Depression Support Thread

Horace

queensway_boy wrote: »

still got man flu,had the paramedics out


http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=rXLHWmjA5IE


:rotfl:

Thanks for making me laugh - Man Flu...heh! I shall show this to my OH when he comes home from skiing, he was moaning yesterday that he wasnt feeling well (must be Man Flu:rotfl: ).

Hope you are feeling better now?

meyore

Hi all I hope you're all doing ok today?

Had to work all day today, usually I only work a part day on Tuesdays, but its all extra money and its better than sitting at home alone while OH is away. My foot hurt loads by the end of the day because I was working on the shop so had to stand up all day, and I was getting really grumpy with the customers by the end of it... I get irritated working out there because the shop staff are so messy and disorganised, I spend the whole time tidying up after them because I can't work like that.

I had my Cardio tone class after work tonight and it was hard going, but I enjoyed it. I'm going to push extra hard this month and lose some weight, which will give me incentive to carry on. I was going to buy a diary to keep track of exactly what I was doing, but I couldn't decide if that was obsessive so I left it... I think I will get one though.

Watching Holby now and relaxing, hoping OH rings soon.

Xx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Tulip I hope your appointment with the psychologist went well. I expect you're feeling quite drained/tired. (((HUGS)))

gario900 :hello: I haven't spoken to you before so thought I'd say Hi

dawnylou It's a shame that if you want to see someone different you have to go back on the waiting list. It doesn't seem fair because surely they realise it's important that you and the counsellor get on well. Anyway, if it means waiting up to a year I would continue your counselling sessions with the same counsellor. Maybe things will get better. It sounds as though you do really need the support right now.

Please don't feel bad about not knowing what's going on with others. It really doesn't matter. I'm sure everyone understands that you're having a tough time right now.

Big (((HUGS)))

shazrobo Oh hun, your ex sounds like a nasty piece of work. He has no right to make you feel this way. If you happen to speak to him on the phone again, try to remain calm and say something like 'I'm not speaking to you while you're talking to me in this manner and put the phone down. I'm sure you would feel good in yourself for standing up to him and not letting him upset you.

How is your arm now? Have you cleaned and dressed it?

Bunnie1982 I'm sorry to hear that you're having a tough time right now. Many people don't understand self-harm and it must be hard for your husband to see the person he loves with self-inflicted cuts. He probably has no idea what to say or do in order to help you. Have you tried talking to him about it and suggested ways he could help?

I hope you manage to sort things out with your friend.

If you are feeling suicidal please seek help. Does your CMHT have a crisis team? If not please go to your GP or A&E (there is always a duty psychiatrist on-call).

(((HUGS)))

learning_to_drive :hello: How are you?

Well I went to see my GP today. He said my cuts are very deep and will scar a lot. I have so many it looks horrible. It really hurts to move my arm for some odd reason He cleaned and used steri-strips on 2 of the cuts. He seemed at a loss as what to do with me. He's told me to go back and see him next week to see if I'm still self-harming a lot and then we will talk about what to do next. Probably refer me back to my psychiatrist.

meyore

rose07 wrote: »

I dont know if i am ok, havin a yoyo effect, up and down.

I havent been around much so im sure youve not missed a thing hun

Im just feelin low, not felt this way in a while, had a good time in scotland, got back yesterday, and went back to work today, with people even saying they missed me. I have that feelin of that i cant go on tho. and im confused . coz i felt fine, and then suddenly today, after work i just hit rock bottom again. I also got some news at new year that i wasnt prepared for, kinda hit me for six, but then i think why complain, there are soo many people worse of than myself, least i got a roof over my head, and somewhere to sleep each night and friends and family around me, i mean there are kids dying of luekemia, etc.. and i feel i shudnt complain ya know? god im soo confussed , not a 1st :rotfl:

are u ok?

xx

I'm ok rose thanks. Think I've broken a toe and I seem to have put on a load of weight, but nothing that I can't fix... Emotions are ok at the moment, hopefully it will last.

There may be people worse off, like you say, but it doesn't make your problems any less important. Being confused is ok too, I often feel that way! I'm sorry you're feeling so low, I hope you find things get better soon. And I'm here to chat if you want to.

Xx

BizzyBek

Shaz - I think it was Stephen Fry who wanted to put phones in room 101 because they are basically rude. It is basically a sound going 'talk to me now, talk to me now'. And that twigged with me.

There is no law that says I have to answer the phone. It is MY phone and I choose when to communicate on it. If the ex phones, does the number show because if so just press disconnect. He can ring but he doesn't dictate whether you answer it.

I have the same feeling about the front door. When we get cold callers if I don't want to answer I don't and people with me say but they can see you through the window and I say, so what! My door. I choose when I do and don't answer it!

meyore

razorbladekisses wrote: »

meyore :eek: that was a lot of driving! You must have been exhausted. How long is he away for?

It's lovely that you got to spend some time with your Dad.

Please don't let your anxiety/depression get any worse. See a Doctor ASAP and get the help/support that you need. Have you taken medication previously? The most important thing when you go for counselling is that you get on with them. If you explain to your Doctor that you didn't get on well with them perhaps he will be forced to rethink about refering you elsewhere.

Glad to hear that you're OH isn't at Deepcut.

Ouch! Your toe accident sounds painful. How is it today?

Yeah I live in Guildford in Surrey. I've not heard of Minely so I'm not sure if it's anywhere near me or not.

Sometimes when we start exercising we don't actually lose weight because we build up muscle. Please don't let it get to you too much. You seem determined so I'm sure you will get down to the weight you want to be soon

Do you watch what you eat as well as exercise?

You know what, you could always return the boots to the shop, get a refund. I guess it depends how much you want/need the boots. I hope they are nice boots for £80 :eek: Where did you buy them from?

Unfortunately my self-harming is pretty bad. I have an appointment with my Doctor tomorrow. I'm fairly sure some of the cuts are going to need stitches :eek: I'll let you know what happens.

GOODNIGHT ALL xxx

I was so tired, but it was worth it in the end.

You must be near(ish) where OH is because its the same post code... Its near Camberley or Blackwater if either of those places mean anything to you.

You can only get an appointment at my surgery if you ring up that morning, so its hard to get an appointment with the doctor who actually understands. My day off is Thursday, so I'm going to try and get an appointment then.

My mum gave me £50 towards the boots and said thats my birthday present, so I don't feel quite so bad now. They were from river island, so they're good quality and will last me ages. And they're pretty!

I've been going to exercise classes since March last year, so I'm unsure why I've put weight on. Its something else I'll ask the doctor about I guess. I haven't been over eating, but with Christmas, I didn't watch it that well...

How'd the doctors go? Hope you're doing ok and you've not had the urge to cut anymore today

Xx

shazrobo

hi rose, sorry your feelin down too hun, this yo yo of emotions is sooo confusing isn't it.
meyore, hope your foot better soon, does the exercise class help you feel happier, i'm asking cos i thinking of going to one, i know i could do with losing a stone but thats not a big enough incentive, but i did read somewhere that it can help with depression, so might be willing to give it a try.
rbk, my arms are ok, i cleaned them, but dont bother dressing them, they not proper cuts, more like deep scratches, once they've healed they shouldnt scar. am worried about your arms tho, they sound painfully sore, hope you can find the help you need to stop sh
thankyou everybody for your support this evening, i dont know where i would be without all you lovely people
big hugs
shaz x

meyore

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Well I went to see my GP today. He said my cuts are very deep and will scar a lot. I have so many it looks horrible. It really hurts to move my arm for some odd reason He cleaned and used steri-strips on 2 of the cuts. He seemed at a loss as what to do with me. He's told me to go back and see him next week to see if I'm still self-harming a lot and then we will talk about what to do next. Probably refer me back to my psychiatrist.

Sorry I just noticed you answered my question before I asked it... I'm glad you're taking care of yourself seeing the doctor

Xx

meyore

shazrobo wrote: »

hi rose, sorry your feelin down too hun, this yo yo of emotions is sooo confusing isn't it.
meyore, hope your foot better soon, does the exercise class help you feel happier, i'm asking cos i thinking of going to one, i know i could do with losing a stone but thats not a big enough incentive, but i did read somewhere that it can help with depression, so might be willing to give it a try.
rbk, my arms are ok, i cleaned them, but dont bother dressing them, they not proper cuts, more like deep scratches, once they've healed they shouldnt scar. am worried about your arms tho, they sound painfully sore, hope you can find the help you need to stop sh
thankyou everybody for your support this evening, i dont know where i would be without all you lovely people
big hugs
shaz x

Hope you're feeling a bit better now. You know you're so much better off without him, its clear when you post that whenever hes around its not doing you good.

I find I never want to go to the classes before, but after I feel great-apparently its the adrenaline. I think its a sense of achievement too. My favourite class is tae bo, its fun. I'd suggest finding a friend to go with, at least at the beginning, because it can be pretty daunting at first if you're alone.

Xx

dawnylou

feelinggood wrote: »

Just wanted to offer you a hug Dawnylou. I find it really hard to hear you being down, you are such a lovely person and I wish I could find some peice of advice that I could offer you that would give you a little bit of hope. I remember how hopeless I felt not so long ago - I was convinced that everyone else was going to get better and I was just going to keep spiralling down and down and down. I wish there was a way that I could explain that although things feel so awful right now, it will get better. Sadly we have to go through a lot of pain to get better. I'm not seeing any professionals now, but I do see my sponsor regularly. We have to work through a lot of the rubbish in my head. I also have to look at myself as I am, and a lot of the time its really, really upsetting. Got to be done though, and it will make me better. When I was in your situation, I just kept plodding along. I did my best to get out of bed, wash, dress and get outside every day. I also made a big effort to control my eating and drinking. I also set small goals - vacuum, wash up, go the dentist etc. By focusing on these small things every day, it helped the time to pass.

Another thing that helps is this reading we have in AA called 'Just for today'

• Just for Today I will try to live through this day only and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that appals me for I do not have to keep it up for a lifetime.
• Just for Today I will be happy. Most folks are as happy as they make up their mind to be.
• Just for Today I will adjust myself to what is and not adjust everything to my own ideas. I will take my ‘luck’ as it comes and fit myself to it.
• Just for Today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something which requires effort, thought and concentration.
• Just for Today I will exercise my soul in three ways. I will do somebody a good turn without letting them know of it. If they find out it will not count. I will do at least two things I do not want to do just for exercise. I will not show my feelings are hurt. They may be hurt but I will not show it.
• Just for Today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low, act courteously, criticise not one bit, not find fault with anyone and not try to regulate or improve anyone except myself.
• Just for Today I will have a programme. I may not keep to it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from those two pests - hurry and indecision.
• Just for Today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. During this time, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.
• Just for Today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

Aw thanks

The Just For Today thing sounds so hard though.

shazrobo wrote: »

ended up phoning my dad, who came and sat with me for an hour til i calmed down a bit. hate upsetting my parents and putting them to any trouble.
just do not understand how somebody can say they love me, then treat me that way, guess i'll never know.
my arms are ok dawnylou, just scratches really i dont cut too deep. sorry your feeling down today, hope the new meds work soon.
thanks for offers of sim cards guys i would love one please. mine had an offer on it whereby every month i top up, i got 300 free texts, dont know if they still do them? i would gladly send a cheque to cover costs
thanks
big hugs
shaz x

I'm glad to hear your arms are ok. At least you felt able to call your Dad though, that's good
I really hope they do too!
You know when it has so many mg - well what is the mg exactly? Is that the stregth of the drug itself??