Depression Support Thread

Diamond78

Morning All,
Hope everyone is good and feeling well. Im soooo tired,thank god its friday!!Was nearly late taking my son school, didnt wake up till 8.05 and im watching tv aswell. Its what I do all the time.

Im a bit angry today with my sons dad(spermdonor). he gave me a lot of abuse and grief last week over the phone and he was nasty to my son. He is refusing to pay any money towards my son and he wont give my sons car seat back which i paid for. He does this every year!!! He sees my son for a while, it never lasts more than 2 months and as soon as he realises I wont have him back he switches. The thing is, he knows I wont takr so much crap from him anymore. I must admit, I do worry he will turn up as he has a drug and drink problem and thats when he gets more violent. But im not as scared. he is on his last chance with the police.

All these years I have not been CSA as he has threatend me, also says that If I go csa, he will stop working and leave the country and therefor his 2 other daughters wont get no money as they get money from him every month without a fail. Either b4 xmas or my sons birthday without a fail he will stop all contact and then go round and tell every1 its me whos stopped the contact. My son is old enough now to realise what his doing and is messing with my sons head. He promised my son an xbox360 but he wont be getting that.He has a well paid job, wears only designer clothes, goes abroad for expensive golfing holidays, goes on long drinking sessions and then theres the drugs. he had no shame in telling me how he spent £500 in one night and he was boasting about it:eek:

I dont work and Im on income support therefor wont get anything from the CSA but I am seriously considering reporting him. I dont like the fact he comes into my sons life promising his changed and promising his going to be a dad to my son and then !!!!s off when he cant get his own way!!! Why the hell would i want to get back with him after everything he has done and put us through???

He always gets away with things and breaks the law but nothing ever gets done about it and its like his mr untouchable. Why???? :mad:

week

Diamond78 wrote: »

Morning All,
Hope everyone is good and feeling well. Im soooo tired,thank god its friday!!Was nearly late taking my son school, didnt wake up till 8.05 and im watching tv aswell. Its what I do all the time.

Im a bit angry today with my sons dad(spermdonor). he gave me a lot of abuse and grief last week over the phone and he was nasty to my son. He is refusing to pay any money towards my son and he wont give my sons car seat back which i paid for. He does this every year!!! He sees my son for a while, it never lasts more than 2 months and as soon as he realises I wont have him back he switches. The thing is, he knows I wont takr so much crap from him anymore. I must admit, I do worry he will turn up as he has a drug and drink problem and thats when he gets more violent. But im not as scared. he is on his last chance with the police.

All these years I have not been CSA as he has threatend me, also says that If I go csa, he will stop working and leave the country and therefor his 2 other daughters wont get no money as they get money from him every month without a fail. Either b4 xmas or my sons birthday without a fail he will stop all contact and then go round and tell every1 its me whos stopped the contact. My son is old enough now to realise what his doing and is messing with my sons head. He promised my son an xbox360 but he wont be getting that.He has a well paid job, wears only designer clothes, goes abroad for expensive golfing holidays, goes on long drinking sessions and then theres the drugs. he had no shame in telling me how he spent £500 in one night and he was boasting about it:eek:

I dont work and Im on income support therefor wont get anything from the CSA but I am seriously considering reporting him. I dont like the fact he comes into my sons life promising his changed and promising his going to be a dad to my son and then !!!!s off when he cant get his own way!!! Why the hell would i want to get back with him after everything he has done and put us through???

He always gets away with things and breaks the law but nothing ever gets done about it and its like his mr untouchable. Why???? :mad:

Hi

Are the CSA not on your case re the father of your son? They usually are if you are on benefits. I was in a similar situation in that I didnt want to name him as I was on benefits. When my daughter was about 10 they contacted me and said my benefit might be affected if I didnt co-operate. Yet another birthday/christmas had been ignored and I was angry so I though "what the hell" and put his name and address down and sent the forms back.
He phoned raging and threatened to leave his job etc, said we could work something out and I said get lost!
He forced DNA testing on us and eventually he had to pay.
As far as I know you now get about £10 a week from the DSS from what they pay, and one day you will be back at work and you keep it all even if you only work part time.
If he was going to leave his job he would have done it already as he pays for his other children. Even if he loses his job, he will no doubt get another. Your son is 5 or 6? so you have 10 years plus in front of you for CSA help. I took delight in my D's dad "having" to remember her when he got his pay
packet every month!

Diamond78

week wrote: »

Hi

Are the CSA not on your case re the father of your son? They usually are if you are on benefits. I was in a similar situation in that I didnt want to name him as I was on benefits. When my daughter was about 10 they contacted me and said my benefit might be affected if I didnt co-operate. Yet another birthday/christmas had been ignored and I was angry so I though "what the hell" and put his name and address down and sent the forms back.
He phoned raging and threatened to leave his job etc, said we could work something out and I said get lost!
He forced DNA testing on us and eventually he had to pay.
As far as I know you now get about £10 a week from the DSS from what they pay, and one day you will be back at work and you keep it all even if you only work part time.
If he was going to leave his job he would have done it already as he pays for his other children. Even if he loses his job, he will no doubt get another. Your son is 5 or 6? so you have 10 years plus in front of you for CSA help. I took delight in my D's dad "having" to remember her when he got his pay
packet every month!

Hey,
Thanks for the info. The reason the CSA or benefit ppl havent contacted him is coz of the domestic violence I had been through. I had lots of crime ref no's to support my case aswell as injunctions and court orders. His 1st wife went to the csa and she gets app £80 a week out his salary.She was clever and done it all through the courts. He is so nasty that he doesnt want his daughter to go college so he no longer has to pay:mad: How bad is that??But she will hopefully carry on education, shes 15 now.

The 2nd daughter's mother has some kind of hold over him, she gets money every payday of his and she use to get £100 every 4weeks.It's probaly gone up now and that daughter is 10years old. he has never stopped her payments as its cash in hand, she works cash in hand,rents rooms out in her place so she is ok for money.

I have had enough of him doing this to my son. Its like I have to be with him in order to get money for my son.

Isnt it about time he suffered the consequences??? He is the main reason my depression is so bad, what he has done to me over the years, the mental abuse he has put me through is a lot worse than the actual violence I have been through.

More for him if he leaves his well paid job, he pays to morgage as he lives with his brother now, he doesntpay road tax and all that as he drives his brothers car and he has no driving licence??I have reported him before but his never got caught red handed. Him taking drugs put ppl's lives at risk with the job he does and i informed his employers a few years back but him being a union rep at the time, he got something over the net that cleared his system and it didnt show the drugs.Now he makes sure when he does take it he has a few days off after and also has this stuff that he got over the net.He is smart and very clever.

My son will be 6 yes. Aswell as spiteing me he is also spiteing my son and its not on. He sees his other daughters now and again and spermdonors parents house. He has always played everyone against each other so contact has been pretty bad. But Im making the effort and his parents are slowly realising just what a liar he is.

Its so sunny outside, wish there was somewhere to go.

week

I need to go out with the dogs, they are crying at me! But I will be back later and hope to continue this conversation.
K. xx

dawnylou

meyore wrote: »

I went to work and it wasn't at all bad. Thankyou for thinking of me though it means a lot.

I saw all the horrible posts and I don't think you look bad at all-the people were just being nasty, and the fact they deleted their posts just proves it.

Hope your day got better.

Xx

Oh I am sooo glad it went alright for you!

My day did get a bit better - Fiance came home from work early - nearly poo'd my pants as he sneaked in the back!!!
I made us a home made hot choc yummy, but sickened myself!

Miroslav

weegie.geek wrote: »

If you were to seek out a bunch of people in real life who all had experience with depression like we do I'm sure they'd be just as accepting.

You'd be surprised. Some of the 'depressed' people I have met, have also been the least accepting.

Just ask my last 'love interest' - okay, she was a bit more than depressed, but I find alot of depressed people caring only about themselves. Not that I blame them, as it's probably lack of care and affection that has helped them along the road they have been on.

week

Miroslav wrote: »

You can be more open here, without giving out your address or anything.

Real life would be easier if it was like this, but people aren't as accepting in real life

Depression is not hereditary. I suspect he is depressed for a variety of things. Is this the one who gets into scrapes at school? Maybe it's to do with that?

While"depression" might not be hereditary mental illness can be (IE clinical depression, bi polar, schizophrenia etc.). I have inherited BP(or manic depression as it used to be called) from my father and all of my brothers have mental health issues but I am the worst! My Psychiatrist has confirmed my daughter might develop problems also.

K.

Miroslav

Diamond78 wrote: »

Poor Britney Spears, not a lot of ppl are being nice to her so Im glad she isnt getting stick on this thread.Is it any wonder she is suffering the way she is???Majority of ppl that have been in her life have used and abused her in different ways,she has hardly had no love and when your in the public eye and have loads of money in celebrity world its fashion and cool to do drugs even tough they know its wrong. She has got so much stick and such awful pressure from the press. !!!!!!!s they hounded her so badly when she was in the car in the middle of the road, if i was in her situation Id be the same.

I wish i could help her, same as Amy Winehouse. Yes they are adults, yes they know from right to wrong but everyone is in their face 24/7. You can never trust anyone as they secretly film you then quickly run to the papers selling the stories. No wonder Amy went the way she did, she lost her husband to prison, he is the love of her life, we have all made mistakes.

I hope and pray that they get better soon and get lots of love and care from genuine ppl.

I will never be famous and never want to be. I never want my son to be in the public eye coz ppl are evil cruel and vicious.

Im glad we are all nice on here, atleast we care about each other even though we dont know each other.

see ive gone on and on again, well atleast ive made u sleepy now

nite nite all xxxxxxxx

Britney is my 'hero' so she won't get any stick here or i'll hunt the people responsible down :rotfl:

Under all that persona, I just know she's adoreable and will be for as long as she holds on. I don't think she's ever had any real love and affection and she'll continue to be used, abused and have people clinging on to her. I'll exclude her little sister from that, but they aren't as close now since all this started happening. Even her little sister has said she doesn't want to be around her mother anymore. I just wish I could reach her somehow, so Britney, if you read MSE, PM me :rotfl:

Sadly, I think the press will do the same as they did to Princess Diana, and kill her off. I can't believe the guy who has been trying to sell videos of Britney breaking down was at the hospital with her Mother last week. Just shows you how evil her mother is.

I know little of Amy Winehouse, but it's the same thing in theory.

Being famous isn't worth your privacy and would never want to be famous.

Talking about Britney will never send me asleep - it just wakes me up :rotfl:

Hope you are well today :T

BigMummaF

Hey Gang...apologies if I ramble...I'm having a bit of trouble joining the dots today, so me thinkings are waaaaay more curly than usual:o

Miro...had a similar conversation the other day....if you had something physical to show your pain, people would be understanding. It's very true that this illness has to be experienced first-hand to fully know how debilitating it can be. Then again, we are our own worst enemies because we play along with the "Oh not too bad...jogging along" front when folk ask how we are. I think it stems from those times when you bump into a person & say "hey! How are you?" as you do, & then immediately regret asking cuz they go into every minute & graphic detail of their latest ills:p We know we don't want to be like that cuz folk are not that concerned, so we go too far the other way....Does any of that make sense? I hope so....

Tiff!..how was your night at the thay-etta daaaaling.......soooooo onveeus daaaaling, that you should be involved with a principle in the companeeee....hauw sooooopa!

How are you getting up to Scotland Tulip? Hope you've packed plenty of your favourite t-bags, cuz they are a foreign country y'know:D Aww..have a lovely time won't you, & bag a haggis for me if you go a-hunting;)

:angry:Now I've forgotten:huh: what else I wanted to say......:mad: ........ :think: ...... :whistle:......nope! It's gone! Ah well, there's always next time.....

Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Miroslav

shazrobo wrote: »

they both tend to get into a lot of scrapes at school, but daniel is tougher physically, josh seems to be the one who puts up with it, and very rarely fights back, he longs for friends, and tries to fit in, but the others at his school are awful, they bully him, and get up to alsorts, which luckily he dosent want to get involved in

Hopefully things will change, as things rarely stay the same.

At least he is of strong enough character not to be dragged into bad things, which is a good trait to have.