Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:j
Here's an excerpt from a post reply to gilly badger which I did before I went away on convalescence.....

12-06-2007, 6:43 AM #714
Tiff
QUOTE:
Hi gilly!:hello:
How's you hun?.......

.......This humidity is awful!!! I want snow!!!
If you make plans to cut the grass hun, it'll pour with rain and maybe clear the air a little. Rain is forecast here in the belly button of the country! See guys - I told you! It's working up to be the first monsoon season ever recorded in Yorkshire just because I'll be up there a week tomorrow! (in theory!) /QUOTE

At last - solid evidence that the Tiffster is psychic! :j

Or to blame, depending on your viewpoint.:o Shoulda kept my muzzle shut!:rolleyes:

I think I prefer the former reason - now where's that lottery ticket...
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Tiff, It's lovely to hear from you. I'm so glad you've managed to get your Mum the extra care and support that she needs. She's so lucky to have such a caring daughter as you Tiff. I do hope that you're looking after yourself as well. Sending (((HUGS))) your way.

Have they started your Mum on new medication to help with the pain?

:rotfl: @ your son. Don't you just love 'em Bless him. I hope he's enjoying the dance classes Sounds like a lot of fun. What kind of dance is it?

Look after yourself Tiff. Thinking of you xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

slowlyfading wrote: »

Thanks! It was good thanks, though i got really sunburnt on the last day which was painful how are you? x

I'm glad to hear that you had a lovely time What did you do while on holiday? Awww hae you put anything on the sunburn? In the past I've found aloe vera gel to be very soothing.

I am OK thank you.

xxx

slowlyfading

razorbladekisses wrote: »

I'm glad to hear that you had a lovely time What did you do while on holiday? Awww hae you put anything on the sunburn? In the past I've found aloe vera gel to be very soothing.

I am OK thank you.

xxx

aftersun all the way just did the general - sunbathing and tourist-y things! x x

BigMummaF

Bicarb of soda is good for things like sunburn & itchy rashes-just put it in your not too hot bathwater.....excellent for kiddies with chickenpox & stinging nettle patches.

Don't you just love having to chase all these "professional" agencies around to get them to do what they have already said they would? Tiff, I feel for you & am sending positive thoughts to help shore up the barracades for the next attack.

To those who have succumbed to the wet stuff, I salute you! On the news this morning, they were discussing the water treatment plant that was out of action & people unable to flush the loo...I'm retching at the very idea of not having a flushing loo-it's the only thing on my list of 'must have on a desert island'!

Hope you all have a good night...Peaceful Minds. BMFx

Tiff_2

Good morning my little enchiladas!:hello:
Hoping we're all safe and sound this morning?

I've noticed that some of the usual suspects seem to be missing in action.:think:
Now this may be down to:
a) the flooding
b) away on summer holidays :cool:
c) they're feeling better :j
d)escaped because sazzy left the door open at her smartie party.;)

So to ethel, elona, gem, bunnie, sazzy, pumpkin, blinky, gilly, cb2, sandymoggs, csh, happy, goldie, flis, rbk, miro, karrie, rose, beer, mac, qb, stenny, sf, ltd, lrs, ltf, andi, katie, bmf et al, I'm sending you all Tiffy hugs, missing or not!

Right guys, I guess I'd better get back to page 25 and start catching up properly and then there's pms to reply to also. :rolleyes:

Btw, I don't want to jinx it but we've got sunshine in my part of Warwickshire this morning!:j Have a dry and happy day everyone.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi happy!:hello:
How are you angel?

quote=happysinglemum
Miroslav - I'm fairly new here, but from what posts I've read you seem lovely! I can't speak for everyone, obviously, only from personal experience, but for me looks are a tiny part of my attraction to someone (and from what I've read, you have no problems with looks anyway)!
I agree hun. Sadly, we all get old and gain wrinkles and infirmities and if you've stayed with someone for their looks alone, you've got a lot of unhappy years ahead.;)

As for money, my ex husband had a well-paid job when we were married, and even bought me a car to apologise for being unfaithful! :eek: I gave it back to him and left anyway. I moved to a smaller house, with only a part time job and my son to bring up. imho I'm better off poor and happy than rich and unhappy. So no, money doesn't come into it at all for me (and I'm sure I'm not alone there either).
Well done on being so strong hun!:T You must be really proud of what you achieved and I know it wasn't easy. You just can't buy peace of mind and what you did hun, though as hard as it must have gotten at times, was you set yourself free.;)

Again, from personal experience, 'saving someone' won't build a strong relationship. My ex-husband's sister committed suicide a year before I met him, and when we met, I was having suicidal thoughts. He wanted to 'save' me because he hadn't been able to help his sister. He did such a good job of re-building my self-esteem that I was 'no longer the woman he'd married' and he was unfaithful with a young girl who also needed 'saving'.
This is a sad story hun, but also one with many sides.

I thought of how awful it must have been for him to have his sister take her own life and how much he was suffering as you say. It underlines the fact that suicide takes away more than one person's life.:o

I thought of you and how you were suffering so badly that you wanted to leave this world and could see no way out. You must have been so tormented angel.

I thought about how he tried to save you, which was indeed a noble act, and thank God that he did! But you re-built yourself angel, no matter how much he did.

I thought of all the pain you've been through angel, to have the dream turn to a nightmare. There's never a good reason to do what he did and it'll be up to him to recognize one day that maybe, he needs some counselling and help.
But what a survivor you are!:T You didn't compromise your own happiness for the sake of his. You've made a life on your own terms and that takes strength.;)

Obviously, since then I've been trying to re-build my self-esteem by myself. It's been 5 years since we split up, and I've had one 6 week relationship since then (which ended about 2 months ago).
Again, more evidence that relationships will come, when you're ready and not before, but they will come. A message of hope. I don't consider how long this new relationship lasted - rather that we are able to make new ones whenever the time is right.

Please don't give up on love miro. It will come to you when you're ready hun. You seem to be such a warm and caring person from your posts - any girl would be lucky to have you as her bf.:D
Take care.
xx/quote
Well said angel.:T It was touching to read your story happy and thank you for sharing - it reminds crusty ol' Tiffs like me that, one day, there may be a Mr.Tiff! :rolleyes:
*sounds of hundreds of mse men running!*:rotfl:

I think that what you said to miro was lovely hun - and I think it equally applies to you! You deserve your happiness.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi miro!:hello:
How's things with you hun?

quote=Miroslav;:wave:
Well, i'm no Brad Pitt. I don't think I am anything special. I do get some attention sometimes, but my flatmate says i'd get more if I didn't look like someone who'd bite someone's head off as when i'm out, i'm always prepared for battle so don't smile
Lol.
And, when you're ready, you can change that angel. It's natural to be on the defensive when you've had a rough time - it's a way of protecting yourself so you don't get hurt again. When the time is right, you'll balance everything out angel. It's amazing just how much we give away with our body language - I probably look like a fluffy rottweiller!:D

...Poor and happy is much better. I just have to find a nice young lady who accepts that I just have bad experiences and I should hate women, but I don't, just certain personalities. I have high standards because of my partner who passed away. Certain standards such as a good caring personality and the ability to make me laugh!
Omg, miro hun!:j
You just said the most positive and helpful things that anyone could say to you to try and help you - and you said them to yourself!:T Cut this bit out and post it over your mirror to remind yourself when you're really low.;)

I'm not sure I could turn down someone who needed saving again. I wouldn't want to let her down, whoever she was, when in reality, I know I shouldn't get involved. I see your situation though, and sorry it happened
I know your intentions are honourable angel, but dating someone who is so distressed like that, is not likely to be a
person ready, or able, to start a relationship. By all means, I think we should help where we can, but make sure that you don't make yourself too vulnerable.
Yes people do help each other through hard times, but if we start falling for someone who's broken down and who are not their true selves because we can identify the pain they have, we may be setting ourselves up for more heartache, especially if we're not quite ready.

The only relationships i've had since my partner and daughter passed away
was 15-18 months (last 3 months she'd moved out but were still seeing each other) and 'S' for 3 months at the end of the last year. Not alot in 15 years
It's no competition angel. It takes however long it takes hun.;)
You say it's not a lot in 15 years, but it shows you the possibilities miro - some people give up on the idea altogether. When you had these relationships, I bet you could never see yourself having another relationship after all you'd been through - and you were wrong.;)
Like it or not miro, you are a little stud muffin!:D :T

I just don't think many females wants caring,
wrong
they want money, looks and status.
not all of us
I have no money,
don't care
my looks I don't think are anything,
others do
I am unemployed,
you're not the only one
I don't drive
makes you environmentally friendly to date!
and one or two things physical I need sorting out
I won't show you my list.
and I can't do that on my own as going to GP is scary when it's your body that isn't right and then operations on my own :eek:
Make that appt sweetheart - whatever it is is not going to just disappear. Get it over with so you can get on with life without having to worry about your physical health. All you have to do is be honest about your fears with your dr hun.

Anyway, I have hope, just very little.
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And that's all you need sweetheart.

Thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today going out later to a club for some of the afternoon Its sunny down here in Devon


chat to you all later ,


love and light,

Katie xxx

imported_goldie

Its great to see your posts again Tiff, are you SURE you're not a professional counsellor? You could make a fortune if you went into private practice. None of the doctors i have ever seen re my depression have actually said anything half as insightful as you. Your advice to everyone really is spot on along with such a great sense of humour - your last few posts with the cat pictures actually made me smile (which i have not been doing a lot of lately!!) Hope all is well with your mum?

Hope everyone is coping well and enjoying a dry day. (no am not referring to alcohol!!)