Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi dmg!:hello:
Good to hear from you again angel, though I'm sorry it's for a bad patch.

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Hi guys,
Hope everyone is well.
Sorry haven't posted for a while, I figured if I don't admit something is wrong then it isn't. Now I am about as low as I can go.
Ok angel, this must have been so hard for you but this is an important step forward.:T We'll try anything rather than face the facts. Many of us know now through bitter experience, that the 'ignore it and it'll go away' theory doesn't work. I, for one, have certainly tried that formula for many years and it does more harm than good. I'm proud of you hun for the fact that you're ready to stop banging your head against a brick wall and get the help you deserve.;)

My best friend of five years has decided that I am too much hassle, and that he cannot be friends with me and focus on his new relationship. So I am the one that he has got rid of. Can I really get people so wrong?
Sometimes angel, we have to make tough decisions.:o Please try not to think of this being about you, but a decision he has made for his own life. It may be his way of saying that although you're his best friend hun, he's not strong enough or able enough to get you well, that he doesn't know how to help you anymore.

I know you must feel devastated hun, , but he is entitled to try and put as much commitment into a intimate relationship as he wants to. He's just saying that he can't be all things to all people, that he has limits too. I'd like to think he wasn't trying to be cruel to you hun.;)

This may be the perfect reason for you to get in touch with the professionals who can help you. When we're really unwell, we sometimes don't see the strain we can sometimes cause other people - and that's not blaming you angel, that's the way mental ill health affects us sometimes.

I am due to be starting back at uni in September, but there is no way I am up to it. I can delay until January, but that means admitting that I can't cope. Uni in itself is not a problem, just life I can't handle!
Delay until January dmg.
Imho, there's nothing wrong with admitting that you can't cope right now. Quite the opposite in fact hun - it's the smartest thing to do.;) You can't foretell now how you'll be feeling come January angel, so don't fret about it. The sooner you start the recovery, the better your chances are.
Talk to your dr and ask them what they think about your returning to uni in September hun - they may be able to provide a support package to help get you through if it's not actually uni that's the problem. It could actually be what you need to remove yourself from too much pain for some people. And for other people that might not work. Your dr will be able to help you reach a decision because he'll have an overall picture of your situation.

I wish people around me could see the state I am in. In the past week I have left the house twice, but no one seems to have noticed. Maybe people just don't want to see? I know I am difficult to be around, I just wish people would try to understand.
Lots of love x/quote
Hun, it's not about you being difficult to be around - I don't know what you mean exactly by that - but you're unwell angel.:o
This is a very old trap that we fall into and is part of depression commonly imho. We assume that people have got eyes and ears and know what's going on. Why haven't they done something? Why don't they care or try to help? The answer hun, is because they're probably not psychic.

If you don't talk to them and ask for help, even if you have to write it down, how can they possibly know exactly how you feel? How are they supposed to know you need help? Plus, being the creatures we are, our own lives can tend to absorb us completely sometimes.;)

I'm sure people do care dmg. It may also be a case of them not knowing what to do hun. People will understand angel once they know and you explain it to them. And those that can't understand, don't need to be in your life. Please go see the dr hun. You've struggled on your own for too long already. keep us posted hun and I hope this helps a little.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

andipandi_2

Hi everyone, i think i'm going mad,

Hi tiff,thanks for your reply,not sure where you find the time and energy
for it all,if my mind wasn't already like swiss cheese it would be after reply in such depth as you do lol.

i don't actually feel any anger about my dd situation,i'm 2 far gone for that,my fav maudlin song is comfortably numb and i have for some time been in the uncomfortably numb zone,

no point in seeing gp ,he won't give meds for detox,sleeping(thats why i continue to drink,don't really want to drink but if i detox with out meds my heart rate goes mad ,i sweat like a running tap and have viscous horrid nightmares,last thing i need is no sleep for 4 days and nights,i'll take what sort of alcohol fuelled kip i can )

everyone i have discussed dd with falls in one of 2 camps
1) cut the chord there is nothing you can do
2)call yourself a father letting your dd go off like that

Depression is coming on strong as i went to bed for 2 hours, didn't ffffin sleep though,

Hows your mum and how are you tiff? must be time for tiff to have some me time and vent or do you do meditation and yoga?

regards
andy

edit , i used to do yoga everyday,hopefully after August(my month of birth :eek:)i can get back to it along with reading my books

gillette147

Hi to all,

Glorious Goodwood has kept me busy today.
I got up early..bought a Racing Post and started putting bets on.
Messed up the joining process at first two....may have blown £275!!!
I'm arguing with them about it....we'll see.

I played a casino which was rubbish before.and it's still rubbish.
Took all my guile and 1.5hrs to make £3. At least I won.

My mood is poor....i went to bed earlier than normal but still really tired.
I know I've not been around much...but I love you all deeply.

Worried about Ethel...very worried.
Rose..big hug...i hope that b/f ain't dumped you.

Love and hugs to all
xxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I have had a good day ,went to buy a new iron for £5 that didnt work although I had it on at maxium heat with my mum testing it as well the steam part didnt work,so I had to take it back to Woolworths where I got a new iron which does work I spent more money but it was worth it Pyschologist appointment went well today but it left me drained and tearful so went and had a rest for a bit

I am off now and I will chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx

rose07

I just dont know whats wrong
Sitting here, confused, upset
Im feelin soo soo low
Contemplated oding,
but that would get me no where
Just dont know what to do
My mind is a jumping and
I am hurting

geminilady

rose07 wrote: »

I just dont know whats wrong
Sitting here, confused, upset
Im feelin soo soo low
Contemplated oding,
but that would get me no where
Just dont know what to do
My mind is a jumping and
I am hurting

((((((((hug)))))))))) Rose,must have just missed you,sorry you are feeling so low but remember tomorrow is another day and you might wake up fealing much better.Hang in there you are a fighter i know.Please post tomorrow so we know you are ok.You are never alone people on here do care.

*zippy*

Rose :grouphug: hope it feels little easier today hun

Tulip

Hello Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today Off out in a few minutes to help out at my local church Hope you all have a lovely day whatever you are doing

love and light,

Katie xxx

dawnylou

Hope everyone is well today. Horrible grey day. Got to be getting ready for work soon

dawnylou

Oh well - thats me off. Hope everyone else has a better day than I know I will have.