the same issues as other kids then even more!!!and i think they benefit from more one to one tuition, which due to dosh, old story,cant always be done.any kid who doesnt fit the "norm" gets singled out by peers and society, which makes it even harder on the parents.i do admire you as you have probs of your own and are just trying to keep it together.please stay with us and keep posting.
horace.....was a bit upset,if thats the right word, with your comments re trolls.i hate to see it on other threads and think you might have phrased stuff abit better.i apologise if i have upset you but hope you take the comment in the spirit offered, not offensively.
its so hard to be piggy in the middle when hasty stuff comes up, cos i try to see everyones point of view, and sometimes you can see where stuff is going and how its gonna develope.
lastly,as i know you are bored by now, and some are asleep at the back!!!!
my heartfelt plea to all to keep posting and to get back to how we all were before,
we are all special ppl with all special problems.we all have special qualities and wonderful help, advice and support that we bring to this special thread.
we must embraces all our differences and free speech, but at the same time be mindful that we all have feelings that are a little nearer the surface than other threads, cos depression gets you like that.
anyway, thats my op and thanks for listening.
god bless us, each and everyone.
love ilgd xx
btw, any more trouble and im sending the big, vicious dog round ,known as charlie........hes asleep at the mo but hes like a coiled spring......i think......

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,


I am fine today,I watched two films last night that I rented from lovefilm

the first one being Wonderwoman starring Lynda Carter



and the film What a Girl wants starring Colin Firth,it was a great movie then I went to bed after watching those as I was so tired


I hope you all have a lovely day today

*hugs* to everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

Miroslav

antronella wrote: »

Well done Miro for being so honest with people around you and telling them your thoughts. Wish I was able to do that sometimes, but I was brought up to never say anything that may upset someone, to be polite etc and I'm just not able to say what i really think. I do think that people respect you more for being honest and I'm glad it's had a positive effect so far. Good luck with opening up to your sister too. Nite nite..off to bed now..working this weekend x

I was also brought up to keep my thoughts to myself, but to be honest, sometimes you just need to 'go for it'.

Sometimes when you think people are taking advantage, they need to be told in no uncertain terms that "it's not good enough"

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I hope everyone is feeling better this morning. Apologies for my absence peeps but all will become as clear as mud later.

First things first...
A warm Tiffy to lexa, rainbowchild (rbc) and whitevanwoman(wvw). I'd like to reassure you at this point that this is a very warm, supportive and compassionate thread - but then they went and threw me in to balance it all out.
You've found the thread whilst it was having a stressed out few hours - it tends to happen every 350-450 pages and is not a normal part of the atmosphere here, so please stay with us...normal service will be resumed as soon as possible. Enjoy your time here guys.


Right...what's next...oh yeah...


STOP!!!

I turn my back for 5 minutes and.....mutter.....mutter..... What the fluff is going on guys?!
Oh you're in for it now - TIFFY TIME!!!

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Still no Tiff has she gone on holiday??? hope your all ok and have a great day...take care
love hugs and kisses Steph xxxx

I wish it was something that good hunnie!

Stephb1986 wrote: »

hi everyone i hope we're all feeling a bit better this evening. Still no tiff?? where has she got to she would sort us all out no problem! im not having a great day but ive had worse! hope your all ok Steph xx

You mean I'm not gonna get blamed for all this?

Miroslav wrote: »

Hello all :wave: I often fail to frequent these shores for a few reasons...
3. Ill feeling within the thread tends to make me stay away.
Anyway, i'm babbling on, all I meant to say was - let's keep the thread as friendly as it usually is, or we'll lose it We can mis-read things and when we don't, we've got to accept that the person making a comment we don't like is usually commenting out of their own pain and not aiming anything personal at anyone.

BigMummaF wrote: »

What's happened to this thread? We used to LISTEN to each other!
It's called a Depression Support Thread for a reason.....primarily to offer a haven for folk with mental health issues. We all know what it's like to feel as tho you're walking thru treacle at the best of times, without having to face it here too:o ... BMFx

rose07 wrote: »

But what is going on in this thread? as mumma says ...this used to be a lovely, supportive and caring thread, it has soo gone down the pan since the early days, of tiff, saz, myself and others. Newbies are of course welcome. But i think we are loosing track of why we are all truly here. xx

These last three posts are very much a part of what I wanted to say and should indicate a big wake-up call to everyone.
I've had to move my catflap 4 times now due to catfights between peeps, which upset our forum guide, glad, and resulted in new threads being started. I'm going to be seriously tiffed off if we have to move house again guys. If I had posted after reading yesterday's posts last night, I'd already be in glad's kitty cage and off to the vets to be speyed! I was spitting fur tbh, through one thing and another, and decided to wait until this morning.

We all come here out of need and to reach out to peeps who will understand or sympathise with our pain. Since I joined the thread when it was in its first home, and I was but a kitten , we've been through such points as this and as a result, there's been an unspoken 'code of conduct' for want of a better phrase, adopted. Maybe that's just my humble opinion , but being the Tiff that I am, I'm going to stick my muzzle out and list the lessons I've noted...

- we are here as guests of Martin and it is very much appreciated. It can be very hard to post our problems out in an open forum and receive the specialised support and resources we need. Our thread is meant as a haven for resources and support.

- everyone here is vulnerable in some way.

- we need to remember that the people who post here are unwell and they may have
different illnesses than the ones we have ourselves.

- we don't judge anyone here.

- we don't verbally attack anyone here.

- people reach out for help in different ways and their illness might mean that their posts
are provocative. Please try and take this into account.

- we are not allowed to discuss specific medications at all, even if you are a professional
in the field. Mental ill health is highly individual and specific medication and diagnosis
advice should be left to your own medical professionals.

- this is not a popularity contest for who can get the most thanks.

- even though the good souls on this thread give each other amazing support, there may
be times when they have serious events in their life to deal with and just can't
contribute as much as they want to, so please don't take offence.

- it is always better not to reply to a post if you are unsure of your answer. It doesn't
mean that people don't care but that maybe they don't want to make the situation
worse accidentally.
Or it may be that they feel the poster has already been given all the answers they can
think of and can't contribute anything more to an ongoing, prolonged or unchanging
process.

- this is an internet forum - please remember that everyone here comes with different
situations, and different attitudes, from different lives. Disagreements are to be
expected but there are ways of voicing any issues or objections without offending
people.

- this thread is a valuable asset and we have an amazing clan going on here that's still
growing more and more. Please let's try and get back to the wonderful little community
that we've created here.

- oh - and there's a regular smartie increase for the Tiffster!

Above all, everyone has a right to post here and we are allowed to have opinions - but everyone deserves to be treated with respect too. With a thread like ours, we have to be able to trust each other and feel comfortable in sharing highly personal and urgent situations.

Hissy fits will make people turn away from the thread and people will feel uncomfortable and not ask for help that might be available for them on here. No-one has the right to claim this thread as their own and cause that to happen.

This thread only works because of our trust and our compassion for each other - otherwise we're out on our own again guys.
And that, my darlings, is the honest truth, in my humble opinion, given with love and respect for you all.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

ilovegreatdanes

hurray..:j ..tiffs back....sanity is now being restored.......think it was the impeding threat of a smartie giveaway:rotfl:
its not the same without you so from now on you had better keep us in line or the dogs on his way:eek: ........
yes we are all scared now:D ....dont worry steph ,he doesnt bite...hasnt got the energy.....er, i mean......just becos hes asleep most of the time, hes just saving his get up and go:o
joking aside, good to see you.:A
love ilgd xx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
I bet you thought I'd forgotten ...




Go on - try me and see!!!

Fuzzy feelings to all.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx